If you were told you’d die tomorrow, is there anything you would regret?

[TeaAndSymumthy]

This has been plaguing my mind for days.

I had a dream that I was told I only had 24hrs to live, it was quite realistic in the sense that life was exactly how it is now, same age, same home, same point in time.

In said dream, I said to DH on my deathbed, that I love him and the kids and they are my greatest achievement.. however I am absolutely gutted that I spent my life trying to avoid getting in debt, being frugal, not being able to afford anything of any real luxury. We never took the kids abroad, we never took them camping, we’ve never done Lapland or similar because we couldn’t really afford it. I never had a ‘nice’ car that I really loved, we never spent money on the house or the garden to really make it a home. - there was quite a bit 🤣

and I’ve woke up feeling very ‘fuck it’ about life and that we should just be doing things, going places, having experiences and having nice things.. because life really is short and money is a man made concept that’s stopping us living a life we can look back on and say yeah, that was pretty good. At the moment I feel like I’m going to get to the end of my life and say ‘I really wish I’d…”

does anyone else feel like that?! Obviously we can’t just go and get into debt. But I do feel sad about it 🤣

It would be a relief for me. I don’t think there is anything I’d regret that was my fault. Lots to be sad for. And sad to leave my children

Yes I’d regret that I spent so much time mourning men who cheated on and the energy I spent dating and trying to find someone. Such a waste of time for me.

Nothing I’d regret as such unless I wasn’t allowed within that 24 hours to tell all the people I think are cunts that they are cunts.

I’d be gutted that I was a people pleaser for years and worried about what people thought of me.
That I spent so much time worrying over stuff that never happened.
That I spent so much time on my phone.
That I didn’t go to Norway or Japan

I wouldn't be bothered. I'd have a really nice flat white and consider which book i wanted to finish before i went. There's stuff i wish i hadnt done, like go to uni doing a course i didnt want to to please family, but i wouldnt be thinking about that. I've done most of what I wanted to; there's only some places to visit still on the list but thats icing on the cake stuff. I'm kinda tired if i'm honest and cant cope with increased interest rates and fuel prices.

I live daily with huge regrets. I have so much to be thankful for but I've really napalm'd my life.

So has thus given you the nudge to organise someone to care for your cats in the unfortunate event you should die?

Any of us could die today, suddenly.

last year I had a stroke overnight, 56, totally unexpected. I am suffering from some life changing stuff, but I could have died. I already had most things in order, but I'm working through a few smaller issues). It's never too early to have it sorted x

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don't knock it! It must be quite a lovely way to be.

So has this thread given you the nudge to get it done?

& same question to any one else with fixable regrets? Have you been nudged to get those things done??

@ILoveDaffodills @TeaAndSymumthy for some reason this question has really affected me today! My immediate response was ‘everything’ 😂 but of course I wouldnt change my children. Im gonna think on this and see what changes I can make

Excellent. I hope you can do some things that will lighten your load

It has! Thank you for asking 🥰 In fact, I am on my way to the charity shop in a moment. Plus, I have shredded an entire box of ancient paperwork.

I agree with this.

I’m 65 and don’t have grandchildren yet. I would love to see my children happily married and with their own children (they both want to have them in the future).

My children were still at school when my parents died. They are now in their twenties and I wish my parents could have seen how they turned out.

I’m sad that I’ve been restricted with caring responsibilities. I need to find a way to relieve myself of these but it’s not easy and could go on for years. But would I feel regret? No, I still feel one of the luckiest people in the world to live in this country, I have access to gorgeous nature, food, wine, a lovely house and neighbours, my own health has been pretty good in my 50 years, I can afford (cheap) holidays. Just look at the news around the world to see how lucky you are. Life can be very hard but just do the best you can to make the most of it. To the op, getting into debt is not a good idea, it can get out of control. Make sensible decisions,

Not spreading my wings when I had the chance

I came very close to death last year with sepsis. All the thoughts you’d expect to have go out of the window. You just think “It would have been nice to have longer. Oh well, never mind I’m sure they’ll all cope without me”. Which is ironic because I spend my life believing that they’d never cope without me! 😂

Not travelling

Not writing a book. Not growing a rose. Not having a baby.

Even though there are things I regret in life I won’t care about them if I’m to die. They affect me in life. It’s the missing out on things that would sting.

Brilliant!!

You'll feel so goid when it's done 🌷and each time you get a bit more done.

if you want something to listen to while you do it, Dana K White is brilliant, she has progress & only progress approach. A method where you only make a space better never worse. No big piles to sort out when you've had enough if need to go out/cook dinner etc