Should you get dolls that looks like your child

[TheZanyPinkSquid]

Hi all,

I know this is a really tiny “issue”.

My daughter’s birthday is coming up, she asked for an American Girl doll and I got her a second hand one online. I picked one of the only ones in my budget which happened to have light hair and blue eyes, I thought it was a cute doll and didn’t think much of it.
However, my sisters are telling me that I should have got a doll that looks like my daughter, as a lot of mixed race children and children from minorities grow up feeling underrepresented
and develop insecurities because of it... My daughter is mixed white/Pakistani/Arab.

Should I sell it on and keep looking for another one that looks more like her? (Olive skin, black hair, dark brown eyes) Or is it fine?

thank you

Just to reassure you... We did offer our biracial child dolls that looked liked them but they adored curly blonde hair, blue eyed ones! So many adults got offended on their behalf though questioning why we hadn't been supportive of our child's heritage!

My dc are black and I only ever bought them black dolls because there are plenty of white dolls everywhere else. At school and the doctors waiting area, in their friends houses etc. They did of course end up with white dolls too from other people.

When I was a child I had 4 dolls. 1 white doll, 1 white tiny tears, 1 black doll with gorgeous curly hair, and 1 black doll that smelt like chocolate. The one that smelt like chocolate was my favourite. Dm still has them somewhere in her house I believe.