How much to gift sons girlfriend for birthday

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They have been together a few years and live together, I have previously bought a gift for her birthday but we won't be visiting and it's too late to send anything so I'll be sending some money and I'm curious as to what others would give or think is a normal amount to gift in this situation.

I would say £50 would be suffice

It depends on many things like income etc.
I send my DIL about £50 for her birthday.

Yes this is what I spend on Dds partners they are in LTR.

I would base it on what you usually spend and any other money gifts you make. £50 sounds good to me - would she appreciate a voucher for that amount?

How much would you normally spend on a gift? Do you also give Christmas presents?
Not the same but I have a god daughter who is a teen and I give her and her sister a voucher/gift worth £25 each.
When buying for my MIL, we'd usually spend max £50 but often less for Christmas and maybe flowers/small gift for birthday.

If you could do £50 that would be great.

As others have said, £50 seems reasonable, enough to get something decent.

Would you send her a gift voucher for something you know she'd like rather than money, as more thoughtful.

Why don’t you send her something like a moonpig card where you can add on flowers, chocolates etc.

I’ve been married to DH for 25 years. My MIL gives me £30 for my birthday which I’m always very grateful for.

Can you send her a voucher in email instead instead or as a pp suggested a moonpig card with "something " we do this for the inlaws saves postage.

I'd send something in the region of what you'd normally spend on her.

I'd send a gift voucher as giving cash to an adult as a gift can feel tacky.

What do you normally spend?

Ah this is interesting thanks! I initially thought 50 too. I don't feel I can compare to previous years as the first year I spent around 25 as it was a new relationship, last year I think spent over 60 as it was her 21st. We do also spend at Christmas, as they always stay with us so I spend sons budget between them both as a mix of joint and individual gifts.

My adult dds love getting cash as a gift i usually get them a bottle of wine or some cider to go with it, i also dont mind cash .

50 quid? Bloody hell, I don't get that from my mum!

I read the thread title and thought 50...which seems to be the most popular sum, so if I were you, I would go with that.
I also agree with others that a voucher for somewhere you know she likes would be nicer than money.

My ex boyfriends mum on a widows pension once gave me an £85 mani pedi voucher bless her

Same here! My millionaire parents give £20 in a card and I’m grateful for that!

OP could you Amazon Prime her a gift? Send her flowers?

I’m sure you won’t, but don’t send cash in a card. My in laws do this for our children, but post frequently goes missing and I’ve noticed envelopes that look like birthday cards sometimes appear slightly ripped as if someone were checking the contents…

I think it depends how big the family is and how many people you buy gifts for. 50 seems a lot to me, but then I’ve got 2 children, 9 nephews/nieces and 3 godchildren to buy for. Not counting my siblings /mum/parther/ friends’ birthdays. If I did 50 for each of those I would end up skint lol. 30 seems a nice round figure for a normal birthday :)

My MIL gave me £400 for my birthday this year. I was 40 but it was still very generous! She also got me some small gifts to open.

What would you gift your son? Gift this. That's what my parents have always done. Treated my DH as part of the family not a second class member.

My MiL usually puts £30 in my account or a £30 amazon gift card.

The amount isn't important. The parity is.

Oh goodness such a mix of opinions now 🙈 to be fair I wouldn't spend that much on siblings or nephews/nieces unless it was a milestone birthday so maybe that's why I'm questioning it but I would usually give my children more than this amount so it's somewhere in-between as she feels part of the family being a long term gf but they're not married, don't share a mortgage or children yet so I feel I would give them equal amounts further down the line in their relationship... unless I just give him less for his next birthday, I shall ponder on that 🤔😂

It's hard to compare with what our parents give us as times have changed so much and people usually stick with a set amount over the years but this is a similar amount to what my mum would give us but not my MIL as everyone's different 😊