I don't want to be fat. But i don't exercise.

[Rainydays26]

I feel like I'm going to be fat for ever. I know ideally your meant to loose weight slowly but it just feels hopeless. I have lost but its now slowed right down to an almost stop.

I know the answer is exercise I do very little. I just can't get motivated. I never stick to it. I have apps as smart bike that I can do challenges with when connected to tv. I need to do core and stomach exercise I find that even harder to do. Logically I know what I need to do. And it's down to me to put the effort in. But I find it hard. When it should be simple.

Just edit to add i can't reduce calories anymore. I'm already lower than I should be.

Everyone always says that but in my experience it's not true.
Since I have started walking more I found i lost weight much more easily. Similarly with others I know.

Exercise is something where Nike got it right...Just Do It.

Make an appointment in your calendar and go and sit on the bike for 15mins, do ten twists or whatever.
I go to bootcamp on a Sunday morning... I set an alarm and get up on a Sunday at 8.30 and just get on with it.

Go to a class you'll have someone to look at your form and make sure you're planking correctly. You don't have to speak to people you can vaguely nod in their direction to be sociable. No one cares.

Exercise will make very little difference, but it will stop you reaching to the fridge

I really think I still have alot of fat here. I don't think its just loose skin. I have included a photo. Because I want to be blunt in what I actually look like. Bmi says one thing my stomach says the opposite.

@Rainydays26 if it is your middle that bothers you most it’s not going to look better without exercises. Why not just start with 10 minutes of abs exercises a day, planks are quite tough to start with and have the potential to hurt your back if you don’t have enough ab strength for good technique. Toe taps and dead bugs are good beginner exercises also Pilates 100’s. In fact Pilates abs exercises are good as option as there is so much focus on correct technique

What do you eat OP? In this weather (assuming you are in the hot part of the Uk), you need very little food especially if you are over weight.

Today I have had 1.5 pints of milky coffee, two litres of water and a salad with 100gm of smoked mackerel. No salad dressing just lettuce, tomatoes, cucumber, radishes.

Look at your diet. Cut out anything pre-made. Go back to basic grilled protein & veg. Swap white bread/pasta/couscous for wholemeal. Halve your carb intake. Cut out crisps and sweet snacks. Drink plenty of water. Walk two or three miles each day (lunchtime? evening?) which will help with body tone.

Your weight will come off.

Lucy Wyndham Read on YouTube. Her abs exercises really work. Little and often is a good idea, try one of her 7 days challenges.

Thank you. I have screen shot your. Post so I can look at some of theses suggestions. Some of the house things may help i don't know how much but like you say they are every day things. I have plenty that needs doing. And it has a purpose

The more you exercise the more you’ll be able to eat. More muscle means you burn more calories and you only need to do 20 minutes per day of weights with a couple of walks a week.

Well this is the website for the nutritious movement approach - no idea what it's like now, as I haven't been there for years. I get obsessed with things for a while and then I just drop them like I've never heard of them (this is very typical of ADHD apparently) but it would probably be a good place to learn more.

https://nutritiousmovement.com/

I have already lost weight. Sorry my op was really crap.. I was mire focused 9n howvi felt ans was writing what was in my head. So it was written badly.

Thank you. I had a look but I can't take anything in. I will look properly later though when i can focus.

Op. Losing weight isn’t going to improve it, you’ve no muscle. I mean this gently but your backside is also flat. You’ve lost a lot of muscle not just fat, which makes me think you’ve not worked out during this journey at all or eaten enough protein. Unless you lost it due to ill health?

you just need to focus on body recomp. Sure you can still lose more weight, but your won’t look better for it.

thid is my stomach after 6 and a half stone loss. This was several months ago, it looks firmer again now. I’m in my fifties, your issue is not your weight, your issue is you’ve lost a lot of muscle. You now need to maintain your weight whilst rebuilding the muscle. As you do body fat will decrease and your body will become toned.

there is no way round it, you won’t miraculously emerge toned by losing more weight, you stomach will get worse as the skin will just sag and look awful

I’d stop looking at online images, increasingly often AI generated or at best images of people who exercise professionally for hours a day and/or are years younger. Your body is the only one you will ever have, and what it can do/how it feels are your best goals. See if you can do a sit to stand without using your hands to help - if that’s a struggle, go back to the inline planks or any core training you can find online.

Yeah i have no butt. I can feel my tail bone when I'm sitting. Your right I hardly done any exercise at all. I would do the exercise bike 90 mins in the morning 90 in the evening I kept that up for 2 weeks then nothing. So I really have to make exercise my new focus. If I want things to change. I definitely don't want it to get worse.

Honestly don’t focus on cardio, you don’t need to do that much and you will get bored so fast.

i -posted mine up line, I am doing about 45-1 hour a day now, but I didn’t always, i built up from 20 mins and I did it, with much much less intensity .

its not how long yoh do it. Its how much intensity.

I’m sure you don’t mean me, but just in case, that’s a genuine picture, I don’t do more than an hour a day , often 45 mins, and I’m in my fifties. I do have a home gym which makes it easier. I do 5-6 days a week.

You look great. There was Google picture I posted.. because I wanted to compare toned vs not toned.

Look into The Human Being Diet. It’s quite straightforward, rule is no exercise other than walking as it stresses the body for the initial stages. Weight loss is very good and don’t feel hungry after initial few days.

I think that was worth doing though and the images looked realistic to me.

Yeah it was more of a visual for me to compare and understand the tone thing.

Yeah I got that. As said I’ve been there, flat arse and all. Your weight is good, if you start to exercise, strength mainly;, eat your protein, you will lose body fat and gain muscle.

a lot of people do it, I see it all over this forum, people lose the weight and then don’t like what they see in the mirror when they hit goal. Because they don’t work out throughout snd focus on the number on the scales and getting the weight off, the dress size.

its such a much more complex journey than that. But it’s fixable. If you start now, just small, in six months you will see a big difference, if you do it right and yoh do it consistently.

alternatively you can not start, try to lose more weight, or stay as yoh are, and in six months still feel crap about it.

Exercise is important for your health, not just weight loss. You don’t have to like it just get on with it.

I will definitely try. Now that i understand more.i wasn't really getting it before and yeah its been all about numbers for me But now I need to do the next phase get some muscle back and tone and that will change how my body looks. You read me like a book🫠

Its not always that' simple it can be hard physically, motivation. Energy. How you feel mentally .