AIBU to feel hurt after being left out by school mums

[HangryOliveRobin]

Okay, so this might be a long one, but I'm after some honest, blunt advice. I'm far too sensitive about this and a bit socially awkward TBH.

I am/was really close to a couple of school mums - Mum A and Mum B, we've got on great for three to four years and were very close.

Mum A and Mum B are both very social and are close with other mums that their kids did hobbies with, thus involved in social things which I wasn't part of and never invited to. I did feel a bit leftout but understand that was my issue.

Anyway, I started getting closer to another Mum C. Now Mum C didn't really like Mum A, and we caught up with Mum B without A. Mum A was always invited to larger social events we had organised, but it seems she felt kept out and I'm the bad guy. She has visibly pulled away from me, but made an effort to pull the other 2 closer and they have responded, so now i feel like im being left out.

AIBU to feel hurt here?

I'm sad about the change, but also this feels a bit highschool and I cant quite belive this is taking up so much of my head space! But current phase of life means the school social side is a big part of my life. Do I try and address it or just accept life has moved on?

I’m 50 and menopausal which might affect things here, but to me this is all too complicated. I made a few good mum friends at my DD’s school and we still meet up even though the kids are going to different schools now. While we might all have individual friendships with various mums there’d be absolutely no question of one of us being left out of something because someone doesn’t like us nonsense. We are all grown ups. And if someone ‘doesn’t like’ us well they can make an effort to be civil for a short period of time. There are lots of school mums who might not be completely my cup of tea (and I am not their’s) but we can all rub along ok in social settings. Life does not have to be as complicated as you’ve described. Ok it’s happened now but something to reflect on going forward. The mums that I am good friends with are lovely kind women who are inclusive rather than exclusive. Re the other mums I’m not getting annoyed if someone doesn’t say hello to me as we’re all knackered and distracted and I’ve likely not seen someone and said hello in the morning too. People who make a big faff about not liking someone (unless there is a really significant reason) are not people I can be bothered with these days. Just sharing in case of help. Don’t worry, lessons learned. Best wishes.

Thanks, logical response and valid.