Has anyone else completely lost the desire to go on holiday?

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When I was young I travelled a lot. First with my parents, then as a young adult. I travelled far and wide, to the USA in one direction and the far east in the other. I loved it and lots of places inbetween. After I met and married DH and had kids we settled into the Mediterranean style 2 weeks in the sun style holidays and breaks in the U.K.

we're now in our 60s, been retired for some years and just gone completely off holidaying, home or abroad. We think about the hassle at airports, the crowds in the cities at both home and abroad. The rain and general bad weather in the U.K.

We are away right now in England and it rained a lot of the day yesterday so we only went out for a couple of hours, did a museum and a cafe at a seaside resort, returned to our lodge and just sat and read. It was quite boring. Infact we are returning home today, a day earlier than planned.

Discussing it last night we realised we’ve both lost the desire to holiday, we miss having our stuff around us particularly as all our hobbies are quite creative. ( can’t exactly take a piano on holiday)

Have others reached this point where they just have no desire to holiday any more. Am I abnormal? Just curious if others have come to this conclusion or have opinions on this?

I am mid 50s and love holidays though don't go to cities / anywhere crowded but that still leaves most of the world and love seeing wildlife / rainforest / remote places. Tend to go to adults only hotels if there's an option to do that now kids are grown up. Love flying though tend to get the set of 2 seats if there's that option.

I can't be bothered with going abroad but we have a touring caravan and go away loads in that and do a lot of walking

It's just annoying that the weather isn't reliable and getting to Scotland or parts of Wales takes longer than it does to get to Ibiza, Majorca or Nice for example.

I think that’s the biggie isn’t it , if your time is restricted I don’t ideally want 5 days drizzle out of 9 - I appreciate this summer has been warm and sunny but had one too many where I was in waterproofs gaving spent a fair old whack - if I had lots more time available and didn’t work, then it’s not such a big deal -

Georgia and Armenia are on my bucket list. Wish I’d gone years ago!

I completely understand how you feel. We also miss our hobbies!
however I do want to have a change of scenery so am considering train tours, organised coach tours, river cruises and organised walking holidays as I think I need more structure and socialisation now
older.
if I had a tardis I’d jump to the Maldives for a week by the beach with a few good books. That and not having to think about food or wearing proper clothes is my idea of a proper rest from the routine. I just don’t want a 12 hour flight to achieve it!

Understand where your coming from. Trouble is I love the beach and the sea and am a long way from a decent beach it's easier to go abroad .
If I don't go I miss out completely on those lovely feelings of walking along the beach, having a dip etc
They are nice moments, then lying on the sand. Having a meal or an ice cream overlooking the sea. I love the sea 😊

I haven't been abroad this year which is unusual . I don't know if I'm ready to give up the beach and the sea yet though. Not sure what I'm going to do?
I feel as if while I'm able and can afford it I should go.
One day when I'm.not able I might regret not
going when I could hmmmmm?

I think as you get older you worry more. You keep hearing things to lately about delays and flights being cancelled.
Having to queue with these new passport checks . People missing planes. People drinking on.planes and fights breaking out.

Can I be bothered? I got a new passport in January though, ten year one which I haven't used yet so maybe I should use it.

I never used to think about it just used to book and go and it's only lately I'm the last 18 months I've lost my enthusiasm 😲

I travel almost permanently for work … and I am planning to retire next year and never leave my house again! I can’t wait. I’ve never actually enjoyed travelling much. I miss my home comforts. My own bed is my happy place. I love cooking in my own kitchen. And hanging out with my friends. Maybe when I’ve been home for a few years I’ll get an urge to go and see something different … but I doubt it 😂

Perhaps he couldn't afford them but choose to say didn't believe in them instead.

Travelling on business is the pits. If I travelled as much as you for work, I'd also not want to leave my house again ever.

You must have a lot of airmiles to spend.

My DDs completely rinse my air miles 😂 I never use them! I do really love my job. It’s interesting, I get to meet and work with great people…I just wish I could do it from home.

I don't care if I never go on holiday again, in fact I haven't been on holiday anywhere for over 20 years. Even when I was young I was always counting down the sleeps until I could go home. If I did go away I know I would enjoy it, but I really don't want to.

Quite the opposite. I get wanderlust every few months and just about cope with my life in the UK knowing that I can escape now and again and go and be surrounded by other cultures/languages/customs. I have limited resources but usually manage to find good deals to small family friendly places on Jet2, or cobble together Ryanair flights and Airbnb holidays with my teens.

I love airports, love people watching, love flying, the whole shebang. My children are the same. They are teens and will go anywhere.

I find very very little pleasure in UK holidays as such. I like to go hill walking and our beaches, but the sameness and familiarity of the UK means it doesn't feel like a holiday for me. I like to be confronted with menus that I don't understand, try to speak a little bit of whatever language of the country we are visiting, go to foreign supermarkets, enjoy the different architecture etc...

I am 52.

I’m beginning to get bored with them too. Stuck with school holidays as a teacher so everywhere is overcrowded, expensive and full of twats posing for instagram.

