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Is MN becoming more misogynistic or are there more trolls about?

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Menopausio · Today 06:27

Ive been here a fair while, change my username regularly ect. Is it just me or has this site changed from a bit of a safe haven for women to just being the same as RL? Have attirudes to women swung back to the middle ages or are there more troll posts?

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Menopausio · Today 09:54

ilovesooty · Today 08:25

It's a public forum. It's not a safe place.

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It certainly isnt now days.

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Menopausio · Today 09:56

LadyLooo · Today 09:08

What safe space?

Surely you don't mean a public internet forum that you don't even have to join to read?

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Yes, it used to feel safe. Im 53 now, a grandmother. I joined when my DC were teens. It felt like a community then.

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TemperanceWest · Today 09:59

ReleaseTheDucksOfWar · Today 08:22

Over the years yes, I've seen things become more misogynistic.

I'm certain that Mumsnet has a proportion of women-hating men and also a proportion of seriously unpleasant individuals of (I guess) both genders who love kicking a vulnerable poster or twisting a situation into something unrecognisable so they can have a go at the OP.

Mumsnet is also being targetted by Russian propagandists and the far right wing, but that's another issue.

I'd say more misogynistic and more misanthropist, both. Actually, now I think of it, more misandrist too in some aspects. Which also creates a hating and hateful atmosphere.

I suspect Mumsnet viewing figures are dropping and I'm not surprised. Many posters who start a thread who are clearly genuine get attacked. Tough but compassionate love is one thing, a hostile environment no matter what is a different you say is another.

I agree with you.

TemperanceWest · Today 10:00

BobbiBrewster · Today 09:51

Online forums will never be a safe space. I have been here a long time (I name change frequently). I still find things to read and sometimes comment but would never start my own thread. MN reflects the outside world and is in many places full of anger, hate and yes, misogyny. Also, in the oddest places you have threads designed to create unrest and dissatisfaction. I used to like reading the 'property' threads but now you get nasty threads about people who live in social housing - trolls everywhere. I think in the end MN will just be populated by people 'shouting at bins' and genuine posters will vote with their feet.

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LadyLooo · Today 10:03

Menopausio · Today 09:56

Yes, it used to feel safe. Im 53 now, a grandmother. I joined when my DC were teens. It felt like a community then.

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It was likely naivety that made you feel safe then.

I've been on MN nearly 16 years and back then, people were giving all their personal details on threads simply because an OP would ask for them.

And the amount of 'successful' begging threads were through the roof because so many would automatically believe them.

That's why MNHQ had to compose their warning post.

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Menopausio · Today 10:12

LadyLooo · Today 10:03

It was likely naivety that made you feel safe then.

I've been on MN nearly 16 years and back then, people were giving all their personal details on threads simply because an OP would ask for them.

And the amount of 'successful' begging threads were through the roof because so many would automatically believe them.

That's why MNHQ had to compose their warning post.

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I take your point on that, fair play.

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trendysetter · Today 11:52

I agreed with the OP on that thread, they'd already spent a chunk of the money on their OH and the kids so it wasn't like she spent it all on herself. There was nothing wrong with what she did (and I say that as someone not keen on gambling or cosmetic procedures.

I think the issue on here is often with SAHMs tbh. Not valued at all.

I agree with others though that anywhere online is never a safe space.

ilovesooty · Today 11:55

Menopausio · Today 09:54

It certainly isnt now days.

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It isn't anyway. No one can surely believe any public, open forum can be a safe space. Nowadays is irrelevant.

DalmationalAnthem · Today 11:55

Menopausio · Today 07:55

No I expect a womans safe space to be safe for women.

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A website with more than 9 million users is not safe, I don't think it ever implied it was a single sex space, or safe?
My email address and password were among 1000s released by a hacker of this website some years ago 🙃

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