Am I bossy to my partner ?

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My partner gets 2 days off a week
He does no housework,he doesn’t even make a cup of tea on his day off.
He gets his breakfast /tea made and cups of tea in bed on a weekend morning and night.
Everytime I ask for the tinniest thing I’m made to feel like I’m being bossy.
Today he has been in bed all day on his computer.
This morning I made him cups of tea in bed and breakfast in bed.
I literally said at 3pm can you come downstairs and help me put flea drops on cats (I only ask as they wriggle like mad and need him to part the fur so I can put drops on)
His reaction “why is it on a timescale ,I’m chilling out,I get 2 days off a week “
I said I’m going to cut the grass ,do you mind peeling those carrots ..”are you having a laugh ,I get two days off a week and I can’t just relax “

Thats all he does
He hasn’t made a meal or a cup of tea in about 3 years.

Is helping me flea the cats and peeling the carrots that hard ? Am I bossy ?

No, he's a lazy entitled twat.

Nah, he's a lazy shit who sees you as his maid. You can do better.

Stop waiting on him. U r not being unreasonable to expect him to do things. He is being unreasonable

Just why are you putting up with this? Surely you know this isn’t right?

He is a last hopefully soon to be ex. I could not stand being with someone like that. Stop the making him tea and breakfast in bed. You are not running a b&b.

No you aren’t bossy.
You are just another woman enslaved to a useless fucker.
Surely having no man must be better than this?

Should I ask the scary question of whether you have kids?!

edited to add pre kids I could go a day without doing housework as the flat wouldn’t really be messy but at some stage I had to get back to it and so does he! And he should have helped with the cat!!!

Doesn't everyone who works full time only get 2 days off a week? I know I do. In those days off I catch up on house work, shopping etc as well as doing jobs after work, that's what most people do.
I did have to have very strong words with my husband recently about not pulling his weight around the house, even the teenagers were doing more than him. I even told him I found it unattractive and put me off wanting sex with him. He still isn't amazing but he has started doing a lot more, taking pressure off me. You are definitely not being bossy, he is a lazy, selfish, entitled twat.

Why on earth do you even wonder if he's right? Would you treat him the way he treats you? No. Why not? Because it's shitty. There's your answer.

I assume you also have two days a week where you do nothing and he runs around after you?

He's lazy and there’s not a hope in hell I’d be making a lazy sod breakfast in bed and running around making him cups of tea! Why are you putting up with this? You’re running around while he’s rotting in bed, he’d be starving, dehydrated and celibate if he was mine. How unattractive.

It's 2 days off work, not life!

What's the point of him?

You could be enjoying the bliss of living in your own peaceful property instead of serving this slob.
A boyfriend is for enhancing your life and making it easier and fun. That's the entire point.

He’s a sexist loser and you’ve been a mug. Ditch the loser or if you don’t, stop waiting on him and whatever you do don’t have DC with him.

You surely know the answer, clearly you're not bossy. Is your partner taking the piss, yes. Is he lazy, yes. Why are you running around after him, tea and breakfast in bed, fuck that. He would be my ex.

It’s not bossy. Bossy is a term given to women and girls, much like nag to give negative value to ‘I’ve asked you to do this several times already’. If you were male, it would be assertive and something to be proud of. And no, I don’t think you’re being assertive enough because the lazy fucker isn’t doing anything.

Why are you providing room service? If he wants a drink he makes it. That's not difficult. No, you're not being bossy to ask for assistance. Presumably he has other attributes that make you want to spend your precious time together?

Why on earth would you keep making cups of tea and breakfast in bed for somebody in these circumstances?

Why the fudge are you serving him food and drink in bed? Lazy arsehole.

Do you have children and do you work, too?

I can't see why you'd put up with someone like this.

Oh god get rid of that lazy cocklodger. Have some self respect op.

Why are you making all his meals and taking him breakfast and cups of tea to his bed?
Do you work? Is this some set up where you're supposed to be a 'trad wife'? I can't think of any other reason you'd go on like this for years.

Is helping me flea the cats and peeling the carrots that hard ? Am I bossy ?

Why are you trying to create a diversion here for yourself by asking the public a silly question that you already 100% know the answer to?

Your energy would be far better spent trying to sort out your relationship, starting with why you're running around after a lazy man and virtually wiping his arse and nose when he clicks his fingers.

Whatever you do, do NOT have children with this specimen.

Personally I'd have him away from me so fast his feet wouldn't touch the ground but for some reason, you're clearly ok with his treatment of you.

I'd also spend more energy working out why that is.

Not married? No kids? Just leave.

Is helping me flea the cats and peeling the carrots that hard?
Extremely if you are an idle shit.
Am I bossy? Very. The poor man only gets two days off a week.