Hey, I just need a bit of perspective on something because it’s been bothering me.
My boyfriend was taking pictures of my dirty knickers without ever talking to me about it beforehand. When I found them, I deleted them from his phone, and he got really defensive. He said it’s a kink of his, but this is the first time I’ve ever heard about it. Now he’s saying I’m in the wrong and that I’ve upset him.
I feel uncomfortable because this wasn’t discussed or consented to, and I’m confused about whether I handled it badly or if my reaction was reasonable. Is it okay for him to be doing that without telling me first? We have been together a year and usually very open with each other,