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Going on holiday and look like a fat pig

51 replies

boltonbluedog · 04/07/2026 20:27

Yes I care what i look like
Yes I care what others think
Yes I care i don't look like the skinny girl at the pool
Yes I care i don't look great for my DH

Yes I wish I could cut my fat bits off with a knife ...

OP posts:
itsmeagainagain · 04/07/2026 20:28

Hi @boltonbluedog I get it and it’s awful feeling that way 😞 where and when are you going? X

KittytheHare · 04/07/2026 20:30

I hear you and that’s tough. Do you have your holiday wardrobe sorted or is this the trigger (which it would be for me).

Onlyme7575 · 04/07/2026 20:30

Same here,and going away tomorrow:/.I’m just going to get on with it to hell what anyone thinks and make the best of what I have.when I come home,I need to change a lot of my life,diet etc,I am in menopause and have put on so much weight.have a lovely holiday and enjoy it xxx

RosalieRosa · 04/07/2026 20:30

Oh no! We've all been there. Well I have anyway. I know you maybe won't want to hear it but I bet you don't look anywhere near as bad as you think.

palrono · 04/07/2026 20:37

At my stage in life, I now realise that no one is looking at anyone, they are far too busy looking at themselves. Just like we all do and hyper criticise our bodies, which no one cares about at all, only you/us.

My go to is a bloody good floaty cover up, a huge hat and sunnies and a good book on the lounger. I don't get in the water or there'd be none left in the pool. 😊

I do feel a little self conscious on day 1, day two it's better and then it's fine. We are not used to showing flesh much here, so it's a little awkward at the start when away, well it is for me, but it gets better as the week goes on.

MidnightPatrol · 04/07/2026 20:38

Time to treat yourself to some new outfits you feel good in!

I bought myself a couple of expensive swimsuits from bravissimo plus some nice beach cover ups when post partum, and it honestly made me feel really good when I was at a low.

PancakeCloud · 04/07/2026 20:53

How old are you?

socks1107 · 04/07/2026 21:04

I’ve felt like this in the past. Can you get some new clothes to make you feel better and help you enjoy your holiday. ( your dh will love you just the way you are and no one else will be looking at you)

Trixietrixerson · 04/07/2026 21:10

I get it and hear you with a passion. I always feel like this before holidays.
Wish I didn't but there we are.
A couple of pretty, good quality dresses normally help me.
And I always go sugar free for 3 days before I go.. not sure I should be recommending that, but it's my go to!
Oh and masses of positive affirmations about loving myself. Sounds cheesy as f*%k but my goodness do they help 🌸

RootsBeforeTheFruits · 04/07/2026 21:12

I know this is no help at all, but this is why you should start weightloss a few months before a holiday so you feel fantastic when away, I had a holiday and felt awful and said am never doing that again so lost a stone and half before my last holiday and am almost at 3 stone loss for this next one!

sharkstale · 04/07/2026 21:25

How much would you like to lose and how long until you go?
I felt like this before my last holiday. I cut down/changed what I ate so I was in a calorie deficit and lost just over half a stone in 3 weeks. I would have preferred to lose a bit more but it made a huge difference to how I looked and felt.

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ihadtochangemynameforthis · 04/07/2026 21:34

You deserve to have a holiday regardless of the size of your body
You deserve to relax
You deserve to enjoy your time away
You deserve to be present in the moment and enjoy the things you are doing/seeing/eating
You deserve clothes that fit you, that feel comfortable and that help you relax and enjoy the experiences of being on holiday
All bodies are deserving of holidays and swimming and relaxation
I am so sorry you feel like this, I think it's very relatable. I sometimes have found it helps to zoom out and focus more on the experience and the people I am sharing it with me as a human and not as a body, a shape, a size.
Sending love ❤️

ApparentlyIsMyCircusAndMyMonkeys · 04/07/2026 21:37

I hear you OP! Two words for you… Spray Tan! Everyone looks better with a tan. For me it takes the (self imposed) pressure off feeling like I need to wear skimpy stuff in order to get a tan, and the constant smell of biscuits is enough to put me off eating a whole packet in one go like I usually do.

Original poster
boltonbluedog · 04/07/2026 21:38

@Eightdayz I have a PT and I'm in the gym 5 days a week

@PancakeCloud 50 and menopausal

OP posts:
Eightdayz · 04/07/2026 21:41

boltonbluedog · 04/07/2026 21:38

@Eightdayz I have a PT and I'm in the gym 5 days a week

@PancakeCloud 50 and menopausal

Why are you here moaning about it then?

