So I have left this a little while before I posted it because it’s something that people in real life would recognise even if I changed some details. But I thought I’d tell you lovely folks.
I’ll try to not drag this out,(I failed) I’ve been accused of making things up on here a few times and I don’t want to have to come back and explain why I’ve given certain details. I will say to me, it’s relevant.
So I have 4 DC, one of which I’ll call Jim, Jim is 7 with autism and learning disability. He is verbal but very much on his terms. Usually to swear, say no or ask for help. Often this can simply be a word shouted like “poo” or “cake”. The important things in life.
Jim has a 9 year old brother, bob. Bob is the loveliest kid you could meet. He is also autistic but has no learning disability and copes well. We have endless certificates and stickers and badges from school for his willingness to help, good manners and always displaying kindness and respect. Bob absolutely adores Jim. He takes him out the house each morning to his school transport and kisses him. He says, “don’t be a rascal, I love you” and gives the other kids in the taxi a good morning. This is important, whilst bob is a lovely wee lad, he is fiercely protective of jim.
Last year my SiL started dating a guy who just like the one before him and the one before him, was what I’d call, a bit of a wanker.
For context SiL isn’t DP’s biological sister, but they’ve grown up together, she is related to his older brother, but DP and SiL are the closest of the siblings. We love her. She’s chaotic, but worth the chaos because of how much we all love her. (Fuck me this is long I am sorry!)
So SiL and her boyfriend, let’s call him Tim, have been coming over quite a bit and whilst not directly related to his wankerness, Tim has extreme allergies. Peanuts/eggs/dairy. Basically dry bread and meat are his only safe foods. So when they’ve been over the kids have been told to ask for food, not just get it, just because Tim’s allergies are so bad we didn’t want anything near him. He should use an EpiPen and carry it with him but doesn't bother so we have always been very cautious what food is out so nothing contaminates his food.
Now as explained Jim doesn’t talk much. But he does scream when distressed and hits out, but also hurts himself with head butting things or smacking his head. Tim knows this. So SiL and DP are in the garden with our toddler. I’m in the kitchen, boys are upstairs due to heat, chilling out watching whatever crap they fancy on their tablets. This is when Tim decides to go upstairs to see them. Now as this is long already I’ll cut to the chase, Tim was purposely trying to get Jim to talk as a novelty. He did things to get a reaction, he took his iPad, started tickling him, just being a twat. So my poor boy starts to hit out, starts hitting himself and bob his brother is witness to this. He tries to stop Tim, tries to calm Jim down but Tim is escalating it and is now restraining my son, on his own bed, who is screaming and being tickled. Now bob runs downstairs, into the cupboard like lightening. I ask what’s happening and he’s running back up the stairs and I hear Bob yelling and swearing which I haven’t heard ever before.
Bob has armed himself with 2 eggs, I have run upstairs after him and turning the stove off, I find Jim in tears biting his hand whilst Tim is standing over him, and Bob is yelling, “I will throw this fucking egg in your face! I will kill you with this FUCKING EGG!” Anyway my eldest son is woken up (he’s working nights) and comes in to see what’s happening. I’m in a state of what the fuck, moving Tim away from my very distressed boy Jim. My eldest son who is usually a man of few words picks up Bob, tells him it’s all fine and carries him downstairs, eggs in hand. But does shout up at Tim, “you best get away from Jim or I’m coming back up there”. Im telling Tim to get out and away from Jim who is still very distressed and trying to headbutt things. Tim is refusing, trying to make us look unreasonable. He’s in the process of calling Jim spoilt and mollycoddled as DP is given a brief explanation by my eldest what’s happening. SiL is still with our toddler outside so DP runs up and tells Tim to leave. Tim is saying it was just fun to try and get Jim to talk. This enrages me because my son isn’t a fucking pet to tease. So at this point I tell Tim if he doesn’t leave an egg will be the least of his problems and to go right now. Tim goes to argue and DP just puts his hand on his shoulder and guides him outside. Anyway SiL, mortified, leaves with Tim. Who was not murdered by an angry Bob armed with egg. Tim then, by SiL’s account, said that our whole family are fucking mental, (not incorrect) then told SiL we aren’t even her real family (twat) and he’s never seeing us again. (Good) and then he then called Jim a vile ableist slur and that was the end of his relationship with SiL.
So I have no idea if he needed to ingest the egg to die or a decent throw to the face would have ended him. But either way, this long and very confusing story I wanted to tell you because I love reading other people’s silly little dramas.
Hopefully this wasn’t too confusing and I didn’t get the names muddled. I welcome any of your daft dramas if you would like to share.
One last thing because Jim isn’t able to form proper sentences to explain things, we wouldn’t have ever allowed tim to have gone upstairs to see Jim if Bob or someone else wasn’t present, he actually did previously ask to go visit him alone and DP went up with him. We take no risks with anyone around Jim alone, just added as I know posters worry about safety.