Does anyone else’s DM clutch their pearls if wearing anything low cut?

[TheNaturalBronde]

As per the title , love my DM dearly but I get driven to distraction by what I interpret as body policing a little bit by my DM especially if in wearing something low cut like a vest top or summer dress.

Im 38, size 22/24 in most things and roughly a 38/40F , dependent on bra Style

and it can be difficult not to look a bit booby in summer wear, I’m not innapropriate I don’t wear these things at work, family functions etc

but there’s often a “ oh we’re a bit low aren’t we, it’s ok we have time change? 🤨
or I can stitch that for you, I often say no as it ruins the style.
on
holi abroad it was 28 c and there was surprise there aswell, I said im
on holiday I’ll wear what I’m comfortable in, I know it’s partly generational.

anyone else have this issue ? Argh! 😣

I dont think my mum would care....she is one of those more likely to reminisce about the mad clothes she wore in the 60s instead!

It wouldnt come up though as I hate getting my cleavage out (proud owner of modesty panels and hijab magnets to cover any gaps). Im not againest anybody showing some skin and if you have the curves then by all means show them off. I just prefer to be more covered in general.

You are not comparing like with like. Nobody mentioned visiting a solicitor (until now!). If l went to see a woman solicitor l would not expect her to be in shorts and no top either, nor a skimpy top.

But going back in history, if you want the upmost of cleavage look at the French Royal Court under the rule of Louis XlV (1638 onwards) when it was not uncommon for some dresses with all their finery to reveal a nipple. I’m not suggesting we go back to that, but cleavage is nothing new.

My MIL is opposite. She comments about my high necklines and the fact I don't ever go braless and made this comment in front of my FIL. 😳

Just comes with MIL territory, I guess.

It’s the fact that she keeps banging on about the same old bloody subject that would get on my tits (no pun intended!).

That goes for any topic, cos, it’s just fucking boring. 🥱

Your mum sounds amazing

@7238SM, according to my mother an ankle bracelet means that you are prostitute 😂(as, probably, does red lipstick or red nail-polish).
My mother also thinks any toe-nail polish is a sign that you are "common." I now particularly enjoy wearing all of these things.
My dad, when I was a teenager getting dressed to go out in the evening, used to say "Are you selling those by the pound" if I showed any flesh. He would also say that I smelled like a "whore's handbag" if I wore perfume. These comments were actually quite damaging, and made me feel ashamed.

Not this issue, but she will tell me if she thinks that I’ve put on weight!

That’s the nature of an analogy, you don’t compare like for like, you put the same concept of ‘covering up or not’ into a different situation (sometimes exaggerated) to illustrate the point. I mean, make it less exaggerated if you want- imagine the male solicitor in a shirt open to the mid rib cage, showing just as much chest as a low cut top does on a big busted women. Chest hair is less s*xual than breasts but it would still be weird and unnecessary.

Aside from breastfeeding and anywhere where swimwear or getting changed is appropriate - there’s not many places a full few inches of cleavage is appropriate to have visible to others.

But we are not, or were not, talking about visits to lawyers. Where did the OP mention this? Your scenario sounds like a solicitor at Austin Powers LLP. Like many, l dress differently for work to l do on non work days. But l can bring myself to type the word “sexual” without needing an asterisk.

Yes. But then she always claimed that she was so big chested she couldn't wear blouses because the front would gape. No she wasn't and no they didn't.

yes, and she hoiks up her ankle length skirt about knickers and vests (bras are unseemly) in anything other than white fine ribbed cotton. can you even still get those?

I would like to add for clarification i absolutely do not have cleavage at work and are quite strict rules
outside of work I would like to do whatever the hell I please 🙃

One of my pet peeves is dresses that have such a low front your bra is showing ( at least my giant sports bras!). I'm assuming they are designed as somewhere to put your cleavage though so fashion clearly doesn't have a problem with it!

Yes. With 38Gg boobs everything is busty 🤣🤣
I have some gorgeous cross over dresses that give me a lovely hourglass figure. Mother always comments ‘it’s a bit booby’ well duh yeah and that’s how I (and my hubby) like it 🤣🤣