Am I bossy to my partner ?

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My partner gets 2 days off a week
He does no housework,he doesn’t even make a cup of tea on his day off.
He gets his breakfast /tea made and cups of tea in bed on a weekend morning and night.
Everytime I ask for the tinniest thing I’m made to feel like I’m being bossy.
Today he has been in bed all day on his computer.
This morning I made him cups of tea in bed and breakfast in bed.
I literally said at 3pm can you come downstairs and help me put flea drops on cats (I only ask as they wriggle like mad and need him to part the fur so I can put drops on)
His reaction “why is it on a timescale ,I’m chilling out,I get 2 days off a week “
I said I’m going to cut the grass ,do you mind peeling those carrots ..”are you having a laugh ,I get two days off a week and I can’t just relax “

Thats all he does
He hasn’t made a meal or a cup of tea in about 3 years.

Is helping me flea the cats and peeling the carrots that hard ? Am I bossy ?

The replies on your other threads about this man are spot on. You should read them and create a life that centres your joy and peace.

Didn't realise the OP has other threads about him.

It makes her question even more disingenuous then.

How long are you going to keep banging on about him OP?

If you don't make a change you'll always get what you've always got 🤷‍♂️

Who owns the property you live in. If you don't have kids together there's no need whatsoever to live together, unless it's to save money on rent.

What the hell are you doing pandering to this shite? Good grief. Have some self respect.

Do you have children/children together? Do you work outside the home? You should both get equal free time, cups of tea, breakfasts in bed. You don't sound bossy enough.

I'm going to join in the pile on. Why are you running round after this man? Are you afraid of his reaction if you say no?

You completely enable this behaviour. Stop?

Stop providing meals and drinks. When he asks you too tell him you're trying to relax and he shouldn't be so bossy.

Stop doing things for him.

You act like a doormat and people will walk all over you.

The OP was already told not to run around after him anymore when she started a thread declaring how lazy he is.

Not that she returned to it but I'm presuming she read it.

Why do you tolerate this shite?

No, you are not bossy. Your partner is a lazy good-for-nothing useless piece of shit. If he won't lift a finger to help you, then stop doing things for him.

Next time 'the two days off' bollocks rears its ugly head, tell him that from that very minute, you too shall do likewise, so if he thinks you are going to do anything for him, he can get to fuck.

Is this some form of faux confusion wishing validation or do you really not know?

Your mistake here is that you think that he’s your partner. He’s not and never will be.
Chuck him back in the swamp and find someone who understands the basics of what a partnership means.

I don't often say this but.... LTB. You aren't his mummy. He's a lazy, useless, sexist twat. Get rid of him and your life will improve considerably.

IMO the term bossy only applies when someone who can and does do tasks perfectly well is being told when and how to do them.

Christ, stop being such a doormat and waiting hand and foot on the entitled prick! Honestly, do you really think this is in any way acceptable??

Do you have kids?
Do you have 2 days a week off to relax?

I was married to one like this.

He worked 5 days a week and did shifts. He got Sat & Sun off.
Both days he stayed in bed until noon and did nothing apart from cut the grass in the summer.
He said shift work made him tired.
So suggested he come off shifts, which he did, and he went on to days..
He still stayed in bed until noon both days at week-ends and did nothing apart from grass-cutting.
He still had enough energy to play football 2/3 nights a week though 🤔.
I put my foot down and told him to "shape up or ship out". So he had an affair and left for some stupid girl young female who was happy to wait on him hand and foot.

Don't make my mistake.
At least you aren't married to your human dynamo so he's easier to get rid of .🙄.