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Would you ask to be paid back this amount of money?

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Cla7 · 25/09/2026 15:27

Some time ago I was at an event where I happened to meet a colleague, he drove there and I took public transport. We live almost next door to each other, and at the end he gave me a ride home (I don’t even remember who brought it up first, me or him, it kind of evolved from the conversation). When I got out of the car, I said ‘let me know what I owe you for patrol’, more out of politeness. It was not a very long distance and I’d have expected him to say ‘no worries, that’s alright’. He said he’ll have to work it out first. Later that evening I received a payment link for…£2.56. It made me giggle. I’m not saying he did anything wrong and I don’t expect free lifts (or any lifts for that matter, if I go somewhere on public transport then I’m fully prepared to go back the same way), but is it a bit strange? I wouldn’t ask for anything in this situation, and for longer rides, it’s more like ‘petrol comes in at around £15 each’ rather than a calculation to the penny.
I think my threshold for asking to be paid back any money that’s technically owed is at £10 with colleagues or acquaintances, and with friends at £20, below that I’d just say it’s fine.
(This is light hearted chat because I’m ill in bed and bored, and for some reason it just popped up in my mind).

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nopenotplaying · 25/09/2026 21:01

clapalongnow · 25/09/2026 16:22

What kind of a move?

I agree, he’s expecting a cheeky snap back response from you! He can’t be serious. Is he single?

Empress13 · 25/09/2026 21:39

muddyford · 25/09/2026 15:33

I'd round it up to £2.60.

I’d give him £2.50 see if he sends you another link for the 10p🤣

Rubyupbeat · 26/09/2026 06:49

He probably takes things literally, black and white. Please don't laugh at him or think any less of him.
Everyone on here talks about their neuroodiverse children, or themselves having little quirks, how do you know he isn't the same?

Clydebuilt · 26/09/2026 07:03

He’s probably laughing at you offering petrol money for such a short distance, that he’s made up a number!

bananaobama · 26/09/2026 07:24

Pop round £3 and tell him to drop the change
off whenever confirmed

WildFatball · 26/09/2026 07:55

I thought petrol money was just for longer trips not a local lift. I wouldn't have offered tbh.

SpookyHalloweenDeviledEggs · 26/09/2026 08:17

At these fuel prices did you just go round the corner

Greenlawnbrownlawn · 26/09/2026 11:36

What some odd responses! Can't anyone else see that it's just meant to be a funny response?

"Tell me what you owe me"
"£2.56!"

Not everything has to be analysed to the nth degree!

redskyAtNigh · 26/09/2026 12:11

in the age of bank transfers I don't see why it's any weirder to ask for £2.56 than £2.50 or £3. My DC are always transferring very exact amounts to each other. For a lot of people a small amount of money can make a big difference.

I think it's weirder to offer petrol money if you just expect the person to tell you not to bother. It's not particularly polite, which I think is the reason why people do it.

TY78910 · 26/09/2026 12:41

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 25/09/2026 15:33

It sounds like he's trying to make a move....

I think quite the opposite! If you’re putting a price on it you’re making it a business transaction only 🤣 maybe that’s his way of saying this was nothing but a transaction!

PumpkinSpicedFattie · 26/09/2026 12:43

If I’m given a lift some distance I always make sure to ‘pay’ in some way on the trip. So ‘let’s get a costa’ or ‘I’ll pay for parking’.

ahhha this has tickled me

AdeleRochester · 26/09/2026 22:22

dreamingofgoodhair · 25/09/2026 16:09

She’s not complaining about paying. She’s just slightly amused at the very precise £2.56

But the OP started by asking him how much she owed.

I’m guessing he put the mileage into an online calculator and halved it, hence the precise amount.

He did her a favour, and then did what she requested about the petrol money and she’s now laughing at him on Mumsnet.

Strikes me as a bit mean, tbh.

maggisimpson · 26/09/2026 22:32

Maybe you'd be better say "do you want petrol money" rather than tell me what you owe... he might have thought he was doing what you requested!

maggisimpson · 26/09/2026 22:34

He's probably posting on Mansnet "I gave this woman a lift and she wanted me to work out her exact share of the petrol money, how weird was that" 😂

Empress13 · 27/09/2026 09:46

Having read your OP again I would say he literally was being fair in working out what you owed to the penny didn’t want to round it up to say £3. Personally I think he should have said no don’t worry about it but as a PP has said maybe he is ND and sees things in black and white so maybe cut him a bit of slack. If however this isn’t the case he’s a tight arse and maybe make your own way back in the future.

exaltedwombat · 27/09/2026 11:08

Don’t forget to put as much effort into finding a positive explanation as a negative one! The most obvious might be that he just thought it would be funny to take you literally.

Beingseenisneedy · 27/09/2026 13:53

I know someone who calculated how much a toilet flush costs.

He isn’t diagnosed, but lacks social awareness and is very literal.

He gets great pleasure telling people the costs of all sorts, how they could save 2p by doing xyz or such.

So your colleague might be similar, try not to judge.

Foolish1984 · 27/09/2026 14:35

As the parent of a child with autism, the attitudes of people on this thread worry me for my child’s future. I’m not saying OP’s friend is autistic but my DD is and can be like this (although I’m trying to help/teach her to not take everything so literally - for her own sake) and it worries me so much that people could be bitching about her like this, one day and essentially calling her ‘tight’ when she’s just being literal. Breaks my heart 💔

To add another perspective, it sounds like he’s taken the time to work it out to make sure he doesn’t ask for too much. I can almost promise you he isn’t being tight, it just never crossed his mind to say never mind because his mind is literal. Literally.

Foolish1984 · 27/09/2026 14:39

LondonLass2026 · 25/09/2026 15:45

Nope, I wouldn't ask for that back. Add to that you live near each other!

Sorry, but he is batshit. Even if he turned around and said it was a joke, I'd be done with him. What a weirdo.

Or, he could just be autistic! What a thoroughly unpleasant individual you are

hattie43 · 27/09/2026 14:40

No I wouldn’t , embarrassing

Dumbledora8 · 27/09/2026 15:31

I remember years ago I was dating a guy who reminded me that I owed him a quid. They walk among us 🫣

Ponderingwindow · 27/09/2026 15:37

He didn’t ask, you offered. Then he felt obligated to do the calculation and send you the amount.

Now you are complaining, albeit lightly and with humor, that he did what you asked.

This might be the most perfect example of poor neurotypical communication I have ever seen. It is so clear cut what happened here and the stakes are low so it’s ok to laugh about.

Be precise in your language and you won’t have these problems.

CKMc2b · 04/10/2026 04:36

This sounds like something my son would take literally and he's wouldn't be trying to be impolite with the calculation. He's probably on the autism spectrum!

ABitFab · 04/10/2026 05:20

I'd have had a giggle but I think could be on spectrum or just very budget conscious

Gateappreciation · 04/10/2026 05:57

Clydebuilt · 26/09/2026 07:03

He’s probably laughing at you offering petrol money for such a short distance, that he’s made up a number!

I wondered that, that’s it’s a cheeky response to see if you pay. A bit of a joke.

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