Was it rude not to acknowledge a friend’s forwarded new address?

[PerkyOchrePeer]

A friend of mine moved and gave me her new address and a murth of a friend.Asked after them and I passed on the address and they never acknowledged it and then several months later they asked after this friend and I said they do not get the address I sent you. Sorry, sent tips and I've had no come in. Oh, thank you. Or yes, we did receive it or know. We didn't pretty rude. Don't you think?

Huh?

OP maybe edit this whilst you can. It makes very little sense.

I think you’ll need to explain this again, sorry. I can’t make out who you think is rude - the friends who moved, or the friends who asked after them?

What’s a murth?

I think OP might be drunk.

What??

Also, I must ask… what tips were they that didn’t come in? Are we talking horse racing?

Or monetary tips.

Besides the confusing post.
Its only an address
Usually after passing it on in person? Or via text they reply thanks.
If not I wouldnt worry..maybe they got distracted.
Not major is it.

No. What i meant was, someone asked me about a mutual friend. I said the mutual friend has a new address and gave it to the person whi asked about them.

The I assumed that because I had passed on the new address, they would write to them. I asked f they had written and they said could you please send the address so we can write.

I then said I already sent t the address abd said did you not get it. They did not reply and say yes or no so I then messaged again with the address ssying here it is again

A normal person would say thank you for the addres and we will write.

Why bother asking for the address? If they don't let me know they have received it and intend to write to the person. I have sent it twice and on both occasions.It has been ignored

Everyone, as I seem to say a lot on these threads, this is @PerkyOchrePeer, the queen of escalating minor interactions between people into major issues she posts about on here.

@PerkyOchrePeer, it's you. No one else would give this a second thought.

OP I think you were completely out of order giving someone the address of a third party instead of just letting them contact each other. You should apologise to your friend.

Oh its you.

To the uninitiated - don't get too invested. You'll only end up confused and lacking any real clarity in POP's AIBU.

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A posh Moth.

How did you not know this?!😂

How can they contact each other. They do nit have her email address or phone number and the only postal address they have for her us no longer valid as she has moved

You check with them before giving out their address to someone else.

har, very good 😆. Can also be said in Inspector Clouseau’s voice

Oh god you again 🤦‍♀️

another day, another Perky-all-my-friends-are-crap post

Oh yes I remember OP now. She was the one who wondered why her new combi boiler made her bedroom so hot that she couldn’t sleep, despite the combi boiler being switch off and the radiators stone cold.

I had to report her for her own sake because she was accidentally uploading photos with her face fully visible.

You would need to contact them to get permission to give out their address.

The other bit you’ve complained about is a total non-issue.

Is this really something you would file under the category of ‘problem’? I wish I had your life!

If I passed on someone’s new address, that would be a task completed. I would think no more about it - not whether the person who enquired had received it, nor whether I should expect a thank you, let alone whether they had been in touch with the mutual friend. If they asked me again, I would be slightly annoyed, give them the details again and hope that was the last I heard of it. It’s not good for you to become so fixated on minor irritations, op.

No, the friend is not rude

You, on the other hand, were rude to pass on a postal address that no one has asked you to forward in the first place, and that you hadn't checked the recipient wanted to have shared.

As with all your many posts, you are out of step with how to behave towards others and have a rigid about what you require from a friend.

You cut off someone for not asking how you were for 2 weeks.
You got weird about a nice friend of a friend who showed you around in Australia, then decided she fancied you, then got angry that she wasn't a regular correspondent.
You were asking Mumsnet if it was OK to book her a ticket agent at a train station because you fancied him.
You think no menopausal women have sex because some bloke spun you a line about a frigid wife.

These things are not normal.

Makes no sense. Sorry!

OP, the vast majority of your posts involve you getting angry with other people for completely inconsequential things that aren't remotely offensive. You need to learn not to obsess over tiny details of unimportant social interactions.

You also got annoyed when you offered to buy someone else a souvenir from your own holiday (which was an odd thing to offer in the first place) and then got really offended when she said 'Oh no, don't spend your money on me, spend it on yourself', even though that was a completely normal and polite reaction on her part.