How to give cash at a wedding

[TheChaffinch]

Going to a nephew's wedding soon. They are a lovely young couple, it's quite a low key event and when I asked about gifts they said they didn't want anything.
It's true they have a home and everything they need but I would like to give money at least then they can buy something.
I don't really want to ask for bank details but I also feel just putting a few hundred pounds in a card it might get lost on the day.
Any suggestions as to how it's done?
I don't think I have such a thing as a cheque book any more.

Same situation with me; niece getting married and she is having a relaxed style wedding. They are actually marrying the day before, but on the day they are hiring the village cricket club and having a mock wedding with a 2nd wedding dress then a relaxed party time. In the afternoon lasagne with vegan and other diet requirements then in the evening a pizza. Also lots of great music. However, as they have been living together they have everything so money towards their honeymoon would be fab. Some people have boxes like pillar boxes to pop money envelopes in, but i am not sure about safety too. Also I do wonder how much to give

give them a cheque! It’s the safest way and also nicer than cash

Last wedding I was at people ended up giving the cards to me. I was a family member of the Bride and was part of the wedding. Thankfully I had a large clutch bag. The Hotel Manager put them in the safe in his office until the following morning.(He did make me number the cards and seal them with tape).

Do you live close to them? Or by one of their parents? If so, put the money in a card and put it through their letterbox a day or two before (or after) the Wedding,

Just put it in a card and hand it to them. It will be fine. Lots of people will be giving them cards and they will have a safe place to put them. Dh and I sat together the day after we got married and opened all our cards and it was lovely.

If I want to give cash, I wrap it up together with a photo frame - I assume they will use the frame either for a wedding photo or a baby pic, and it makes it into a “present”.

I don’t think I know anyone who owns a cheque book these days.

Also no offence but cheques are a pita. Unless you live in a big town or city there are hardly any high street banks these days. For us we don’t have any banks in our town, if we received a cheque it would involve driving to one of 2 places that our bank still has branches, both in the city centre which involves traffic and paying to park before hiking to the bank just to bank 1 cheque.

They can be a nuisance and I can’t remember the last time I wrote one, but I received one not so long ago and I paid it in via my phone app.

In Germany there's a tradition of making the cash look like something. Like buying a box of individual chocolates and putting a note into each of the sections instead of the chocolate, shaping them into cranes and hanging them from a mobile, sticking notes together, rolling it up and putting it in a tissue box so when you pull them out there's this big string of notes.

It's more fun and creative (though also obviously therefore more effort) than just putting notes in a card.

Can also buy things like a maze from Amazon, they have to solve the maze for the box to open to get to the visible notes inside.

@AliceMcKYou can pay cheques in on your banking app whilst sitting on your sofa!

The last wedding I was at there was a small locked wooden postbox for cards which I assume included cash

You can just pay a cheque in on a banking app, no need to go to a bank.
I just don't actually have a cheque book any more

This is a lovely idea thank you

I wouldn’t do a cheque. Someone gave us a cheque, but they put Mr and Mrs His Lastname on, and our joint account wouldn’t accept it! We couldn’t pay into one of our personal account either.

Pin it to brides dress!!

Was meant to have an image on my comment!

Maybe give vouchers for somewhere with lots of options like John Lewis? These can be spent at Waitrose too.

The last few weddings I went to, admittedly over 5yrs ago now, they had somewhere specifically for cards. On the gift table there was often a basket, antique suitcase, wishing well, post box or some other receptacle specifically for cards.

I have an ( unused) cheque book.

These days you can pay a cheque in with your phone.

OP you do not have to give the money on the day, could you ask one of the parents for the couple's bank details?

Or give a prepaid cash card, the type people use on holiday.

I heard some banks allow that. I’ve just checked and mine still dosnt, so I’m still tracking into the city for mine.

On a card, write congrats A and B- I would love to give you £100 to celebrate-here is my PayPal, please send a request, or here is my phone number/email, please send me your bank details.
Am starting to think our parents were on to something with cheques!

Cheques and money (cash) are seriously outdated. Cash is absolutely not safe! If they don’t want gifts, they won’t have a receptacle for it! I’d ask their parents for bank account details or get them a John Lewis card and hand it over before the wedding. Most people truly don’t have everything!

@Pistachiocake DH suggested PayPal. It does seem a bit long winded.
He thinks he may have an ancient cheque book somewhere, otherwise I'll go and draw out cash.
I have ordered a photo frame as suggested by @sesquipedalian . Maybe a prepaid card would work.
I wouldn't give a gift card, I've always hated them as my DC used to get them and we live so far from any of the shops I always ended up swapping them for cash.
Despite saying no gifts I imagine everyone will want to give something. They aren't that well off, just not very materialistic.
My adult DC are at the age where they go to a lot of weddings and they always put cash in a card, it's just that I wanted to give more than the usual £100 .

If they are so seriously outdated why did Nationwide send a cheque book to me a couple of months ago when I opened a new account, I didn't ask for one. They must not think so.

I still have a cheque book. Haven’t written one out in years though but apparently it’s still valid. I have received cheques more recently though from an aunt as she once sent cash in the post that went missing. Cheques are easy to cash as you can now usually take about of them with your banking app to pay them in. Keep the cheque at least until it’s showing on statement as cleared funds. Not all banks do this though. One of my accounts does t seem to have the facility but I have paid cash on at the post office and assume a cheque would be the same.