Do you rest at the weekend?

[bonetireding]

I’m bone tired. At the weekend I long to sit and read the paper, watch a movie or even have a nap!

I’m still exhausted on a Sunday night and not at all recharged for the week ahead.

Are you allowed/allow yourself to rest or are you on the go all the time?

I tend to start the weekend with a long run, or a hangover, or both! After which I may be knackered and need to collapse on the sofa for a bit. But then I get up and about. I don't waste the whole weekend sitting around.

I have young kids. I'm either dead tired and dreaming of sleep or I'm asleep and too tired to dream. But sadly not much of option two.

As much as two small kids will let me. What’s preventing you from resting?

I don’t get much chance to rest but Sunday is the one day I can have a ‘lie in’ until about 8!

I have young kids. They don't have off switches or pause buttons. They are all go go go from 630am whether it is a Saturday, Sunday or Mon-Fri. There's not sitting down and relaxing during the day, and in thr evening I can't get into my PJs quick enough!

If you're a mum I'm guessing you don't. I'm not, and I do, and I'm very aware of that luxury.

Erm, hard to say really. I exercise both days of the weekend and then do something with the family (whoever is around) both days or something on my own if everyone is busy or with friends/extended family.
i don’t like wasting my days off though so try and make sure I’m productive with my time. I’m not good at sitting watching telly or reading a book (unless it’s sunny and I’m in the garden) during the daytime so tend to fill any downtime with things.
But it makes me happy so all good with me!

No, I have young children, one is being assessed for ASD and ADHD. We don’t get any rest time and we’re permanently tired.

I’ve picked up a second job that is weekend hours, so not currently until the afternoon, but then I try and have some chill time just browsing on phone to just let my brain zonk out a bit

No I have 4 kids so no rest at the weekends

Saturday is my day of rest and I do very little. I spent yesterday reading and napping, and a bit of cooking. I felt so much better today from having a restful day.

My two DC are adults now, one away at uni so yes, I actually do now. Not for a second when they were young, but now we often have a quiet Saturday morning crashed out on the sofa. We try to do something in the afternoons but it we don't I might have a wee nap in the afternoon!

Yes! Sunday after lunch is our period of doing fuck all.

Not now (retail, in most Saturdays and Sundays, and tomorrow a bank holiday in Ireland I’ll be in again fml!!!!) but I did even after kids were born, yes we’d possibly go out or play a board game but after a bit of setting the house in order at some stage I’d sit and read the paper/ watch something light. It’s what the weekends are meant to be for!!

I relax whenever I feel like it around a few things I have to do or want to do. We don’t have young children now though, when we did, it was harder to find time, but now I make life as easy as I can. I’ve binge watched a tv series and finished 2 books this week.

The question ‘Are you allowed/allow yourself to rest or are you on the go all the time?’ is an interesting way to word it. I know people who make themselves ‘busy’. They’re always ‘busy’ and they view relaxing as a bad thing and see it as wasting time and being lazy.

We tend to have one day for doing stuff at the weekend and one calmer, more relaxing day. I am no good to anyone if I'm frazzled and stressed, I do need some down time.

But DDs are 9 and 7 so there is usually something we have to do. Sunday tends to be our chilling day but even then DD2 needs taking to an activity in the mornings. But without fail I'll go and have a bubble bath on a Sunday afternoon as some "me time" or will listen to my audiobook when preparing dinner. So it's never a full day of doing nothing but I try to get relaxing time in where I can.

They are now of an age where they can go downstairs and make their own breakfast and stick cartoons on the TV so DH and I both get a lie in on a Saturday morning. That has made up for the years of 5.30am wakeups when they were younger!

We tend to have quite busy weekends and I see it as leisure time to spend doing the things we enjoy, rather than resting time. It's our chance to get out as a family and experience things we can't do during the week when they are at school and we are at work.
I don't work ft so I'm not at the grindstone Monday to Friday anyway.

After decades of mad weekends finally able to go nowhere and do nothing as and when I want at weekends. Absolute bliss. Remember that burnout breaking point well. It’s really tough being a parent these days. Work constantly inside and outside the home and many with no village. Wishing all those with mad weekends some respite.

Fuck no, I live for the weekend, Saturday morning I’m on a train to the west end or a local city for a show.
Dinners, galleries, concerts and events.
I’d be really sad if I stayed at home all weekend.

Edit to add that my children are grown up. Do you have kids OP?

Absolutely! My weekdays are full on with work, hobbies (gym and netball) and socialising. I work some Sat meetings and may plan one or two activities but the majority of my time is spent on my arse in front of the telly. Sounds lazy but I feel fully reacted for the busy week ahead.

Yes, I get a lie-in most weekends and get up anytime between 8-10.30am. DC are 11 & 8 so happy to watch tv and sort their own breakfast. Sometimes we have quite busy weekends but then others are much more relaxed. I need a certain amount of downtime for my mental health, but also because I have a long term health condition, for which one of the symptoms is fatigue.

With children, the weekend is when I don’t rest as much, though dh does sometimes take them out so I can have a nap. I have chronic illnesses though, including cancer, and I do make a point to rest every afternoon in the week. It’s not always a nap, but I will just lie down for an hour.

If you are otherwise healthy, you really shouldn’t be ‘bone tired’. I have advanced cancer plus 2 other unrelated chronic illnesses that cause fatigue and I’m not even that tired! I’d get some blood tests done, including vitamin D. Go to bed early in the week. I’m often in bed for 9:30pm most nights. And if you drink alcohol, don’t.

I've only had weekends that are truly 'off' since my youngest DC didn't have to do visitation with exH. Before that it was almost three decades of slog seven days a week.

What’s preventing you from resting if that’s what you want, OP?

Thanks all. I think I was just feeling at a real low ebb yesterday, and not sure how long I can keep this up!

Yes, I have small DC but also a husband who wants to see lots of activity at weekends -jobs, chores etc. He just doesn’t see the value in rest! I find myself wandering around half heartedly doing things, when I just want to sit down for a little while. Feeling very burnt out at the moment.