Blonde hair favouritism?

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Are blonde haired, blue eyed, white girls still favoured?

I’ve noticed lately that the girls in my youngest sons school with the ‘halo’ effect are still blatantly favoured weather unconsciously or not. They seem to be the ones who have ‘star of the day’ way more than any other group of children. Today a picture of five girls was posted on the class dojo for their brilliant writing and they were all blonde, blue eyed and white surely that’s not just coincidence?

my son was the only one to do the ‘optional’ homework the prize was to read their work to the whole of assembly. He knew today nobody else had done it so was super excited he would ‘win’ only to be told as only one person has entered the class would write their own piece during English and then the class would vote, the blonde haired blue eyed white girl won again! I don’t know if I’m just looking for something as I’m annoyed on behalf of my son or what, does this happen in all schools?

There’s lots of other things I’ve noticed but that’s just a snap shot, is there still a bias towards these children? I’m just interested not wanting to annoy anyone or anything.

And the reason so many adult women dye their hair blonde.

DD1 very tall very blonde with blue eyes. Yes at school she got angel roles and Aphrodite.

Dd2 also blonde but it’s a warmer shade average height, green eyes. But has SEN caste as sheep or star. Had her school work on the wall but hidden behind the door (I noticed) Blonde hair didn’t get her better treatment.

DD2 had long, curly, blonde ringlets as a child and was the poster child for Beavers, Brownies and school. DD1, who was dark, with straight hair, wasn’t.

Oh the blonde hair blue eyes thing is definitely still a thing. Both my (brunette and mixed race) daughters desperately wanted to be blonde when they were little. And even on Mumsnet I have often seen posters use 'blonde and blue-eyed' to denote 'beautiful child'.

In many women it's to hide grey hair, blonde blends much better. I am blonde and blue eyed, spent most of my teens, 20s and 30s as a brunette but had to give up and go light again due to regrowth looking awful.

I think this might just be a problem in your particular school. I have a blonde haired blue eyed daughter and despite all parents evenings being positive with teachers saying she works hard and behaves well in class, she rarely receives the class medal, so I wouldn’t say she’s particularly favoured.

Although I will say her looks are often commented on outside of school, mainly her long blonde hair!

I think its a bit harsh on the girls who have won the prizes to assume its because they're blue eyed blondes rather than because their work merited it. That attitude tends to follow women who are considered conventionally attractive through their lives with people quick to credit their appearance for their advancement rather than their abilities. Which isn't great.
Anything the school is doing that you think disadvantages your son unfairly should be raised of course.

Weather/whether. You won’t be winning the spelling prize whatever your complexion.

I'm brown eyed and naturally "wild rodent". I was never the perfect pupil but did very well as a grown up (with highlights ). Funnily enough most of the.super.duper Joan Hunter-Dunn types who flew at school, flopped as grown ups. The blondes tended to go mousey/brown.

Perhaps not being top at school builds resilience and grit rather than entitlement.

DD was a funny looking tiny but grew into a swan. She didn't carry home any prizes but dug in her toes and brought me home a first from Cambridge. Naturally blonde, blue eyed and chuffing beautiful at 28. Didn't wow at 8, except me.

I don't think that can be statistically true as natural blondes are quite rare. I certainly know it's not true where I live.

I think there is favouritism towards blonde hair and blue eyes and girls in general. My eldest has very dark eyes and hair and is a boy, and he was treated differently to how my second is (girl, blonde, blue eyes).

It’s SEN kids or those who present challenging behaviour here who get all the public praise, kids who just get on with it are seriously overlooked. I understand why any positive behaviour in a troubled child should be celebrated but it’s so disheartened for kids who are consistently well behaved to be ignored. I’ve got 3 kids in primary so spend a lot of time in special assemblies and I’ve not noticed a gender, race, hair colour bias. Our school does do a girl star and a boy star each week though which might be to deliberately banish teachers unconscious gender bias.

But surely lots of white kids are blonde in the early years of primary? DS was white blonde and blue eyed till he was about seven (still blue-eyed at 14), as was I, but so were about half his class!

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