I’ve met a woman at my gym a few times and I can’t work out whether I’m being overly cautious or whether my gut is picking up on something.
She’s extremely chatty and friendly with everyone there, which in itself is obviously not a crime, but she’s very full-on. She recently messaged me with a very spontaneous “come out now” type invite, which felt a bit presumptuous given we barely know each other.
When I’ve spoken to her in person, she tends to launch straight into her own personal drama and there isn’t much reciprocal conversation. She also got a bit physically familiar (touched my stomach when I mentioned feeling bloated/self-conscious), which I found quite odd from someone I’m not actually friends with.
I hadn’t replied to the message and bumped into her today. It was awkward but she just said “omg you wouldn’t believe it my sister just kept phoning me all day she and I don’t talk and she kept ringing me.” Bear in mind I barely know this woman and she’s telling me parts of her life. Then she said “it’s fine don’t worry I texted another one of the girls and we went out and just got smashed” which again, I will drink with friends but to get drunk with a stranger, not sure how safe I feel with that. Then finally, in the cafe area of the gym later that evening she was ordering wine and said to the waiter “why didn’t you bring the bottle I’d have just necked the whole thing” to me, slightly uncouth and not my style.
I’m conscious I may just be being a bit reserved and she may simply be extroverted, but something about her makes me feel uneasy rather than relaxed.
I’m trying to work out whether I should ignore that and make more effort, or whether it’s perfectly reasonable to keep things polite but superficial.