One of my friends won't go on a plane or a cruise so she goes with her husband on train journeys. She's been all over the continent, due to go to Spain on one next month.

It's all accompanied, there's no arranging to do, excursions, nice hotels and all meals. It's quite expensive but anyone who either hates flying or cruising or just hates the hassle of actually getting somewhere, might really enjoy something like this.

She's probably done around seven or eight by now.

Reading this with great interest. I’m late 60s and travelled a lot right up to my mid 30s. And frankly it resonates with me when people say that was a better time to travel. It was less crowded, differently stressful, but airports were easy…not so homogenous. Went to Russia in the 90s, One McDonalds in Moscow, when I visited last 7 years ago they were everywhere.

I need my comforts now, so can’t do long distance bus journeys or the off the track travelling that takes you to unexpected places without being stiff for 2 days afterwards..

and there are ‘instagram twats’ everywhere.

I remember when you could just stroll into places that now you have to book and queue for.

went to Georgia last year and met so many people in their 70s doing round the world travelling in vans , through all the Stans, managing on their own. One couple had brought their dog! That piqued my interest again.

I reckon once I retire I’ll get my mojo back. Then it’ll be just wondering what to do with the dog…

I live in a safe beautiful but boring place…I need to make sure I get away more.

Outside Tbilisi I found tourism to still be fairly low key. Now is a great time to go.

That’s exactly how I feel too and I’m 64 - I’m lucky enough to live somewhere nice in the UK that people come to for trips so want somewhere different- be that Amsterdam or Greek islands or California and don’t want to be surrounded solely by Brits lapping up the Daily Mail every day and moaning about costs -

I get you, but I've found that I've gradually switched to a different type of holiday. I now enjoy cycle touring - at a pretty slow pace - with just what I can carry in one pannier. I usually start by train, so no flying involved, and I pick short 2-5 day journeys that let me explore lakes, canals etc. It's glorious! There is something incredibly meditative about just pedalling. I am not fit, or strong, but I take pleasure in the wildlife, the countryside and the bliss of a lovely hot bath at the end of a day in the saddle😁

Im not well travelled at all and i don’t feel Ive missed out.

i hear stories from colleagues about their travels and it seriously bores me to the brink of me shouting “shut the fuck up”

hours travel to the airport, check in, delays, flights, then waiting for luggage, bus to resorts. Im bored listing them tbh.

prefer to staying in the uk, but more so, stay at home. I live in a lovely quiet rural area and dont want to see the world.

I can only relate in that I find the travel itself a lot less enjoyable than I used to. Airports and driving are all so much busier, more stressful and unpleasant than they used to be and I'm older and less tolerant. I also think other people's behaviour has got a lot more selfish and entitled, which impacts on everyone's ability to just block it out and ignore. So I still love being abroad/away/etc, but for me the holiday used to start when I left home and now it starts when I get there. If I could have a tardis or a teleporter so I could cut out the travel, that would be ideal (but no flies in the teleporter please )

Not necessarily unhappy just want to have a break from the day to day grind and experience things they can't do at home.

Weather is better to generally.

How about ski holidays. They aren't unhappy but they want to ski it's their hobby. Should they just stay at home.

I’m not even sure it’s always wanting a break from their life and certainly not unhappy with their life. I’m lucky and I don’t want to jinx it but I love my life and being at home.

but also I love to travel, not for something different but for the experience.

flying in a seaplane in the Maldives, barefoot pilots. it’s like something out of national geographic as you looo down at all the little islands, snorkelling on a great house reef, seeing the walls of colourful fish, sitting on a tiny island with a ice cold glass of white wine and watching the sun going down.

going on a catamaran trip at sunset in St Lucia. Dolphin spotting, with lovely drinks and snacks, going to a local st party and dancing all night, eating local food. Sampling the local rum.Staying at a 5 star tiny boutique hotel and having personal service. Whatever you wish is provided. Laying reading on the secluded cove beach as someone brings you drinks, swimming in the calm sea

eating tapas and drinking cava in Barcelona. Looking at all the gaudi architecture, the cathedral, the buildings, the cable car.

looking at hot springs in Iceland or taking a dip in a Thermal bath, before eating seafood or warming youself with a hot chocolate.

taking a boat trip down the Seine, taking a day to wander round the Louvre, buying an extortionate drink on the champs Elysees and people watching.

sitting among the olive trees on Mykonos,eating traditional greek food and relaxing with a book

doing a private catamaran trip in Croatia, to a tiny island, which only one family lived on and ran a rustic restaurant from, fresh grilled fish, exquisitely done in front of us,

The list is endless.

Experiencing these things is wonderful, it doesn’t mean you don’t like your home life if ypu wish to do it. Or need a break from the day to day,

they are all wonderful experiences myself and my family have hugely enjoyed and it’s been wonderful for my daughter to grow up and experience all these things.

Love this! Currently planning some similar trips for next year.

There’s a lot to be said for not driving on holiday. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed walking and cycling holidays, and I there is a train involved even better. Japan by train was so interesting and stress free. Europe by train is a definite plan for retirement.

if I lived mainland UK I’d be popping on the Eurostar all the time.