Dad still attending playgroup after child started school

[winelover100]

At a local playgroup we go too there's a Dad who turns up every week with no children what so ever. His child left last July as started school in September. I feel very awkward about this and when i asked the playgroup leader she didn't seem bothered.

You could always ask him why he is still coming.

It 100% is real.

You might have a point of speaking to the church directly instead of the organsiers.

His job never came into it before tbh it was a giggle behind the coffee but he used to come with his and daughter every week and occasionally his wife and they were always open about their job. Its just now he comes on his own, sits on his phone every single week.

Love the pun 🤣🤣

Did you notice that shark you just jumped?

I know one of these. Works in an off license. Totally weird.

I thought you were talking about him until you got into the porn creation with his wife. Although I haven’t checked this guys car.

He sounds lonely 😢

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Direct quote from the lady who runs the group, "I know it's a bit much him coming every week but there's not alot we can do as we always say people are welcome to pop back to say hello."

There is obviously information that you aren’t privy to and the group leaders don’t want you knowing about.

No playgroup has a policy of people being able to attend without children, especially so regularly.

The fact that he’s attending most sessions and staying the full time suggests that he is much more involved than you realise.

You have spoken to the leaders and they are ok with it and so now you need to stay out of it.

This is what I would think too if he’s sitting on his phone rather than looking at the other children (presuming he’s not taking photos on his phone!)

What an odd place MN is today.

If he on his phone he could be filming them. It's weird af

Weird at best. Worst case, is he could be a PDF. Personally, I think he is probably there to befriend and pick up some 'yummy mummies '.

Yeah I would say he sounds lonely.

Presumably he isnt sitting there on his phone as the OP would have mentioned it.

Perfect! 😂

There's this man who works in [porn or similar] who comes to a pre-school playgroup every single week despite not having a child there and sits there fiddling with his phone for the session. Is it acceptable for me to think this might not be entirely OK?'

You couldn’t make this up!

Indeed.

She really did go too far

there's not alot we can do as we always say people are welcome to pop back to say hello.

They need to tighten up on this...what does say hello mean...I don't think it's come every week and sit on your phone.

Typically you would need to be bringing a child or be a volunteer.

Uanbu

What pun...?

Well actually….

You can get coffee and cake for £1?? I need to join a playgroup 🤣

Im sorry but this must be a wind up, I go to Church and they are full gear into safeguarding right now, you cant say or do anything without being sent on a course, if an unattached male, who works in porn was sitting at our children's church playgroup alone on his phone there would be sirens going off, he would not be there and if this true and the play leader is allowing it then safeguarding officers need talking to!

That’s exactly what the OP says he’s doing.

And then we find out he works in “the adult industry.” 🙄

This happened at my playgroup but with a woman. She started taking a very unhealthy interest in my son, she started pestering him and telling him off for no reason. I tried to ignore it but the situation got much worse and very uncomfortable. I asked her politely to stop, but she started getting other people involved. It all came horribly crashing down. I complained to the playgroup and they were very non commital and dismissive. So basically after attending for a number of years with my other children I won't be going back.

It's not. I just haven't written it very well, i should have put all the detail into my first post, i didnt expect all the replies.

ahh sorry to hear that. awful when you've been going for so long too.