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Have you ever Escaped to the Country?

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merryandbrightdelight · 22/03/2026 12:57

Not exactly AIBU but let’s leave it here.

Watching Escape to the Country and I’ll admit it’s my total guilty pleasure, especially when the couple have a budget of £650k but can ‘stretch to £900k for the right property’.

So my question is, have you or anyone you know ever escaped to the country? Or what would it look like to you?

I’m in the North East, and to me it’s Devon, the Cotswolds or Chipping Norton area. Streams, a village pub, wooden beams in chocolate box cottages, birds singing, hanging baskets, dog walks etc. Pretty much nothing like where I live now 😂

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merryandbrightdelight · 22/03/2026 20:45

KimMumsnet · 22/03/2026 13:01

Afternoon, OP. No problem!

Thank you!

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WildFlowerBees · 22/03/2026 20:52

My parents did when we were little, moved to the South West to a lovely little village, took them 17 years to be accepted but it was an idyllic childhood, I’m most definitely a country girl I can’t do cities.

merryandbrightdelight · 22/03/2026 21:13

FFSToEverythingSince2020 · 22/03/2026 13:06

@merryandbrightdelight I fucking love when their budget is £550K but “we could stretch to £750K for the right property.”

My VERY favourites are when she teaches finger painting part-time and he’s an exotic lizard farmer, and they have a budget of £1.5 million. They should just call those certain episodes “Escape to the Country Using Our Parents’ Money.”

This really, really made me laugh out loud 🤣🤣🤣 exotic lizard farmer 🤣🤣 don’t forget they want to be rural, but want good links to the city, and be away from London, but also able to get to it in the blink of an eye

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MiddleAgedDread · 22/03/2026 21:15

Gawd no, can’t think of anything worse! I need street lights and facilities I can walk to.
love the countryside for day trips and holidays but that’s as long as I can escape for!

Pollyjokefullofpoo · 22/03/2026 21:17

Mammmmmmmy · 22/03/2026 17:34

I did!

I’m in Ireland and not the UK. We kept a small apartment in Dublin City, then bought a big house on land in the country.

Best of both worlds.

Here’s the view from the bottom of my garden.

I flew over Ireland recently and the green was so vivid even at 30,000 ft in the air! Beautiful

Janeb1965 · 22/03/2026 21:23

I moved from a very busy English (small) city to a reasonably large Scottish Island a few years ago. It was somewhere we had holiday'd at for a few years and really liked, we'd thought we might retire here but we moved for jobs and so worked here for a while before retiring.

Initially we did the classic "live in the Country" in a small cottage with land and amazing views. It was a dream come true but over a few years we decided we wanted to stay living in the island but move to a small settlement before we retired so we could walk to a shop / butchers / chemist / Dr / cafes and pubs. So we did that and its been a fantastic move for of - literally the best of both worlds

merryandbrightdelight · 22/03/2026 21:25

Tonissister · 22/03/2026 16:54

Ah but OP you are in the North East. Isn't Northumberland the most beautiful county and best kept secret in UK?

If I escaped to the country, it might be Alnwick, with Barter Books and the castle gardens. But I'd rather escape to Whitley Bay or Tynemouth which aren't the country but oh the beaches and the markets and the lovely people and the little cafes. I Google it as a dream from time to time.

This is very true - I’m 45 minutes from Whitley Bay (going there for lunch on Saturday actually to meet up with some friends I used to work with). There are some lovely hidden gems around here

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jiskoot · 22/03/2026 21:30

I escaped to the country (Devon) 8 years ago and we are now trying to escape back to civilisation, fed up with the endless rain and mud. Hopefully this year we'll be gone 🤞

Dappy777 · 22/03/2026 21:32

What countryside? I live in rural Essex. Most of the fields near me are being covered in hideous new housing estates. My village has been destroyed by developers.

padsi1975 · 22/03/2026 21:37

B0D · 22/03/2026 15:48

I have dreamed so long of escaping that now it’s probably too late as I’m not too far off retirement.
I rent an amazing council property in central London and struggle to find what or where I would swap to. Open to suggestions for market towns with access to country walks.

I wouldn't give up central London for love nor money, I aspire to live there.

realsavagelike · 22/03/2026 21:48

GoldMerchant · 22/03/2026 13:04

Like a PP, I always say that I Escaped From the Country. Grew up in the rural Midlands. You wouldn't drag me back there. My village was a lot more This Country than Escape to the Country, though.

I do like watching Escape to the Country, though, and seeing the absolute unrealistic expectations of rural life people have.

