Was it rude not to acknowledge a friend’s forwarded new address?

[PerkyOchrePeer]

A friend of mine moved and gave me her new address and a murth of a friend.Asked after them and I passed on the address and they never acknowledged it and then several months later they asked after this friend and I said they do not get the address I sent you. Sorry, sent tips and I've had no come in. Oh, thank you. Or yes, we did receive it or know. We didn't pretty rude. Don't you think?

A normal person would say thank you for the addres and we will write

A normal person wouldn't give any of this a second thought.

You're right OP - this is indeed dreadful.

Thoughts and prayers.

Why can't they just text, WhatsApp or phone eachother? I wouldn't necessarily assume a change of address warranted a written letter.

Either way it seems it's not your issue it's between the two others so let them resolve it. Invite them both round for dinner or to the pub if they don't live too far?

@PerkyOchrePeergo back to bed- posters don't invest just leave her and her wild imagination run free.

They don’t need to write to your mutual friends OP. They have all been meeting up at the new house for delicious meals and movie nights. Been a blast by all accounts, but then, that’s what friends are for isn’t it?

It was not an odd offer because I asked someone else and they said they would love a souviner and so I got them a fridge magnet and they were pleased with it

Its a bit difficult to wassao or phone when they dont have their phone number. This mutual friend lives abroad.

Maybe the mutual friend didn’t want her details passing on.

Here you go again!

Just because ONE person was happy to be given a souvenir it doesn't meant every other person would react the same.

Just because ONE woman (reportedly) has a low libido post menopause it doesn't mean you will never fancy anyone so should harass a bloke at a train station when you do.

You have to stop thinking of human beings as identical, and deciding any variance from your expectations makes them faulty.

You’ve got way too much time on your hands if this is all you’ve got to stress over

They’re presumably not close friends, then, if they live in different countries, and don’t have another’s phone numbers.

When the mutual fruend asked after the overseas friend, both times, it was probably just idle chitchat eg ‘How’s Maria doing these days?’ It wasn’t a request for their address either time!

So you’re getting annoyed (as so often) because you have misunderstood a situation and then got cross because the people involved didn’t respond with gratitude for something they never asked for!

I agree with @HiccupHorrendousHaddock on this — one person liking a souvenir doesn’t mean everyone would. Also, if I remember that thread correctly, the person you offered the souvenir to was an old school friend you’d just reconnected with online! I think most people would be highly unlikely to agree to being given a fridge magnet by someone they last remember in Double Geography in the eighties!

Sometimes I think I'm a bit of an oddball who gets bogged down in unimportant little things.

Then I come on MN, read a few posts like this and go back out into the world with renewed confidence and a spring in my step.

Ok. Thank you.

They were trying not to hurt your feelings because they know how easily offended you are.

Oh please don’t suggest WhatsApp to op!

That's utter bull. They genuinely wanted a gift if someone offered to bring ne back a souvineer from their holiday I would be glad to receive it

You do seem to have more than your share of awful problems @PerkyOchrePeer 🙄

Yes I do. Ive grown up with problems at home which nade me different and from the age of 5 I was bullied at school and still bullied in secondary school. I was bullied by my mum. Ive only got 3 genuine friends who have always treated me with respect and I am thankful for that.

The only other person who respected me was my ex boyfriend with whom I was with for years. He agreed with everything I said and we were very happy it came to an end when he died abd we were very compatible. He took me as I was and never complained

“He agreed with everything I said”

I’m not surprised, he probably didn’t dare disagree