A situation with the police (trigger warning r*pe). Any police officers about?

[TheDrswife]

Nc for this.

a good friend of my DD was arrested a year ago on suspicion of rape of someone she doesn’t know. Absolute shock for the whole friendship group and DD pulled back from him while this investigation went on. He then told her the whole case had been dropped and they rekindled their friendship. He spends a lot of time at her flat.

Fast forward to last night when two police officers turned up at my DD flat looking for him. She didn’t answer the door at first because she was scared stiff (alone in her flat, anxiety issues and never been involved with the police before). They started banging at the door heavily and she then let them in. They said it was a good job she had because they were about to force entry, I.e. smash the door in.

They fairly aggressively questioned her about his whereabouts, told her repeatedly she’d be in serious trouble if she was hiding him (obvs wasn’t) and searched the flat top to bottom. She was fine with this. They then left after being given his address and said not to contact him. She’s since found out that last year he was
Eventually RUI (released under investigation). The case has not been dropped. DD told her flatmate what was going on but forgot to tell her not to contact the friend so she did and friend called DD and she said he was eerily calm about the whole thing. Police haven’t reached him yet despite his address being 5/10 mins from DD.

So my questions are -

how did they know to turn up at DDs flat?

did they have any authority to force entry?

why haven’t they seen him yet? When they were pretty bloody keen to find him and DD gave them his address.

TIA!

I think OP isn’t telling us everything. There’s something off about this.

OP doesn’t know anything. She’s caught up in the drama and worried about her DD

I’m telling everything I know

Agree
And DD isn't telling the truth
I don't buy this "too anxious to answer the door to the police " story
I would be very anxious if the police turned up at my door (which they did when i was younger to tell me a loved one had been very seriously injured)
I wouldn't be pissing about not letting them in because "anxiety".
Sounds more like a guilty conscience and covering for him and the mother who is a doctors wife defending the whole mess

She is definitely not covering for him and definitely doesn’t have a guilty conscience.

As for not answering the door, her anxiety (diagnosed and medicated) made her overly afraid and she hoped they would just go away if she didn’t answer.

Not sure what my marital status has to do with anything?

For anyone who is interested - mutual friend reported him missing and police told her that they’d been in contact with him in the last 24 hours and that he’s safe and well but doesn’t have a phone on him at the moment so won’t be answering messages, etc. Guessing that means he’s in custody?

If they reasonably believe someone they're after is inside a building then yes they can force entry. It doesn't matter if it's that person's home or not. It just matters that they had intel to believe they were there. Luckily it didn't come to that.

In future, I hope it doesn't happen again, but if you've done nothing wrong and the police are outside, just open the door straight away.

I'm presuming the friendship is now over?

Yes I’d assume so. I’d be concerned about your daughter here, hee anxiety is medicated but she thought the police would just go away? Thays irrational. And it’s clear they’ve been trying to contact this man,

you should be disengaging, and ensuring she dies. But you appear to be enjoying the drama.

Mystery solved. The police had his phone from the original allegation and whilst they were looking through it they found emails going back SIX years where he’d been involved with someone from the USA importing class A drugs, cocaine, ketamine, etc. Apparently that was how he made money before he got a full time job. He has a court date and he’s hoping for a suspended sentence but I suspect due to the nature of the crime he might be in for a custodial one?

Who knows?

But I strongly advise you to tell your Dd and her dimwit* friend to block him on all platforms.

And not engage any further in any drama concerning him.

*because she shouldn't have needed telling not to tell him the police were looking for him, and she, and your dd had no business trying to reply to him later.

You lie down with dogs, you get fleas.

Step back. All of you.

She has indeed blocked him on everything.