Literally lived in 'This Country' area. Would rather gouge out my eyes with a rusty fork than ever live there again. City all the way.

Pixiedust49 · 22/03/2026 21:52

Amazing how different we all are thank goodness! I grew up rurally and couldn’t wait to get to city life. Moved to London for uni but a few years in was sick of it and missing those big skies and open spaces. Moved back to the countryside 10 years later and no going back for me.

delectabletea · 22/03/2026 22:01

We escaped to the countryside and found it very isolating and harder to make friends. Fewer people around and people seemed way less chatty than in the city. Was that because we were outsiders? How do people manage to get enough social relationships going in rural places?

Fancycrab · 22/03/2026 22:07

I live in a tiny village, fairly rural, although about a 10 min drive away from a small town and 20 min from a very large town. I need to rely on my car for everything, the nearest shop is a 10 min drive and I can’t get any kind of takeaway. I moved from a big city. I absolutely love it, the peace & quiet, feeling cut off from the bustle of life, being surrounded by nature. However I’m also a massive homebody and not into going out for dinner/to gigs/pubs etc. anymore. so it suits me fine, I can see how people who do like these things would struggle though

Littlethatchedcottage · 22/03/2026 22:11

realsavagelike · 22/03/2026 21:48

Literally lived in 'This Country' area. Would rather gouge out my eyes with a rusty fork than ever live there again. City all the way.

I rented a cottage in Northleach where This Country was filmed, I could quite happily live there permanently but my ideal is Chipping Campden, I love the Cotswolds, one man’s meat as they say.

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 22/03/2026 22:21

I moved from the suburbs to a cottage on a farm. There were only four houses on my postcode. It was bliss. No noise except for the chugging of the combine at harvest time. Fields of gently waving wheat in every direction. Real darkness so you could see all the stars. The trade-off was driving a six mile round trip for a pint of milk and twenty miles for a full supermarket shop but it was worth it. I now live on the edge of a market town and not sure I’d want to be in an isolated house now I live alone.

TheeNotoriousPIG · 22/03/2026 23:06

I grew up in a fairly rural village that has since been stuffed to the gills with new housing estates, and then escaped to somewhere much more rural!

I love where I live. On finding out that I live here, a lot of people go wide-eyed and say, "I have driven past/been there once. How can you LIVE there? I didn't see any houses, and there's no phone or internet signal there!" OK, so phone reception isn't brilliant, but the internet is usually reasonable, as long as you are with BT, because nothing else works.

It is pure farmland around here. While we don't have pavements or street lights, we do have a spectacular show of stars every night of the year! It's quiet, occasionally smells of muck-spreading, and it's safe enough to leave your house unlocked. In any case, if you did get burgled, the neighbours would have spotted an unfamiliar vehicle and gone to investigate chat immediately, as everything gets noticed. You'd have to try very hard to keep a secret here! Summer highlights include the local sheep shearing competition, the vintage tractor run, or helping to move cattle to higher pasture. In winter, it's the Christmas Tractor Run, sledging, or attempting to ski down your hill of choice. If you want a pint of milk, milkshake or ice cream, there is a choice of dairy farms to choose from. You can also go foraging for sloes, gooseberries, raspberries, blackberries, rosehips, apples and wild garlic. If you want anything else, then it requires a drive of several miles to the nearest shop.

The nearest town is good for supermarkets, agricultural merchants and independent shops, but you have to venture into the nearest small city for anything as adventurous and mainstream as B&Q. Annual power-cuts are a three-day event, so we are well-stocked with camping equipment, winter wardrobes and open fires!

I will not be trading it in for a town or city at any point.

IWouldBeATerribleMayor · 23/03/2026 07:39

Tonissister · 22/03/2026 16:54

Ah but OP you are in the North East. Isn't Northumberland the most beautiful county and best kept secret in UK?

If I escaped to the country, it might be Alnwick, with Barter Books and the castle gardens. But I'd rather escape to Whitley Bay or Tynemouth which aren't the country but oh the beaches and the markets and the lovely people and the little cafes. I Google it as a dream from time to time.

Northumberland is my most favourite place in the UK. DH had family there and we spent every easter for 15 years there. I think it is just unspeakably beautiful.

IWouldBeATerribleMayor · 23/03/2026 07:43

Bluegreenbird · 22/03/2026 17:28

Following with interest as I’m susceptible to a country fantasy. I think I’m too used to convenience though so I’m looking for a magical place that is surrounded by green but walkable to shops and everything I need!

