If your are 70/80 plus what would your advice about life be to your younger late 40s/50 year old self be ?

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So saw this video this am, saying make a date with your 80 year old self and ask her all the thing she wish she had done when she was 50

what are you going to do with your one wild and beautiful life ? Type of thing

only trouble is
how can I ask my 80 year old self
what I should do now
because I don’t have the wisdom yet ??

sorry maybe I’m seeing this from an adhd point pov too much but
I don’t get it

so if your older please tell me what you’d tell your younger self

and surely everything is a risk etc
because there was a lot of comments saying they wished they moved
wish they lived to Greece wish they moved to the sea side etc
yet
they don’t know how that dream life would have turned out anyway

I think we can all relate to this. Well, I certainly can at least.

Yes but possibly easier to walk 10k steps when youre retired than when you're working and raising children!

Very hard to thrive when you’ve had to put so much energy and effort into surviving
in survival mode
thats been my biggest challenge too
thanks for sharing sincerely wishing you all the best for your next chapter

Thank you for your advice 💐

Thank you this instead good advice
I’ve been a stone overweight for a while now and I really really wanna shift it
and also get stronger
i also have noticed I’m a lot more stiffer these days like in my back and knees etc so some sort of stretching probably would do me good
I’ve always got back ache and stiff in the am until i have. Abath then it losens

i also fancy paddle boarding this summer
I actually fancy trying surfing too

I'm not 70 but I am quite old. My advice to my younger self would be:

If you're going to marry, marry someone amazing and don't take any shit, this will make the biggest difference to your life. (I did do this!)

The best labour saving device is money. Use it to make your life better and nicer. (I definitely do this!)

Don't spend time with people you don't care for or like much, forget obligations (except sometimes to family members). Spend time on the people that really matter and love you and want the best for you. (I try to do this)

Give up smoking (I did this years and years ago).

Maybe I wasn’t clear, I ment I don’t have the wisdom of someone older than me, because I’ve not experienced being that age

I know I’ve got wisdom, been through such hard times in life
a very difficult and rough childhood that does impinge on your ability to really thrive as so much energy goes into just surving

then lost my middle child in my 30s due to heart problems
And obviously I still struggle with this and will do until the day I die
butbive made a lot of progress with coping and making the best of my life for my children even if thats all Indian for a few years simply survive
as that took the energy of running a marathon every single day just simply survive
and I managed to stay here in Earth because I couldn’t leave my eldest child ever
I couldn’t do that
but now thankfully I’m also living for myself too
I’m not just living because I don’t want to devestate oldest child

so huge progress that I’m also living for me now

but spending so much of my life in survival mode has been my biggest challenge

Also I ment to say I have leant to listen to my inner voice so much more as he got older too
and if I’m unsure what to advise
myself i think what would I advise my child or very good friend
and that voice is often a lot softer
so I try and do that

You’ve inspired me to put a nicer top on today
and how did you lose the weight I’ve got a stubborn stone to lose but I’m gonna give myself a year to get rid of it
planning on exercising more and eatting better
but I’ll need to give myslef a firmer more detailed plan

DH took early retirement at 59, I stopped one job at 58 and my other one at 59, as I absolutely hated them - I'm not thinking I'm retired, but there is far more to life than hours in an awful job. My Mum's reaction was to just enjoy having extra time together - she's often said anyway - this comes from my Dad passing away at 55 - ie you never know what's around the corner, and also enjoy being with your partner while they're around.

I think the point there is that he's made it to an age many people would be happy with already!
Genetics does play a big part in what happens to you when you age, though obviously we should do what we can to improve our chances.
My dp spends so much time (in our 50s) thinking about retiring in his 60s - I wish he would try to enjoy the here and now more

Save and ensure a good pension

Establish and maintain those boundaries for your own well being.
Don't be concerned with your aging appearance. It matters little. Take no notice of anyone else’s opinion as to whether you should cover your grey - it’s entirely your choice.
Deal with the yo-yo dieting now. Do you still want to be chasing the scales up and down in your 80s?
Choose those who choose you.

I agree with all the advice upthread about building strength. It is important for both men and especially women.
We married later than some so were older when we could be more independent after children got to their teen years.
Don't settle for cosy middle age please. Be as adventurous as you would have been in your late 20s/early 30s. Take risks but calculate them first. Climbing, flying, sailing they are all possible from a standing start. Good young instructors will love you for joining up.
If you like art of music then travel to see the best.
Plan your life as if you expect to remain active or as active as you are now until you are 90.

I did one of those - how long will I live tests and it came back with 100! And I thought - shit, im not half way and my knees already hurt.

Yeah my knees have started to hurt now, makes me think of the sunscreen song
look after your knees you’ll miss them when their gone