Four events this week at school during working hours…

[Breakfromschoolrequestsplease]

…followed by an email “have a great half term…here’s some homework plus a half term project”…and no doubt another virus.

Rough? You were 20% under.

Now I know you’re taking the piss 🤣🤣 your comments have to be a wind up!
my mum waited 12 weeks to see a GP… imagine if he cancelled a couple of days before because his kids school sent out an email at the least minute inviting him to a teddy bears picnic!
No one chooses to work above their child, but I’m not sure you’re aware, houses, bills, food etc don’t pay for themself!… not everyone can afford for only one parent to work, and lots of jobs don’t let staff book last minute time off.
Have to say when my parents were at school they never ever had anything where their parents were invited into school (and that was when most women were SAHM’s)
When I was at school we had parents evening once a year after school & maybe a school play at Christmas… that was it!
Nowadays schools do so much, and it is a lot.. I was a SAHM and attended it all, but most of my friends couldn’t and it’s sad for the kids.

Why??
because men’s work is more important??

Think the point of the thread is about notice… my DD’s primary schools often sent out emails on a Friday afternoon saying ‘we are hosting XYZ on Wednesday next week’ … it’s far too short notice for most working parents, Given requests for time off won’t be seen until the Monday, then it’s only granted if no one else if off !

You are out to nit pick. The current figure does not reflect the past 8 years.

It's not nit picking - it's a large discrepancy. Anyway, I thought you had finished with this thread and were going to spend your weekend with your children?

I wasn’t actually. People can’t cope with different opinions.

We have a regular GP, but also several others we’ve seen at the practice. I would not mind if we saw an alternative one so the usual one could attend an event at their own child's school.

I have had professionals cancel or reschedule other appointments with me due to needing to take their own child to an appointment. I didn’t mind, I can wait. I respect the fact they were open and honest about their own child needing them.

I have also told our hairdresser, who visits us at home, that she is welcome to bring her two children with her to ours if she ever needs to, now her own parents are becoming more unwell.

I do not agree with anyone who is employed having to hide the fact they have children, or act like there are never times they need them.

As I’ve said before, people on here can’t cope with a happy housewife, and keep commenting on my comments. I am not a liar, and I will absolutely retaliate.

And you can’t cope with successful career women having a happy family life whose children have benefited greatly.

DH would have never cancelled his GP surgery to attend a school event which wasn’t necessary. Once we moved DT’s into the private sector we both went to all events as they were at the weekend and were family based activities and had some value.

Arguing with a bunch of strangers on MN for 3 days is more important than playing with your children?

Check your privilege.

Approaching 40 years ago, I was able to be a SAHM. it was tough financially, but doable to prioritise my children.

My daughter simply does not have that option. She and her DH have jobs at the same kind of salary level as we had, but it's nowhere near enough now, to pay a mortgage and expenses for a house that's actually smaller than the one we had.

Not everyone can be a SAHM however much they want to be.

Not everyone wants to be a SAHM - you can have a career and be a great parent.

So you actually made some huge adjustments and found a way to attend their events, sounds great!

We didn’t make huge adjustments. We moved them to a private school which provided the type of education we wanted for them which couldn’t be offered at a state school and that school held their events involving parents at the weekend.

You definitely have- that’s a good thing! You’ve invested time researching and changing school, money paying for a private education, and sacrificing more of your own discretionary time to attend weekend events. You should do more posts like this, they read much better and it’s great to hear you speaking up more about how much you clearly value being a mum.

Why would you doubt this? That poster, like many on here, have explained to you repeatedly that working parents value their role as parents as much as wahp do - they also happen to value other roles they hold too. I'm surprised you only seem to have just grasped this.

Of course. But I was specifically addressing that poster's smugness.

Agree - moving DT’s school was a normal parenting decision. One of many decisions you make as parents.

The poster is incredibly smug - being a SAHM is apparently the only way to be a good parent. A working mother is very neglectful and isn’t putting your children first.

I mean, speaking as a teacher here, you do realise those are also our working hours right?

Loads of teachers on here say their schools do give time off for important school events. Teachers don't seem to realise with limited annual leave and school holidays and inset days, it's already a major struggle to have enough leave, without booking lots of random days of annual leave for school events. I have to give a month's notice for annual leave as well. Any less notice and requests are blanket refused.

But surely, if the school don't get a reply on one number, they should try the other parent? Not continue calling the non-responsive one? That is just stupid.

Why do so many schools call the mother first even when the father is listed as the priority number?
They assume the mother is sat at home rather than working not necessarily locally?

It’s not just schools. For various reasons, my husband takes the children to their hospital, dentist and orthodontist appointments. He books them, takes them, does the follow up. However if they have a question or want to reschedule, they always ring me. The last one was the orthodontist who had forgotten to ask the name of the children’s dentist and rang me. She was surprised when I had no idea (I go to a different dentist) and said I would need to email this info through in an hour or so (because I was in an online meeting).