Will be able to move in two years so looking in earnest now at the edge of large towns. I always open Rightmove in Maps and look at anything on the edge with green space and rivers - street view generally shows they’re on a main road overlooking a field of sprouts though. Not the leafy idyll I’m after.

I used to say to DH that i wanted to live on a croft in the Outer Hebrides. But it had to be within walking distance of a pub and have wifi.

Then i got a yen to live on the Fair Isles. Until I read an article in Country Living where they interviewed someone who was living there and apparently there were about 34 people there. I shoved the article at DG and said 'We have more people attending our church each Sunday.... and I don't like most of them' so my dream faded.

JulietteNichols · 23/03/2026 07:46

I moved from Manchester to deepest Sussex. I can't imagine living in a town now.

We're in little pocket of low crime, very few incidents of anti social behavior, it's very lovely.

I'm close to a small town with an excellent secondary school, independent cinema, small high street and 2 supermarkets.

The main benefit though after being brought up in Manchester is the weather, so warm and it doesn't rain all the time.

QuirkyHorse · 23/03/2026 07:49

Yes, escaped to the Pennines and built a lifestyle business.
10 years in, best thing we did.
Kids love it, the peace and quiet with no neighbours is bliss. Only wish we had done it years earlier - the crash of 2008 put paid to our first attempt.

mbonfield · 23/03/2026 08:02

We watch Escape to the Country and some of the episodes are brilliant success stories.
We escaped nearly 20 years ago form the hustle and bustle of the midlands and the reality is somewhat different from taking holidays. The South West of England was our chosen place after years of planning. We lasted nearly 10years before it came too much.
The locals, the one's who had been there for generations were not friendly, we took there children's houses and priced them out of the area. That is what the locals stated at PCM's !
People like us who moved in the last 10 years or so tended to group together at social events.
Local workmen, when available, would criticise the new bee's but happily take their money. Other workmen were reluctant to work in our village due to the very poor mobile signal. The reason being they could not answer calls all day!
Too far distant for local hospitals, many ill had to be taken via helicopter.
We moved away for a variety of reasons but the main one so as to be close to family.
The strange thing about the place we escaped from is the very high turnover of properties in a small area, I wonder why? Some properties have changed hands twice since we left.
Our advice to anyone contemplating such a move would be rent in the area for 6 moths and get a true feel for the place to save an expensive mistake

ScoobyDoesnt · 23/03/2026 08:03

I ‘escaped’ from a market town drowning in new buildings with no infrastructure to just over an hour away in a small village in the Cotswolds; this was 6 months ago.

Whilst my village has no facilities other than a fabulous pub, I’m only 5 mins drive / 30 mins walk from one of the prettiest villages in the Cotswolds (in my biased opinion) where there’s a small supermarket and the doctors and only less than 10 mins drive to the nearest main town with big supermarkets, in town/ out of town retail etc.

I have fields in front and fields behind and lots of fantastic dog walks around me. Knew no one here but have met some lovely new friends, am volunteering and just feel so much happier. I still pinch myself that I actually live here when I drive home past all the pretty cottages and stunning views.

FancyCatSlave · 23/03/2026 08:05

Yes. I live in a thatched cottage in a picture perfect rural village. It’s amazing.

Alas I have to sell (divorce) but staying in the area - just in an ugly ordinary house.

IWouldBeATerribleMayor · 23/03/2026 08:20

mbonfield · 23/03/2026 08:02

We watch Escape to the Country and some of the episodes are brilliant success stories.
We escaped nearly 20 years ago form the hustle and bustle of the midlands and the reality is somewhat different from taking holidays. The South West of England was our chosen place after years of planning. We lasted nearly 10years before it came too much.
The locals, the one's who had been there for generations were not friendly, we took there children's houses and priced them out of the area. That is what the locals stated at PCM's !
People like us who moved in the last 10 years or so tended to group together at social events.
Local workmen, when available, would criticise the new bee's but happily take their money. Other workmen were reluctant to work in our village due to the very poor mobile signal. The reason being they could not answer calls all day!
Too far distant for local hospitals, many ill had to be taken via helicopter.
We moved away for a variety of reasons but the main one so as to be close to family.
The strange thing about the place we escaped from is the very high turnover of properties in a small area, I wonder why? Some properties have changed hands twice since we left.
Our advice to anyone contemplating such a move would be rent in the area for 6 moths and get a true feel for the place to save an expensive mistake

Your suggestion about renting for a while is excellent.

My parents ended up retiring to the second home they had for 20 years and it worked very well, as they had already a network.

We are planning to return to Australia in 2028 - to be near my parents- and we think we will rent for a bit first.