Will DH even notice if I get rid of an item of his clothing?

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My husband is away for a few days. He has a top which he wears reasonably often which I don't like. It is now 6 years old (I know this for certain because there's a dated logo on it), faded and the transfers are rubbing away. I'm going to put it in the recycling vag. Do you think he will even notice? I promise to come back and update if/when he ever mentions it. Even if it's years from now.

Erm, the recycling what?

Vag?! Difficult to imagine!

I would go ape shit if my husband did that to me, regardless of how old my clothes are!

Of course he will notice if he wears it reasonably often!

I wouldn't take kindly to people throwing out my clothing. It's not yours, leave it be. Would you be fine with him throwing out your stuff? If he wears it often then how is he not going to notice?

Please don’t.

My late husband thought I’d thrown something of his away. I don’t think I did, but I’m chaotic enough that it might have happened without me remembering. It was an issue in our marriage for 12 years.

If he’s owned that top for 6 years, it’s because he likes it. It’s not ok to eliminate other people’s stuff just because you don’t like it, when it’s doing no harm to you.

My mum used to do this to me and to my dad. Drove me absolutely apeshit. He's an adult. Its his clothes not yours.

If its a Von Dutch Tee then yes use lighter fuel on it

I have done this and he didn't notice . When asked my reply was Dunno . Works a treat .

Really unreasonable to shove your husband's clothing up your minge, OP.

My DH used to have a pair of shorts that I HATED!!!! They were just awful, little holes in them, stains on them that wouldn’t come out etc but he insisted on still wearing them.

Initially I just hid them…… and then when he hadn't noticed they had gone “missing” for about 3 months I threw them out 🤣

Baby steps OP….. hide the t-shirt first and progress from there!

My sister did this to my BIL 30 years ago. He still brings it up.

DH has a couple of tops that I'm not keen on. He likes them, so he wears them. It wouldn't even occur to me to throw them out!

Would you be happy for him to throw one of your tops out ?

Even if he didn't wear it,YWBU to throw it out without permission.

Really awful thing to do. What’s wrong with you?

It's not your, leave it alone.

I have things much older than 6 years old that are perfect for some situations I'd divorce you if you started throwing MY clothes out.

If you don't have an issue with him disposing of your belongings go for it! Thankfully my DH and I have respect for each others belongings

I’m only really here for the recycling vag… However, of course you shouldn’t do this. Wouldn’t you be raging if he did it to you? That said, if i did do that my partner would be very unlikely to notice!

Brings to mind the boil-in-the-vag thread of yore 😄

Why would you? He obviously likes it and wears it often

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Dh loathesome item removal expert here!

You take it and put it in an opaque bag of some sort amd hide it somewhere random (guest bedroom ottoman, back of top bit of wardrobe etc)

Then you watch and wait.

If he comments I magically find it.
If no comment in 6 months out it goes and them I do the whole "you have so much stuff its there somewhere!!!"

I can get away with this as my dh has a crazy amount of clothing.
E.g he has 15 pairs of holiday shorts many unworn and these are only used on annual summer hols (so 7 days per year) lord help me.
The maths ain't mathin'

Ha ha! sorry for typo. I will report back.

I did eventually manage to persuade DH that a t-shirt that was an awkward shade of acid-yellow even prior to having been washed umpteen times with jeans and other dark clothes was best saved for decorating in.

However I did often relax the elastic cord on the bottom of his trackies as they caused them to ride up his ankles somewhat ridiculously when he insisted on tightening them.

Generally I leave him to it.

He leaves me to it. I am not always a idol of sartorial elegance but scrub up ok for leaving the house.

I wouldn't bin his stuff though because I'd hate him doing it to me.

Depends on how you'd feel if he turned the favour surely. My mum binned an old jumper of my dad's. He was furious and made half a wardrobe of her clothes disappear for a while (into the attic).

Not acceptable to throw out someone else's stuff.

If it was a man asking this there would be a MN leave the abusive B pile-on.