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Do men really drag it out when unwell?

28 replies

dogsandbudgey · 28/03/2026 21:44

Forgive me please if I’m being harsh. My partner has had a cold/ congested/ feeling a bit shit since last week and is still ‘unwell’ . Now I get that having a cold is a bit crap and it’s really unpleasant. However, this has resulted in my partner being in bed since 6pm having done sweet FA all day. Now, this is one thing but why is it when woman are sick they still have to parent/ make dinner/ do laundry and try as best to get on whith it?!? Why is this? I will say he has an extremely high pressure stress job- he’s not lazy as such but just this moping about is giving me the rage.

am I alone with this??

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Meteorite87 · 29/03/2026 02:28

Is it a generational response type?

My Dad, born in the 1930's, would only ever comment factually on his health if feeling awful or if I asked him directly.
He showed concern for me when I became unwell, it wasn't "one way' consideration.

Pedallleur · 29/03/2026 09:24

justasking111 · 28/03/2026 21:45

Never heard of man flu. It's a recognised thing apparently.

Couple this with the dressing gown of doom and you are in for a few days of Hell.

Pedallleur · 29/03/2026 09:25

HoppityBun · 28/03/2026 22:08

I think you’re being unfair. Colds can be really debilitating and if he feels rough then bed is the best place. If he lived on his own he’d be able to get to bed without being criticised. And yes, I do know that if he lived on his own he’d have to look after himself, but you’re supposed to be a team.

If you’ve no other grievance then leave him be. If you have, then this isn’t about him feeling unwell.

In sickness and in health etc etc

Are you his mum?

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