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When did you feel you were at your best overall?

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TheSillyBalonz · 10/07/2026 18:39

When did you feel like you've peaked? Or is the best still yet to come? Im talking about when you felt your best physically, emotionally, mentally, financially?

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Darragon · 10/07/2026 18:44

I’m at my best right now. This past 12 months has been amazing.

JacknDiane · 10/07/2026 18:44

Yep now

Sparrowsandbudgies · 10/07/2026 18:45

When I was about 32. I’d just had my son and felt physically very healthy. That all changed at 36 when I was diagnosed with several autoimmune issues including lupus and Addisons disease which can be fatal if not well managed. I haven’t been the same since and I’m now considered disabled and haven’t worked since I was 37, I’m on long term ongoing PIP. Under 5 different specialists. I think health is something people really take for granted until it’s taken from you.

TheSillyBalonz · 10/07/2026 18:45

Darragon · 10/07/2026 18:44

I’m at my best right now. This past 12 months has been amazing.

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Love that for you, and long may it continue. Would you mind sharing any details? Like what's gone well and how old you are?

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CalmWriter · 10/07/2026 18:46

Physically - aged 7 and under
Emotionally - now
Financially - now
Mentally - honestly never, I’m a walking disaster.

namechange6766333545544 · 10/07/2026 18:46

Physically and looks-wise about 30-35. Financially and career-wise - 40s.

These days, past it 😆

CalmWriter · 10/07/2026 18:47

CalmWriter · 10/07/2026 18:46

Physically - aged 7 and under
Emotionally - now
Financially - now
Mentally - honestly never, I’m a walking disaster.

I change my answer. Between aged 7 and 29 I was physically a mess. I’d say now I’ve peaked at 31. I’m stronger than ever, still a mess genetically but good at keeping it at bay.

HobgoblinNorFoulFiend · 10/07/2026 18:48

Yeah physically I’m a wreck, but I’m 63 and I now really know who I am snd what life’s about.

Overthebow · 10/07/2026 18:48

Physically I’d say late twenties, before I had DCs. Financially I don’t think we’ve peaked yet, we’re on good salaries but still paying nursery fees. Our disposable income will go up hugely when those stop.

TheSillyBalonz · 10/07/2026 18:49

CalmWriter · 10/07/2026 18:47

I change my answer. Between aged 7 and 29 I was physically a mess. I’d say now I’ve peaked at 31. I’m stronger than ever, still a mess genetically but good at keeping it at bay.

Do you follow any sort of fitness/beauty regime?

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Meadowfinch · 10/07/2026 18:50

At 50yo.

My ds was 5 and in a nice village primary school. We had left ds' dad and I'd bought us a house.
I'd returned to my career and had a healthy income.
Life was simple, comfortable, relaxed, good fun, financially secure.

Physically, I'd taken up running and was the fittest I'd ever been. 😊

DarkForces · 10/07/2026 18:50

47 and feel great. My career is taking off, no aches and pains, lots of milestones including my silver wedding anniversary in the next few years and more at ease with myself than ever. I just wish teen dd was happier

TheSillyBalonz · 10/07/2026 18:50

Overthebow · 10/07/2026 18:48

Physically I’d say late twenties, before I had DCs. Financially I don’t think we’ve peaked yet, we’re on good salaries but still paying nursery fees. Our disposable income will go up hugely when those stop.

Yes nursery fees are an absolute drain!

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TheSillyBalonz · 10/07/2026 18:52

DarkForces · 10/07/2026 18:50

47 and feel great. My career is taking off, no aches and pains, lots of milestones including my silver wedding anniversary in the next few years and more at ease with myself than ever. I just wish teen dd was happier

Lots of things to look forward to! I have a pre-teen dd, was your dd happier before the teen years hit?

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Mycatmax · 10/07/2026 18:53

28/29. I looked amazing to be honest.

BotterMon · 10/07/2026 18:53

30 to 40. Body and mind were on top form; earning a fortune in the City working and playing hard.

20+ years later still fit and healthy but not the same energy or motivation. Retired life is pretty damn good though. Every age has its benefits.

TheSillyBalonz · 10/07/2026 18:54

HobgoblinNorFoulFiend · 10/07/2026 18:48

Yeah physically I’m a wreck, but I’m 63 and I now really know who I am snd what life’s about.

I absolutely love that you know who you are and what life is about! No second guessing yourself, that must be freeing.

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TheChosenTwo · 10/07/2026 18:54

Maybe next year? 😂

not really, I think turning 40 was my best year and it’s just continued really (I’m almost 42).
i started MJ, my kids are all older now (2 adults and one teen), we are financially secure, nice home and garden, good family and friends and crucially our parents are all in relatively good health considering their ages and health conditions.
We were talking about this only recently, dh and I, saying we’ve had a good few years and that we acknowledge that it might not be this chilled forever, we live near our parents and his mum is in her 80’s, healthy but looking a little old/frail, my mum is in her 60’s but disabled and with a myriad of organs that are slowly turning against her BUT she’s good day to day. Gradually there may be a shift and we have to dedicate more time to looking after them but until now we are in the sweet spot. I had spent years being the only one in the family to look after a relative. Our own dc were young, dh supported us all, it drained us both.
I have so much time for exercise, eating well, buying nice clothes, hanging out with friends, going on holidays, pop in and see mil and my mum a couple of times a week, flexible working, dh does all the cooking etc etc.
all seems and feels pretty lovely right now so just enjoying every day while I can, no one knows what’s around the corner.

TheSillyBalonz · 10/07/2026 18:56

Mycatmax · 10/07/2026 18:53

28/29. I looked amazing to be honest.

Love that!

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DarkForces · 10/07/2026 19:01

TheSillyBalonz · 10/07/2026 18:52

Lots of things to look forward to! I have a pre-teen dd, was your dd happier before the teen years hit?

She was easier just a short time ago but her self esteem is based on external factors because she's at that stage. It's been a rocky few months but she's awesome and one day she'll know it. In the meantime we'll get her the support she needs as far as she'll accept it

DarkForces · 10/07/2026 19:03

TheSillyBalonz · 10/07/2026 18:54

I absolutely love that you know who you are and what life is about! No second guessing yourself, that must be freeing.

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Honestly if there's one thing I've learnt it's that the more you lean into your strengths rather than beating yourself up the higher you'll fly

fetchacloth · 10/07/2026 19:09

Early 30s to 50 were my best years. Then I hit meno and it was all over. 😬

mondaytosunday · 10/07/2026 19:12

At 39. I was determined to meet someone and get married - sort of last chance saloon. I slimmed down, got fit and joined an introduction agency (internet dating was in its infancy). I was peak physical condition! Two years later I was married, had my first child and developed type 1 diabetes… never quite got my mojo back.

4Lightz · 10/07/2026 19:17

Now is a good balance. I used to be a body builder so was in better shape physically, but mentally and emotionally not so much. Low body fat is a killer for your hormones, I was constantly angry or crying for no reason other than my body was in survival mode because I was underfat. Now I feel very zen, but I do sometimes miss my old body.

SaraHoliday · 10/07/2026 20:52

TheSillyBalonz · 10/07/2026 18:39

When did you feel like you've peaked? Or is the best still yet to come? Im talking about when you felt your best physically, emotionally, mentally, financially?

Physically - 25
Emotionally - Now
Mentally - Now
Financially - Now

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