Dad still attending playgroup after child started school

[winelover100]

At a local playgroup we go too there's a Dad who turns up every week with no children what so ever. His child left last July as started school in September. I feel very awkward about this and when i asked the playgroup leader she didn't seem bothered.

Is he the Vicar?
As it's a church run group?

Im sorry I don't know how to reply to individual posts.

He's not the babies dad 100%.

Direct quote from the lady who runs the group, "I know it's a bit much him coming every week but there's not alot we can do as we always say people are welcome to pop back to say hello."

He's 100% not a volunteer. I have been going to the playgroup myself for a few years now and the same 3 ladies run the group, do the coffees, sing the songs and then tidy up.

Yes over the past few weeks a couple of other parents have started to discuss it, hence why i have spoken to the leader. I thought i would get a general view from here if im just way out of touch with normal and acceptable or whether i stop going.

@winelover100 if it's a church run group then I would talk to the vicar/priest or whoever is in charge if you have concerns.

What are you worried about him doing?

It's very odd but I'd assume he's bored and lonely if he's a SAHD with kids at school. Probably not busy doing housework either 🤔

I'd strike up a conversation and say 'oh I thought your child went to school this year, do you have a younger one?' and see what he says.

Why don't you ask him?. I mean engage in a conversation about his children etc which might lead to an explanation!

We used to speak when he had his daughter coming last year. He definitely doesn't. He works within the adult industry, which i don't think helps the way people feel.

What is he doing on his phone? Hopefully not filming or recording the little kids.

Has anyone directly asked him: why are you here, if you're not interested in doing anything and just sit there?

@winelover100 "adult industry" ?
What does that mean?
(do you mean sex industry.....)

Aaanndd there it is 🤣🤣

Yeah... I am starting to think "hmmmm🤔"

No. It's just a bit odd and I don't know whether i should find it awkward or not

This is really odd, I would bring it up and say there's a few of you not comfortable with the situation. Really it should be that you attend with a child, this is a policy for a lot of places inc just playgrounds

Only fans with his wife. And no not rumours, he has stickers on his car promoting it and has done it for many years.

So he’s a porn star sitting in a play group by himself?! Wtf is going on here?! 🤣

Oh dear you went too far

This has to be a wind up 🤣🤣🤣

Im not worried of him doing anything, i just personally find it a little odd behaviour. and thought id ask on here to gauge if myself and a few others are wrong for finding it awkward or not.

Adult industry? Does he produce porn? Is he a pimp? What exactly? How do you know? Do the organisers know about this?

@winelover100 seriously.....just speak to actually runs/funds the playgroup (the church?).
Tell them you find it uncomfortable and what is their actual policy around this.
(if this is real....)

I absolutely wish it was.

Ah, one of these threads 😳
Must be a full moon tonight.

FFS is this a wind up?

'There's this man who works in [porn or similar] who comes to a pre-school playgroup every single week despite not having a child there and sits there fiddling with his phone for the session. Is it acceptable for me to think this might not be entirely OK?'

What on earth has happened to the world? Is everyone really this terrified of not being thought of as 'nice'?

At best he has absolutely no sense of appropriate social boundaries (which is itself a problem around small children). You know what the worst is.

I would stop going and politely inform the organisers why - safeguarding.

Oh that drip feed 😂 this is just too weird. Can't you find another playgroup to go to instead?

Maybe when everyone else gets too uncomfortable and leave, they might decide to reconsider this "everybody's welcome" approach. It's a children's playgroup. You need a child (or to help out!).