Have a done a terrible thing?

[Scruffysquirrels]

I've hidden half a bag of crisps from DP.

I don't know what to call him, we've been together a long time, dont live together but do most of everything else together. I know some people get excited about using DP when it's not justified, but that what he is to me.

Anyway, I don't have crisps in the house as a general rule, but found a large bag of fancy ones left over from Christmas. I've had half with my soup for lunch, and was going to leave the remains of the bag on the side to have tomorrow.

DP will be over later and loves to eat. He's very active and always hungry. So I've hidden them on of the fridge because I know if he sees them they'll be gone. He'd ask, but I'm unlikely to say no to him finishing an open pack of crisps.

I don't begrudge him half a bag of old crisps, and if I told him I was saving them he'd be OK with that (although it would be odd of me?), but I was looking forward to them....so I've hidden them.

YABVVVU to put crisps in the fridge, theyll go soggy

I don't think it's a terrible thing.
Terrible is potentially making them soft in the fridge.
Equally terrible is having crisps left from xmas

Not in the fridge, he find them there! On top of the fridge.

I was hoping this was going to be juicer, not gonna lie.

Enjoy your crisps tomorrow, OP.

I don’t get this. Why not just buy more crisps? Nice crisps are sold in supermarkets everywhere. DH finishes open packs of snacks. So I just buy more.

Well crisps have increased in price massively. I'd hide them too, like a cruchy security blanket

Of course I could buy more crisps. I don't plan to because they're not something I usually have in the house, hence the bonus treat. If DP wants crisps he can have them at his house or bring them with him.

Only half a bag? I’ve hidden multipacks from everyone in my house. You are absolved, my child.

Unless half a bag of crisps is a euphemism for a secret Italian lover you have stashed in your wardrobe, how is this even a question?

I’ve hidden chocolate before, and my (young adult) son always manages to find it!

I think it's very important you protect your crisps.

It says on the fridge not in

I hide Caramel eggs in the salad crisper as nobody bothers going in there. No shits given.

But did you put it in the salad tray at the bottom of the fridge?

My parents always buy me bags of lays when they go away. Damn bloody right I hide them. Not one shit given.

It's ok to hide stuff if you don't want him to have it but it's also ok to tell him you don't want him to have it and to expect him to respect that.

Just eat them. Or share them. You are BVU to invest so much energy in this.

if it was me, I’d eat half and save the rest for later and not share them

You're a DP to your DP. You're not a bloody saint.

Edit: OR you can keep them in plain site and say you were saving them for later. THEN see if he's really your DP if he eats them......

This is the odd part for me.

He'd ask, but I'm unlikely to say no to him finishing an open pack of crisps.

I don't begrudge him half a bag of old crisps, and if I told him I was saving them he'd be OK with that (although it would be odd of me?), but I was looking forward to them....so I've hidden them.

So the only problem is your inability to say no?

Because he wouldn't find them and just eat them. But when he asks, you wouldn't be able to say no, even though you're planning to have them for lunch tomorrow, which he'd accept?

It doesn't really matter whether the OP could buy another packet of crisps and he isn't even rooting around for hidden food to eat. And wouldn’t make a fuss if she did. It's just that if he asks, she won't say no. And she wonders if it's a terrible thing?

That's the issue!

TBF, it actually says "on of the fridge".

Perhaps the issue here is that the OP is uncomfortable with this person turning up at her home and helping himself to whatever he wants without asking.

Good on you @Scruffysquirrels for keeping them out of his grasping reach. Maybe hide them somewhere else though, like your sock drawer or under a load of stuff in the airing cupboard.

Reading between the lines, I'm guessing that this isn't the only thing in this relationship that makes you feel uncomfortable...?

I think your conscience is getting too pristine. You need a few dodgy activities each week to spread the load.
They are your crisps and you can eat them when you like.

Put them out of sight, and enjoy your crispy treat tomorrow, guilt free.
(I'm guessing you don't have a secret stash drawer like the rest of us).😋

I don't think stashing the crisps is terrible no but feeling a shred of guilt about it might be, I would be enjoying the anticipation of my slightly clandestine treat and not giving a shiny shit if that made me a bit weird tbh so I'm not sure why you're spoiling it for yourself

I think as it’s your home and not his not everything in it is up for grabs, so no of course it’s not a ‘ terrible thing ‘.
Out of interest though would I be correct in thinking he benefits more from your food spending that you do from his ?