Partner talking to random people …would this bother you?

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Anytime we are out he just starts speaking to random people.
Not just like your basic conversation,he will try and involve himself in conversations etc
Examples
We were out at the weekend and this guy had a drink spilt over him …my partner taps him
”oh I seen you got soaking ,bless you” taps me ..look at that.
Then says to the guy he will dry his coat on the back of his chair (guy was standing )
We can be in a bar at a table and as we are leaving he will shout to some random person at the bar “we are leaving do you want this table “
About to get in the car and he will start pointing at a car saying “we are leaving ,do you want our space “
Sat in a restaurant and a couple will be chatting and he will say something to them to join in.
Would this annoy you ?
or is he just friendly /helpful ?

Asking if someone wants a space or a table you’re just vacating is absolutely fine.

But inserting himself into other people’s conversations in restaurants or randomly making conversations with strangers at the pub when he’s meant to be on a date with you would massively annoy me.

I have always done this, even abroad (i travel a lot on my own). Mind you, I wouldn't butt into what looked like an intense/private conversation. I've met some really lovely people this way, and learned a lot too. My ex-husband hated this and even criticised me for being too polite to waiting staff in restaurants.
I should explain that I'm almost 80 and disabled. Perhaps people are happier to engage with old people because they not a threat.

Maybe he's lonely...

My husband does this. We call it ‘hey fever’ because he’s always saying ‘hey’ and starting talking to people. I just leave him to it. Nod politely etc and try to wander off. It’s odd but I leave him to it.

he sounds like a nice friendly guy. I think it's weird when people aren't so friendly.

My DH does this too.
If we are out somewhere I can see him earwigging and dying to join in with people’s conversations poised to join in - especially if they’re discussing where the best pub is/when the bus is due/which football team won that day (anything he feels he can add something useful basically) if I can see him getting tempted I just flash him a look 👀

My DH does this, he has ADHD. He’ll integrate himself into other people’s conversations say sat in a restaurant or round a swimming pool on holiday. If something happens like the drink spilling you suggested, he would do an over exaggerated laugh to show he’s ‘part of it’ and try to talk to them about it. Drives me mad

Oh I feel your pain this is exactly my husband. He won’t let it lie either and then has a go at me for saying he should just leave people to it.

Are you southern and your partner Northern by any chance. I'm on your partners side by the way

He sounds like an increasingly rare species - a person with normal social skills. What is the world coming to?

None of your examples are actually him “trying to involve himself in conversations” though

They’re all really normal things that a friendly, helpful person might say

It’s quite normal to have a little chat with other people in pubs? I chatted to a lady in a laptop repair shop today while we were both waiting

if you’re shy maybe it feels weird, but it isn’t really!

You are the weirdo in this scenario. Your partner sounds like a normal (Northern) sociable person.

A good 75% of the people I know do this. We also make Train Friends on public transport and thank our bus drivers.

Me and DH love to talk to people, especially in the pub because you meet some right characters. It’s half the fun of going out imo, I can talk to him all day at home I want to chat to the drunk old boys 😂.

I think he sounds great! And yes I’m from Yorkshire 🤣

I don't mean to be ageist here, but how old is your partner? I've noticed that mainly older people (70+) try to strike up conversations in pubic placements, which I always assumed was out of loneliness and/or boredom.

I’m cringing for him

Sounds like ADHD.

Yabu your the strange one. What's wrong with talking to other human beings. Should we just all go round like zombies.

Or just a friendly person who enjoys talking to people. People do it online to strangers don't they. Are they all lonely? Are you.

True, fancy complaining lol.

😂I can imagine the look

My husband talks to everyone too, sometimes I give him a look and he realises he’s intruding a bit, most of the time I leave him to it. He leaves me be as he knows I’m introverted and I leave him be as an extrovert.

Sounds like a nice guy to be honest

Ha ha… Totally normal where I’m from!

He sounds very likeable, I'm from the North East and a lot of us chat away to everyone. You should see my husband when he has a football top on, can barely walk down the street without numerous chats about football. Just enjoy it.