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Just Wondering - Have You Ever Met Anyone At A Wedding?

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WerzMyHedAt · 20/04/2026 09:42

Just that really.

I've spent all my life single except for 1 relationship where we basically carried on our lives separately.

So I've always attended weddings alone. Often not knowing any people other than bride and groom!

I love getting dressed up, seeing the bride's dress, having a tipple and getting a nice slab of cake ngl.

But god I get so bored.

I've always worked in sales so I'm very good at chatting to people and I'm very friendly.

But I've found most other guests to be quite unresponsive.

I wonder, can they not really be bothered because they know we'll never meet again? Am I being delusional to have hope that in attending, I could potentially meet a new friend or even a future date?

I have yet another wedding coming up this summer. It's a 2 hour drive away and I just think... I really can't be bothered any more.

But maybe THIS one would be the one event where I connect with someone.

Unlikely though, right? Or...?

I know the point of a wedding is to celebrate others' love. But I'm kinda done celebrating other people. I've given enough, honestly. I think its time to start being more selfish in life.

....I do have a really gorgeous dress to wear, though.

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WhatNoRaisins · 20/04/2026 14:48

To be honest I'm at the point where I'll only attend a wedding where there are people I'd like a good catch up with. I don't think I've ever attended a local wedding, there's always travel and often an overnight stay. This changes the dynamic compared with local weddings that are more like community events and I can see why people are less likely to try and get to know strangers that they are unlikely to see again.

PortSalutPlease · 20/04/2026 14:51

I mean, I’ve hooked up with people I met at weddings, yes.

My ex and I got together at a wedding but we had known each other for many years before that, so I’m not sure that counts!

2 couples got together at our wedding and are still together now though!

Arlanymor · 20/04/2026 18:19

WerzMyHedAt · 20/04/2026 14:04

It didn't. I specifically said all people of all genders of all ages.

How many times have you attended a wedding alone?

You clearly can't empathise.

Or maybe I'm wrong. Maybe your a saint who would go on and on attending weddings celebrating other people, making efforts to be friendly and buy lovely thoughtfully gifts.

And maybe you'd continue doing that for 10+ years and never once pause for thought as to whether it was doing your life any good.

Well done you. Here have a medal

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I have attended a wedding alone about seven times and an eighth coming up in October. I don't think it's weird to go to a wedding to celebrate other people and yes I will be buying a gift - what a monster I am. I am grateful to be included in other people's celebrations. I don't need a medal, being invited to be part of other people's enjoyment is lovely enough. You sound so, so, so, so bitter. Why?

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WerzMyHedAt · 20/04/2026 18:26

Arlanymor · 20/04/2026 18:19

I have attended a wedding alone about seven times and an eighth coming up in October. I don't think it's weird to go to a wedding to celebrate other people and yes I will be buying a gift - what a monster I am. I am grateful to be included in other people's celebrations. I don't need a medal, being invited to be part of other people's enjoyment is lovely enough. You sound so, so, so, so bitter. Why?

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Eurgh. Okay. Whatever

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mindutopia · 20/04/2026 18:26

Well, my MOH shagged another friend of mine on the sofa of my parents’ holiday cottage after our wedding. My 70 year old auntie tossed them a condom down the stairs. 🤣 Apparently, she was off on several weeks of European travel straight after so she was well stocked for her adventures. 😳

Friends never saw each other again and now both happily married to other people, but they definitely weren’t lonely for the night!

Arlanymor · 20/04/2026 18:26

WerzMyHedAt · 20/04/2026 18:26

Eurgh. Okay. Whatever

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Mature.

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WerzMyHedAt · 20/04/2026 18:29

mindutopia · 20/04/2026 18:26

Well, my MOH shagged another friend of mine on the sofa of my parents’ holiday cottage after our wedding. My 70 year old auntie tossed them a condom down the stairs. 🤣 Apparently, she was off on several weeks of European travel straight after so she was well stocked for her adventures. 😳

Friends never saw each other again and now both happily married to other people, but they definitely weren’t lonely for the night!