SilenceInside · 04/07/2026 21:45

@boltonbluedog I am so sorry that you feel this way. I can very much empathise with it. You aren’t a fat pig, you’re a person who is struggling at the moment.

SereneGoose · 04/07/2026 21:49

Flowers perfect response .PLEASE READ PP.xxk

ShakyBake · 04/07/2026 21:57

That's really sad to read, people can be their own worst enemy sometimes and I know it's all well and good saying rise above it but it's not that easy.

A tip which works for me, again, it won't work for everyone.

Charge into the room with the biggest mirror and point hard at your reflection and shout 'Oi, Oi, Oi' as loudly as possible. I don't know the science behind it but it was on a TV program years ago, it's something to do with the disconnect of the body to mind ratio where something snaps back inside. It's go me through so many times of self doubt over the years.

Pistachiocake · 04/07/2026 21:59

SilenceInside · 04/07/2026 21:45

@boltonbluedog I am so sorry that you feel this way. I can very much empathise with it. You aren’t a fat pig, you’re a person who is struggling at the moment.

I hate that we live in a society where it's ok to call women (or anyone) a fat pig. I'd say how many people are desperately ill in hospital and would love to be well enough to be going on holiday, and just happy to have a body that works, but I doubt that would change how you feel OP, and I'm just so sorry about it.

It was bad enough, looking at old TV programmes because I actually have nothing better to do today, that women in their late teens and twenties used to criticise their bodies, but mums and grans tended to relax, knowing they were mums and grans, and didn't stress. Progress, eh.

mondaytosunday · 04/07/2026 22:04

I always thought the absolute bottom would be if I ever needed a seat belt extender. Well two years ago I did on an EasyJet flight. And guess what? I weigh even more now. I have twice in my life lost significant amounts of weight but I’m at my heaviest ever and it’s really started to affect my mobility. I can’t go on WLI as I have type 1 diabetes. I know what to do but feel stuck. I may have to go on that same EasyJet flight in three months. I feel desperate.

Idlewilder · 04/07/2026 22:37

I think it's very hard to lose weight from a position of self hatred. I decided many years ago to stop hating my body. That took a conscious decision to not go into that spiral of self loathing and calling myself names. I do still have moments when I feel something like despair at how far my body is from the ideal, but I stop myself. I just remind myself my body works well and is healthy.

The thing that really helped me was thinking of bigger friends who look good. I would never dream of calling them fat pigs, and that helps me be kind to myself. I also find the serenity prayer massively helpful in this situation. Just repeating it quietly to myself really helps me move away from self destructive thoughts.

Which brings me to - what can you change before you go away? It's hard to advise as we don't know your particular circumstances. You can't lose weight in a hurry, though as others have said, you could use this as motivation to have another go at moving towards a healthy weight when you get back.

But you could ask here for advice on how to dress to feel as good as possible on holiday. Or ask if there are any bigger women who feel good about themselves on holiday despite their weight, and how they talk to themselves mentally about it.

Would you feel comfortable telling us what height/size you are and what your holiday involves?

bostonchamps · 04/07/2026 22:42

RootsBeforeTheFruits · 04/07/2026 21:12

I know this is no help at all, but this is why you should start weightloss a few months before a holiday so you feel fantastic when away, I had a holiday and felt awful and said am never doing that again so lost a stone and half before my last holiday and am almost at 3 stone loss for this next one!

Read the room?

5128gap · 04/07/2026 22:44

Buy some lovely things that weight doesn't matter for, flip flops, beach bag, sunglasses, bangles so you'll have something to focus on that pleases you.
Make the best of the non weight related parts of you, hair, nails, make up.
Make your skin look lovely and glowy.
Don't spend hours in the mirror staring at your body.
Remember, you don't have to be slim to be attractive.
Remember that the sun is as warm, the pool as refreshing, the sights as beautiful, the company as good and the entertainment as rubbish whether you are slim or not, so your experience wouldn't be any different.

managingexpectations · 04/07/2026 22:51

I get it, I wish I didn’t but I do. I was away in June and DP took a photo (I was fully aware he was taking it, it wasn’t a sneaky one) holy god I’m fat AND damn ugly. It’s just as well I’m quite funny or Id be screwed…or maybe not actually.

im definitely considering WLI after seeing that photo. I knew I was fat but god the photo was just awful.
its such a shame because I just avoid having pictures taken and as a result I don’t have any nice picture with family, friends, loved ones and in the three years I’ve been with DP we have a handful of photos together.
I wish I could change my mindset but I know that’s never going to happen. I’ll just keep avoiding the camera and try to be as inconspicuous as humanly possible.