Is there a time limit to report someone to the police for purposely shoving you hard in the shoulder, and is that actually a crime ?

[LisaVanderpumpy]

It happned at a party 7 years ago now and the person that did it was also a party guest

he is some sort of police commissioner. Or high up in the police
and it worries me someone abusive is in such a position
but also guess he’s well protected

i mean is this even a crime
He fully put his hand hard onto my shoulder and shoved me hard
more like a hit than a shove

That's a lot to draw from OP's version of events, isn't it?

Yep. If you did an interview or statement, they be asking you this as the first question. There is no legitimate reason to report someone after 7 years for giving you a shove, he’s dick but let it go.

No chance of conviction. They might take a written statement and you won’t hear back again. They’re not going to make an arrest or even call him for interview.

Six months for common assault so out by about 6.5 years

I’m sure we have all done shit things at parties back in the day. He may be an utter cunt of course or he may have just behaved like that at the time

Why are you wasting police time with this?

Sorry @LisaVanderpumpy but you need to let this go. 1. The police won't do a thing, and wouldn't even if he wasn't one of their own. 2. It was seven years ago. Even if the police cared, which they don't, they can't do anything now. 3. He's in the police. Who really expects the police not to have people like that among them?

It's not nice, I get it, but is it really such a big deal? My DB has done stuff like that to me, and yeah, it can be sore and scary, but you know, it happens.

Maybe it's different because you don't know him, or it was in public, or unprovoked? Not trying to be unsympathetic, I just don't get the holding on to irritable behaviour from a stranger from 7 years ago.

Did he say anything before during or after the shove?
What part of your body did he shove?
Did you need medical assistance ?
Was he drunk?

She’s said it was in the shoulder quite a few times

Body part is in the title as well as multiple of op’s updates

It wouldn't even be worth reporting the day after it happened, let alone seven years later.

He was a bit of a dick at a party and it's incredibly weird that you even remember this, let alone that you're considering going to the police about it.

I haven’t read all the comments but I am surprised at how many are minimising this. Yes, too late for anything to happen but what kind of person does that deliberately to someone else for absolutely no valid reason. At best he’s an inpatient entitled git probably prone to road rage. At worst, it could be a lot worse. And being high up in the police, I can see where the op is coming from. This wasn’t just being barged out the way on a crowded tube.

I think you should focus on yourself OP. You need to move on with your life.

It's not great to barge into people. But it also isn't great to hoard anger and want for revenge for 7 years. Both of your (you and him) behaviours are unwise & odd for different reasons.

Edited to rephrase it. Not good with words 💐

People push and jostle all the time to get a photo. Plus it’s your word against his.

i think time to let this go.

Has the historical allegations against Scott Mils made you thinI of it? (In that it was an incident with a public figure from several years ago).

People push and jostle all the time to get a photo.

It's not clear who was taking the photo. OP says "I was in his way taking a photo". Perhaps he was trying to get past. Perhaps he didn't want to be photographed. Perhaps op had the camera up in his face - I'd be inclined to shove if someone did that to me.

But something you supposedly remember in such detail 7 years later was either serious or not.

Given the timescale, there wouldnt be anything anyway that OP could do, even if she did have evidence.

Presumably something has happened to make OP think of the incident

It was being barged out of the way in a crowded room, what’s the difference?
Maybe he didn’t want his photo taken and shoved her arm to redirect the camera?

This would be my first port of call.

If it was filmed and you have physical evidence then he can’t deny it.

Omfg. Someone shoved you SEVEN YEARS AGO. Please, please do let us know what the on duty desk sergeant says when you drop this bomb.
This is one of the most ridiculous things I’ve ever read on Mumsnet.

Are you okay, OP? The way you’re writing about this and the fact you’re reacting like this seven years later suggests there’s maybe more going on about this. Your style of writing is verging on paranoid/obsessive about him/the incident. Is he someone you still see or was that the only interaction you ever had with him?

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7 years ago… seriously!!! Get over it.

@BarMonaco "Ignore the assault apologists OP"

@YellowEllie13 "I haven’t read all the comments but I am surprised at how many are minimising this."

Yeah, agree with you both. It's pretty sickening really.

Was the event filmed or the thing they were at event for? Will the footage still be there, and clear and focused enough on the op to use as evidence? Also if it was, would it not have been flagged up by now?

Okay but the question whether she could report it. A quick google shows that it should be done within 6 months. She is also apparently remembering a lot of detail from a very brief incident.

Also extrapolating that he was deliberately doing it in a way that didn’t look as serious as it was.

What would you advise her to do? Report it with no witnesses, outside of the limitation, no credibility as one or both could have been drunk, and a weirdly detailed recollection?

Please see my earlier post - the limitation on common assault is six months. So it could be clear as day and it won’t help.