Dp secretly using nicotine pouches

[TwoHoots74]

So. We are on holiday and my dp is secretly using nicotine pouches. He’s acting really weird keep going to his bag and his body language is just peculiar whilst he’s trying to sneak them.

for reference he doesn’t smoke but this seems to be a newish habit for him. We don’t live together which is why I’ve never noticed how much he relies on them. I think he does have an addictive personality as he’s a very heavy drinker. Functioning alcoholic perhaps.

i feel he’s making me out to be stupid that I won’t notice the little pouches. He’s tried to say when I’ve pointed what you eating out that they’re mints.

Yesterday he made out he was going back to the room to use the loo but he went to the shop to buy more. Why doesn’t he just admit it?

If there is no openess and honesty in a relationship it doesn't have much of a future does it? - at least not a happy one.

If he feels he has to hide things from you it is a problem. If he has a drink addiction it is a problem. I think you should consider whether you want to continue with this. relationship

I agree. He would likely say he’s allowed privacy. Which we all are but the way he’s acting rather shifty to use them is making me cross

Why don't you just point out that you know what he's doing so why all the cloak and dagger?

I’m worried it will put a dampener on the holiday. I’m finding his secrecy pathetic to be honest. He doesn’t take confrontation very well. He will go into full on sulk and not speak to me. I don’t want the holiday spoiled

I’m now feeling increasing incensed at him trying to deceive me over something so ridiculous.

@TwoHoots74 i think your holiday is already spoiled with him sneaking about. Can you come home early?

I think you're both guilty of playing games.

You don't need to 'confront' him but if you want it out in the open, just tell him you've noticed 🤷‍♂️

For whatever reason (possibly shame) he wants to keep it private.

And really and truly, because you don't live together and it doesn't affect you or your health, it is his private business.

Look up nicotine addiction. If the pouches are anything lije “chaw” he is heading for jaw and throat cancer. I would end it for his secrecy and sulking.

"Hey, Johnny, I can see you are using nicotine pouches so you don't need to bother trying to hide it."

You don't need to be angry (although I agree it's weird and rude) or confrontational. Just tell him you know.

Just tell him you know?! Weird behaviour tbh.

I don’t see how I’m playing games. I just don’t want the confrontation that saying something will bring.

He stays at my house 4/5 days a week and were planning on living together soon. I just don’t like the silly little lies and tbh it will affect my life if he doesn’t get the side effects that another poster has mentioned as it’ll be me looking after him!

You seriously need to learn what the word confrontation means.

"Oh Jim, I've noticed you're using nicotine pouches. How long has that been?"

Not confrontational at all.

are you sure its nicotine pouch and not coke?

@TwoHoots74 " don’t see how I’m playing games. I just don’t want the confrontation that saying something will bring."

You are playing games. Why have you got to be confrontational? Personally I'd just let him get on with it for the sake of the holiday, or come home if you can't handle it. Then seriously consider why you want to live with an already alcohol dependent man who has now revealed another addiction.

@OhBumBagssorry wrong choice of wording. I’ll also learn how to correct my language 👍🏼

It’s not chaw. It’s Snuz.

I think he’s using Nordic stuff in a white box although the stuff he bought yesterday will likely be the Greek equivalent not sure if that makes a difference. I’ve never smoked or vapes or pouches so am
a bit clueless about it all.

Yes that’s snuz. The research on if it’s carcinogenic is currently inconclusive/mixed.

No tobacco in nicotine pouches so cancer isn’t the problem.

And I use nicotine pouches a lot for working on projects, find it more useful than caffeine for deep focus and concentration.

Maybe because he's addicted to nicotine and worries you'll be judgemental/shaming about it, so is trying to do it privately and hoping you won't notice?

I think he’s posing my ashamed. I wondeeed if he’s using the high from them as he’s not drinking much in the day. Maybe one is replacing the other

Does he normally drink in the day?

They don’t get you ‘high’

If it's the secrecy and sneaking that bothers you more than the actual use of the nicotine pouches, just tell him you honestly don't mind and would rather he felt comfortable enough with you to do it openly.