Widowed? When did you remove your wedding ring?

[ClaudiaNaughton]

Not sure what to do.

My dad.still wears.his 15 years after his wife died.

I still wear mine but it’s on my right hand now.

i think i took it off as my finger was sore and just never put it back on my left. That was about 18 months ago and ive been widowed 5 years.

I still wear mine on my left hand. It was hand made as a gift on our Ruby wedding and is a narrow rounded band with 5 tiny rubies embedded around it. It has been 6 years but I have not taken it off and do not intend to. It is very pretty and I love it. And I have no wish to signal availability.... !

My Mum who's 83 will always wear hers. She was married to my Dad for 54 years. One thing she does now is wear her engagement ring all the time which she didn't used to. It's a lovely piece of jewellery and I'm glad.

Sending you an hug. It’s an indescribable and sometimes intolerable pain. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

I wear my ring intermittently, just as I always have done. I still feel married, and can’t imagine a time when I won’t.

It's five years for me. I'm still wearing mine.

It very much varies from person to person. Mine is staying on - I was married 27 years and I'm not looking for another man.

I took mine off at 3.5 yrs for the first time, we were married for 16 years but together 24, I was 44 when he died. Its such a personal moment of when or if you ever decide to do it. There is not right or wrong. Periodically I put mine back on for a few days or a week as my engagement ring is a belter of a sparkler and I love jewellery. This also satisfies my not having made a decison one way or another……..Yet for me, Its an odd feeling, it doesn’t fit on my right hand and as time has passed on my left it feels different. Just another complexity in the gift of spousal grief.

Sold mine whilst he was still in a care home.

I think the only correct answer is when and if you want to

I had a weird situation last year where a man blatantly checked whether I was wearing a ring, commented on my marital status and then ended the conversation...

I thought that we were just having a friendly chat at the gym. (I didn't know him.) I didn't tell him that I'm a widow - and I didn't want him to think that I was interested in him that way.

I know that I'm a widow, but I still feel married. Mind you, I'm much older - 66.

This.

@allflownthenest huge huge hugs, its still so new and raw for you. Those early waves of grief are relentless. I hope you have good support locally 💐

My mum lived for 7 years after my dad died, she never took off her wedding ring, when she died last month I inherited her rings & I wear it next to my Nan's wedding ring, I'll never take it off.

My father's third wife was a widow. She never took.off her first wedding ring. Father's simply joined it. I thought that was nice.

Thank you. I feel as if I've gone backwards really and feel as if there is no light at the end of the tunnel . I know I'll get there.
Sorry didn't mean to derail the thread.

Thank you I do.

Sorry for your loss. Do whatever is right for you.

I would still wear mine and my DM and MIL still wears theirs.

My 74yr old mil became a widow last year and I couldn't tell you if she's wearing her rings or not. I'm assuming she is but I haven't noticed or looked.
I certainly wouldn't judge her either way.

Op there's no mistakes, if you take your ring off and it doesn't feel right you can always put it back on.
Or maybe try a day out and a out without it and see how you feel.
Nothing is set in stone and there's no right or wrong 💐

I (widowed in my 30s) kept wearing mine for a few years but then needed to get it resized (arthritic joints), and it came back smooth and shiny and didn't feel like mine any more, so I stopped wearing it.

My brother-in-law (aged 50) stopped wearing his as soon as my sister died. My grandmother (widowed in her 50s) wore hers until.she died in her 80s.

Everyone is different; do what feels right for you.