Scandal!

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DragonsAndDaffs · 20/04/2026 18:32

A school friend of mine met and started dating a friend of exdh at our wedding, and they married a few years later. At their wedding, the sister of the bride met and started dating a friend of the groom.........they also went on to marry, but I don't know if any matches were made at that wedding!!!

GreenSedan · 20/04/2026 18:34

My DH. Together more than 20 years!

VivaciousCurrentBun · 20/04/2026 18:48

I have attended a lot of weddings but only four as a solo guest. I enjoyed them for what they were. Personally I try and culture local friends, I have some wonderful long term friends but they live hundreds of miles away where I grew up. A wedding means people coming from all over, I don’t especially look for friendships because then there is the effort of travelling. Now if someone met a potential love of their life that is different.

PurpleDisco · 20/04/2026 19:12

@WerzMyHedAt you come across as a likeable, bubbly and chatty person so I would be delighted to be seated at your table at a wedding! I’m a people person so love meeting new people and hearing about their lives. Not everyone is like this as I’ve found out over the years !🤣 Tbh some people are just boring and will only chat to people they know / will only speak if spoken to and even then it would be minimal small talk. You seem to enjoy weddings especially the dressing up part so I think you should go to this summer wedding you’ve been invited to. You never know who you could meet! Does the invite include a ‘plus one’ not that it seems to bother you as you sound confident anyway!

PurpleDisco · 20/04/2026 19:20

And yes I know 2 couples who met at a wedding. Also an acquaintance who went to a wedding on her own as her BF broke up with her the night before. She ended up sitting beside a woman who was also there on her own after a similar breakup and they ended up becoming best friends and go on holidays together etc!

WellConfusedandDazed · 20/04/2026 19:23

Yep, I have. Once I met a guy who turned into my boyfriend for a few years. We are still friends. However I didn’t go alone to that one, I was a friend’s date. I have also been to weddings alone and never met anyone.

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 20/04/2026 19:23

I read your OP as someone who is a bit tired of doing all the social legwork at a function where the expectation is that people will be sociable. I hear you. It's not even about making a romantic connection, just a nice conversation that doesn't feel like walking through treacle would make everything more enjoyable. I don't know what the answer is though. I do: try to find the brownie leaders

ExquisitelyDressed · 20/04/2026 19:35

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 20/04/2026 19:23

I read your OP as someone who is a bit tired of doing all the social legwork at a function where the expectation is that people will be sociable. I hear you. It's not even about making a romantic connection, just a nice conversation that doesn't feel like walking through treacle would make everything more enjoyable. I don't know what the answer is though. I do: try to find the brownie leaders

Agree. I have been to a lot of weddings but only a few were I haven't gone with or known someone and it can be hard work striking up conversation even though I am chatty and outgoing. It can be a long day too, especially the parts in between service and reception and then evening do when everyone is mingling. At least at a table you can hopefully talk a bit to the people next to you. I remember at one wedding the couple had thoughtfully sat me next to a man who originally came from the same town as me to give us something in common, but every time we started talking his wife leant over from the other side of him and started making pointed comments about "MY HUSBAND" and touching his arm as if I was some sort of predator. Would have been funny if it wasn't so sad, poor bloke.

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WerzMyHedAt · 20/04/2026 19:35

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 20/04/2026 19:23

I read your OP as someone who is a bit tired of doing all the social legwork at a function where the expectation is that people will be sociable. I hear you. It's not even about making a romantic connection, just a nice conversation that doesn't feel like walking through treacle would make everything more enjoyable. I don't know what the answer is though. I do: try to find the brownie leaders

The brownie leaders?? 🤣

No, like, actually this.Thank you. I feel seen!

It would be good to have a day to reflect on that was really fun as a nice memory. Almost to make the dressing up etc kinda worth it.

But instead I end up reflecting on these things as something I just ended up making sure I showed my face for.

It baffles me that there can be so many linked people in one room on their day off, and yet so little connection or fun happens.

