Care job affecting my mental health and I feel overworked

[PackHamFan]

My job is really beginning to affect my mental health. I work in care and there were some things and conditions before that I wasn't entirely happy with before but I continued on and focused on the positives.

This week has just been unreal. I don't know if it's the heatwave or what not. The lady I work for is worse than ever before just shouting orders at me. If she had half of a chance she would likely piss down my back or into my face. Ok, she wouldn't but she is worse now this week than ever before. Breaks even for water during this heatwave is limited. Bi am just expected to keep on going and going and going and work late while she eats at barbeques.

The sun is now beginning to make me sick too with migraines and I am in work hosesnyk ready to have a mental health breakdown and I am just not feeling well. The demands just keep going and going and going.

To make it worse I am supposed to provide a live in stint for this weekend too for a full week without even a day off and I realize now that the person I am working for just doesn't respect me as a person or worker. There's no way I am being painful appropriately to give up my live to work weeks on end like this.

Life's too short and there are lots and lots of care jobs.
It sounds like you lone work.
I am a home carer, I have lone worked in the past and tolerated it for 18 months.
I enjoy my current job. Some of my clients are better than other.
In my opinion, you should look elsewhere.
Good luck

They wouldn't do half of what they are expecting me to do. Not even half of it. I went above and beyond today to help the family I work for and to help the person I care for in this heatwave and all I got was fucking abuse left right and centre. If it was up to them I would be drinking their pissing. A life in prison would offer me a better path forward. I am sick of the fucking slavery that's involved in this job. Never ending days, the load of caring for a person including self care but there is so much more too - the orders in the kitchen as of I am a fucking chef, the orders for the laundry and to keep on going for them.

I am utterly sick and burnt out. It is working for people who don't even appreciate me or respect me. I am sick to my stomach doing even one more day.

I already found a unalive forum that's banned that's how I am feeling. It's every thing, all the hours and the chores and all the care including cleaning up faeces over and over and over again and the smell of it and there's no break.

Change jobs then op.

It's so bad, A life in prison would provide me with a better path forward. I would be able to digest a meal in prison and change sanitary pads and sleep and its more than what's afforded to me at work.

So what are you going to do about it

Contact your line manager ASAP, by text informing them how you are feeling, you might be dehydrated/uti if not drinking much. Care work has burnout, its mentally exhausting. You also should be protected, depending on clients comprehension clear boundaries on place for negative behaviour toward you

I imagine you are catastrophising, but if you want to spend time in prison, you could arrange that, I’m sure!

Change jobs-you hate this one.

You really shouldn't be putting up with that. Is there a manager you can speak to. What sort of care work is it? Ive been working in residential care for 30 years. First was a local authority care home with 30 residents. The home was decommissioned and im now working in supported living one to one. It can be very challenging but there has to be boundaries and by the sound of it, the lady you are caring for is taking you for a ride! Personally if it was that bad, I'd look for another care job, there are plenty to choose from. Good luck.

I am not catastrophising. I am working for a family who will not spend 5 minutes with their disabled family member and has pushed so much into me and I never signed up for work like this while all they do is just have a backlash of moods at me about everything including their own laundry and if it's washed or not when I am trying to do the best I can. They have fucked off al week to barbeques and beer gardens and they nothing if dumping 12+ hours on me 6 days a week. There's no respite for me.

At this stage I don't want another care job. I never want to help anyone else again. It's not the person I am caring for as such but the family. The person I am caring for has profound needs and it's the family who's pulling the piss.

You don’t seem the right person for a care job. For their sake, I’d find another career.

I tolerated a lot of stuff over the years but it's getting worse. It's the moods that's killing me, the shouting from across the house....the demands....the long days.....hardly a day off. It's not a care company. It's a private capacity care job in a private residance.

My schedule looks like I probably won't get a day off until August - would you be happy working like that?

I had buckets of sweat pout of my face into my eyes today and all the person could do was shout at me about her laundry. I wasn't even allowed a sip of fucking water or to cool down. Just keep on going.

Seriously, get a different job.

I am booked for next week. Full time and live in. Can I walk from it. Do I need to give a notice.

apply for an HCA role in the nhs or move to another company

It's an utter disgrace that you are treated this way. I can't tell whether it is the client or the service provider who is treating you so badly (or both).

But:
Take breaks. Drink water. Have proper lunch breaks. If anyone challenges this say that like everyone else you need a break in this weather and it is your legal right to take one. You could get your boss into serious trouble, so keep track of any abuse or refusal to allow proper breaks.
And do look around. There's a shortage of good carers, so if these people treat you badly, look for an employer who treats you more fairly and move on.

You’ll get snapped up in another role start applying asap

Working in a care home would be better than this. One to one can be brutal if you end up with the wrong person. Some people (and their families) can be tyrants.

Can you go off sick with exhaustion or something? Ring round some care homes. If you can't go off sick, don't let the client or family bully you. You're entitled to drinks, rest breaks and days off.

What does your contract say about notice?
what provision has the person or their family made if you were sick or left the job?
eg using an agency? Any back up carer?

im guessing there might not be a contract and might not be any back up plan if they are not good employers.

If no contract, it would probably be nice to give 2 or 4 weeks notice if you can and start looking for other work. Ideally not lone working without proper breaks or days off scheduled in.

live in care can be so difficult sometimes particularly without these basics in place

You have a skill care work is very challenging but also can be very rewarding
your skill is wasted and not appreciated
good care companies would snap you up

At first the family were good to work for but over time they became just selfish. They don't care. The only thing they care about is getting away time and time and time again.

At this stage I don't care about contracts or notices.

well that makes it simple then. Just quit