AIBU to report neighbours after repeated balls and noise in our garden?

[IcyShark]

So Ive been in my house 13 years. My neighbours 3 years. Since they've moved in they're kids have thrown things over my fence, made my dog ill, damaging their own fencing between us etc. However, its the constant football landing in my garden when im out there or my kids are out there. Im not talking once im talking constant full pelt over the fence. I went round last week told them please stop your going to hurt my dog if you hit her, I have baby rabbits outside please stop, I have new glass garden furniture and above all you hit my kids they are going to get hurt. My kids are autistic and have a right to enjoy their garden too without feeling unsafe. Also the kids are always outside screaming. I mean full in screaming and shouting till gone half 9 some nights. My youngest is on meds and once given goes to bed so they are not being helpful. And the language on these kids is awful. So today the ball comes over the fence and smashes me straight in the back. It was bound to happen and at least it didnt hit my kids. So I picked it up threw it back over and told them straight that just hit me ive had enough of telling you about the ball. Silence. So I asked for an apology and got a half arsed gutted sorry. So the mum comes out and was like you cant tell my kids blah blah blah they are just kids doing kids stuff. I said no they have been told plenty of times and so have you about the ball. Basically the sun shines out of her kids backsides. She the ball doesn't come over everyday and I told her your not outside or even watching them most of time so how would you know. So words were exchanged but it was coming to that anyway. See I rent they own so what options do I have to report this nuisance. And BTW they even purposely sent water over the fence earlier with the hose soaking my new garden furniture. When politely asked to stop did it again.im guessing the only option I may have is to record things down amd document things. AIBU to do this?

Who would you report them to ?

I’d start by telling them they can come to the front door to collect the ball once a week at a particular time that is suitable for you. If they aren’t home, they’ll have to wait for the following week. Definitely stop throwing it straight back. Or at the very least, tell them you will only give it back to a parent that comes to your front door to ask for it - maybe then the parents will realise just how often it’s happening, and when it’s as inconvenient for them as it is for you, they might start to tell the kids to keep it in the garden or do something else!

I’m not sure there’s anyone you can report them to, so I’d lose that idea!

Very good ideas.

Stop throwing the ball back!

If the parents won’t take responsibility, then you can. Footballs are quite expensive. Stop throwing it back and say you’ll give them back once a week only. If it continues, don’t return the balls at all. They’ll soon stop then.
Also can you put up a high trellis with thick plants - climbing roses maybe?

Id have put a knife in the ball and said the dog done it.

Do they own or rent?

They own, op rents.

Yeah I would knife the ball.

Id buy a barrier net. You can get 10 foot ones. That will stop the ball coming over. The other stuff you can't control. The kids are allowed to play in the garden. You dant really control their language or noise during the day. You could keep a record of the swearing, hose pipe stuff and loud noise. You need to write time, date. What happened, how if impacts you. The weather at the time. You long it with the Anti Social behaviour team at your local authority. They usually have a form you download. I did this with my neighbours but they were playing drums and piano in the early hours of the morning. I knocked at 3 and 5 am before.

I sympathise to a point - but one ball once or twice a day, although annoying, could be much worse. When my awful neighbours who had five kids living in the house were living next door - they’ve gone now thank god - I sometimes had 12/13 balls A DAY in my garden. They’d smashed and crushed my plants, broke my greenhouse and garage windows. They’d be out there until gone half 11/12 midnight smashing balls into the fence and screaming swear words. Couldn’t talk to the parents, they were as feral as the kids. In the end I stopped throwing them back. They came round a few times but I just denied they were in the garden. If they have to buy new balls they’ll stop eventually. Keeping throwing them back and they’ll keep coming over.

I’d burst the ball tbh

This is why i love living in my first floor flat.

Rationing the times they can get their ball back and insisting upon the parents collecting it is a good idea. The parents will soon get tired of that. On the odd occasions a ball comes into my garden it gets left there until my nephew comes around. He throws it out into the street for any kid to claim as we cant be expected to know who it belongs to. Its a long time now since any came over.

Some good ideas about them having to come and get the balls when its reasonable for me. I think Im just ranting but it is extremely frustrating.
I dont mind kids playing. In fact it lovely hear kids out and about these days. But, when Im subject to aerial warfare whenever my kids and I want to be outside is annoying. Like I've said they've thrown things over because they dont like my dog. Weve had orange peel which Ive witnessed the boy eating then lob the peels over, fruit shoots and lids, broken biros, glass, cooked chicken bones, nut shells and once we had halls soothers which my dog got hold of and they gave her sickness and diarrhoea. She's a lovely little dog and is terrified if we pass them in the street when walking.

Agree, they can collect ball once a week at a time suits you. In reality they and their parents obviously don't really care as they'd reduce how often it happens and apologise.

By comparison, we had a couple of lads living next door for 18 months. I only threw their ball back once. The second time, I didn't realise it was there until they knocked on the door looking absolutely terrified and apologising.

I wouldn't throw the ball back, would not speak to them at all over the fence, if they want it back they can call round for it. Leave them standing waiting for ages while you "try to find it", keep doing this and they will soon learn it is a complete pain in the butt having to keep fetching their ball so they may be more careful and accurate with their kicks.

Your update on the stuff they are throwing in. I’d be gathering it up and dropping it back to the parent’s arms.

The ball thing because of the other stuff I’d not tolerate either whereas normally that wouldn’t bother me.