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WerzMyHedAt · 20/04/2026 19:37

ExquisitelyDressed · 20/04/2026 19:35

Agree. I have been to a lot of weddings but only a few were I haven't gone with or known someone and it can be hard work striking up conversation even though I am chatty and outgoing. It can be a long day too, especially the parts in between service and reception and then evening do when everyone is mingling. At least at a table you can hopefully talk a bit to the people next to you. I remember at one wedding the couple had thoughtfully sat me next to a man who originally came from the same town as me to give us something in common, but every time we started talking his wife leant over from the other side of him and started making pointed comments about "MY HUSBAND" and touching his arm as if I was some sort of predator. Would have been funny if it wasn't so sad, poor bloke.

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Oh dear! I wonder why they didn't sit them next to each other???

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WerzMyHedAt · 20/04/2026 19:39

PurpleDisco · 20/04/2026 19:20

And yes I know 2 couples who met at a wedding. Also an acquaintance who went to a wedding on her own as her BF broke up with her the night before. She ended up sitting beside a woman who was also there on her own after a similar breakup and they ended up becoming best friends and go on holidays together etc!

What?!? Really!! No way.

🤔

I don't think you could get a better outcome than that.

Here's a thought... Imagine they hadn't broke up.

The two women may have fallen into the usual small talk, if that. And then.. no holiday adventures together...!

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WerzMyHedAt · 20/04/2026 19:42

PurpleDisco · 20/04/2026 19:12

@WerzMyHedAt you come across as a likeable, bubbly and chatty person so I would be delighted to be seated at your table at a wedding! I’m a people person so love meeting new people and hearing about their lives. Not everyone is like this as I’ve found out over the years !🤣 Tbh some people are just boring and will only chat to people they know / will only speak if spoken to and even then it would be minimal small talk. You seem to enjoy weddings especially the dressing up part so I think you should go to this summer wedding you’ve been invited to. You never know who you could meet! Does the invite include a ‘plus one’ not that it seems to bother you as you sound confident anyway!

Omg. Thanks 🙈
It doesn't phase me to chat to strangers. It just gets tedious when you don't get much back.

Yeah.. I'm coming to the conclusion in life that most people are really actually quite boring.

I did get the offer of a plus one... But obviously I said it wasn't needed 😅

I will go and I will don my dress. Thank you x

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FoxandDuck · 20/04/2026 19:48

I’m currently sat on the sofa next to the man I sat next to at a wedding 17.5yrs ago chatting to 16yo DD about how her GCSE speaking exam went today. DH is about to go & collect 14yo DS from sport training.
So, yes, it can happen!

Cismyfatarse · 20/04/2026 20:16

Yes. Been together 30 years and married for 28 of them. Currently snoring on the other sofa. Was the top catch as he was best man.

ExquisitelyDressed · 20/04/2026 20:23

WerzMyHedAt · 20/04/2026 19:37

Oh dear! I wonder why they didn't sit them next to each other???

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They were next to each other but I was on the other side of him and she did NOT like me talking to him, every time we tried to talk she kept interrupting to say things like “I was just saying to MY HUSBAND…” <glares at me>

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WerzMyHedAt · 20/04/2026 20:41

ExquisitelyDressed · 20/04/2026 20:23

They were next to each other but I was on the other side of him and she did NOT like me talking to him, every time we tried to talk she kept interrupting to say things like “I was just saying to MY HUSBAND…” <glares at me>

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Deary me!! How awkward. You're only making bloody conversation, she couldda just joined in!

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OrigamiOwls · 20/04/2026 20:55

A relative of met her husband at a friend's wedding. She went to uni with the bride, he was a friend of the groom.

Eskarina1 · 20/04/2026 21:23

A friend of mine developed an entire new social group - that she's still close to over 10 years later - from someone she met at my wedding. It might be about how weddings are organised? The last two I've been to, the tables were designed around people they thought would get on and we were told why in advance, so I had some great one-off conversations.