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AIBU to report neighbours after repeated balls and noise in our garden?

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IcyShark · 24/05/2026 22:26

So Ive been in my house 13 years. My neighbours 3 years. Since they've moved in they're kids have thrown things over my fence, made my dog ill, damaging their own fencing between us etc. However, its the constant football landing in my garden when im out there or my kids are out there. Im not talking once im talking constant full pelt over the fence. I went round last week told them please stop your going to hurt my dog if you hit her, I have baby rabbits outside please stop, I have new glass garden furniture and above all you hit my kids they are going to get hurt. My kids are autistic and have a right to enjoy their garden too without feeling unsafe. Also the kids are always outside screaming. I mean full in screaming and shouting till gone half 9 some nights. My youngest is on meds and once given goes to bed so they are not being helpful. And the language on these kids is awful. So today the ball comes over the fence and smashes me straight in the back. It was bound to happen and at least it didnt hit my kids. So I picked it up threw it back over and told them straight that just hit me ive had enough of telling you about the ball. Silence. So I asked for an apology and got a half arsed gutted sorry. So the mum comes out and was like you cant tell my kids blah blah blah they are just kids doing kids stuff. I said no they have been told plenty of times and so have you about the ball. Basically the sun shines out of her kids backsides. She the ball doesn't come over everyday and I told her your not outside or even watching them most of time so how would you know. So words were exchanged but it was coming to that anyway. See I rent they own so what options do I have to report this nuisance. And BTW they even purposely sent water over the fence earlier with the hose soaking my new garden furniture. When politely asked to stop did it again.im guessing the only option I may have is to record things down amd document things. AIBU to do this?

OP posts:
CombatBarbie · 07/06/2026 14:53

Cobrakainerd · 07/06/2026 09:11

Knitting needle through every ball, once deflated in a bin bag, with every bit of debris they throw, empty on doorstep while they are out and after bin day each week. They query the balls, they 'landed on your prickly bush/ dog must have popped ' .

Id pop it and throw it back over...... as well as ring doorbells....

Balloonhearts · 07/06/2026 14:56

Keep a big knife to hand and stab every ball that comes over, before chucking it back.

LizardyGuts · 07/06/2026 15:19

You have a dog. Excellent.
What a shame that EVERY time a ball comes over, it just happens to land in a dog poo.
When every ball (and other item of rubbish) comes sailing back covered in shit, the missiles might stop.

(If not, progress to knives. Who knew your dog had such sharp teeth?)

DeltaVariant · 07/06/2026 15:30

Let your dog burst every single ball

AmazingGreatAunt · 07/06/2026 15:53

Keep all the balls and save any other rubbish in a dedicated bag/container that you take back in person once a week/month. Never return the balls. If the want them, they need to make the effort.

Friendlygingercat · 07/06/2026 16:49

The secret is to make it a pain in the ass for the kids so they run out of balls and the adults so they run out of patience.

PeoplesNet · 22/06/2026 21:32

IcyShark · 24/05/2026 22:26

So Ive been in my house 13 years. My neighbours 3 years. Since they've moved in they're kids have thrown things over my fence, made my dog ill, damaging their own fencing between us etc. However, its the constant football landing in my garden when im out there or my kids are out there. Im not talking once im talking constant full pelt over the fence. I went round last week told them please stop your going to hurt my dog if you hit her, I have baby rabbits outside please stop, I have new glass garden furniture and above all you hit my kids they are going to get hurt. My kids are autistic and have a right to enjoy their garden too without feeling unsafe. Also the kids are always outside screaming. I mean full in screaming and shouting till gone half 9 some nights. My youngest is on meds and once given goes to bed so they are not being helpful. And the language on these kids is awful. So today the ball comes over the fence and smashes me straight in the back. It was bound to happen and at least it didnt hit my kids. So I picked it up threw it back over and told them straight that just hit me ive had enough of telling you about the ball. Silence. So I asked for an apology and got a half arsed gutted sorry. So the mum comes out and was like you cant tell my kids blah blah blah they are just kids doing kids stuff. I said no they have been told plenty of times and so have you about the ball. Basically the sun shines out of her kids backsides. She the ball doesn't come over everyday and I told her your not outside or even watching them most of time so how would you know. So words were exchanged but it was coming to that anyway. See I rent they own so what options do I have to report this nuisance. And BTW they even purposely sent water over the fence earlier with the hose soaking my new garden furniture. When politely asked to stop did it again.im guessing the only option I may have is to record things down amd document things. AIBU to do this?

Send their balls back with dog shit on them? Drench their garden? Chuck balls into their garden? Take up baseball? Get into heavy metal late at night? Plenty of options for being an equally pleasant neighbour.

Or... Just move.

I suppose reporting to the council 'could' help if the parents care about stuff like that. Occasionally, a letter about antisocial behaviour could work, especially if they do something for a living which would be impacted.

Now, if you know where they work.. that's another option.

CaptainBeefheartspal · 23/06/2026 14:12

Don’t throw it back.

Skybluepinky · 23/06/2026 15:57

Don’t enter arguments, only return balls when it suits you. You can’t stop people using their garden, your children having additional needs doesn’t trump that.

Tolodex · 23/06/2026 16:02

CombatBarbie · 24/05/2026 23:02

Do they own or rent?

I rent they own

It is in the OP.

Shinyandnew1 · 23/06/2026 16:09

Keep the balls and deny all knowledge

GreyBeeplus3 · 23/06/2026 23:20

Had this problem with a neighbours grand daughter who got a whole load of local boys involved
If you're with a Housing association/Council speak to your housing officer and keep records and tell them you want the family spoken to and made aware of any tenancy rules they may be violating
Do you have cameras up covering the garden/side/front yard?
Your neighbour doesn't like you so won't care about the trouble her kids cause; as far as she's concerned you're the one who started it all and although that's not the case that is what she'll claim (happened to me)
So you protect your household and self
If you own the house still do the records/ cameras with audio
And still speak to the council /CAB about your rights and rules/laws they may have broken
Get the police involved they should have some sort of neighbourhood police scheme going on?
And once, in my case they saw the tapes/read the records.....
And include the ball accident that happened to you too along with all your family and pets troubles
Everything as best you can so far and better still if you can remember even further back
Miss nothing out
Good Luck My Love
I would never have chosen 90% of the neighbours I have, if I couldve afforded to buy.....

IcyShark · 24/06/2026 06:25

Thankyou that's some decent advice. They own and we private rent but I've been here 13 years amd them 3. I get on with all my other neighbours in the street and alot of them know my plight. Since me telling her off ots amazing how no balls or other bits have made there way into my garden. Funny that.
To be honest I think she let's them run riot, doesn't watch them or have a clue what her kids get up to.

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QueenietheGreat · 24/06/2026 14:00

@IcyShark
Still be mindful though
Friend had the same problem which resolved/died down
But when neighbour managed to bag herself new gobshite useless aggressive partner
Neighbour felt emboldened again to start up where she'd left off because of 'her mans' presence
Upshot of scenario is, he left and impregnated local young girl round corner
And its like neighbour now doesn't even exist next door anymore 🤣

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