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Is it normal to panic after a wanted first pregnancy?

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minniemoominn · 02/07/2026 16:29

I’ve just found out I am pregnant with my first baby and I am panicking. My husband and I got married last year and always said we would start trying in June. We are in a very good position and a baby has been much discussed.

Instead of actively trying we decided we would stop being safe and see what happens to take the pressure off. I have stage 4 endometriosis which has required several surgeries to unglue a frozen pelvis so I was unsure if I could ever get pregnant and I assumed it would take a very long time. I’ve chatted with doctors, started folic acid etc. Miraculously I got pregnant the first time I and I know how incredibly lucky I am.

This baby is very much wanted so why am I panicking so much? Is this normal? I feel completely filled with fear. I haven’t told my husband yet because I didn’t expect to feel the way I do. I think maybe it’s the fact that I expected it to take a while but I expected to be screaming with excitement.

I was just wondering if anyone else felt like this? I very much want the baby but I don’t know why I feel like I’m going to have a panic attack.

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Thegoldenoriole · 10/07/2026 17:57

minniemoominn · 10/07/2026 16:01

Unfortunately I had it confirmed by EPU today that I’ve had a miscarriage :(

Oh I’m sorry that’s so sad 💔 xxx

minniemoominn · 10/07/2026 20:25

I’m so very sad. I feel like I’d just wrapped my head around it too. I bought DH a little I love daddy outfit to tell him and I came home and looked at it and I can’t 😭

Hoping the next cycle is the one ❤️❤️

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