Twins that dress the same as adults

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There's two women I know, around ,ate 40s early 50s, twins, and dres the same, even have same haircut and style etc

I find them very sweet really, like they are list in there own world kinda thing

But i often wonder why are you dressing the same, I can't ask this yo them in real life as I wouldn't want to make them self conscious or anything but wonder why they do that

When I was in primary school my best friends were identical twins. I didn’t think they were at all alike. I actually liked one much more than the other (one was too bossy!) but they came as a package. It was disappointing but I had to put up with it. We didn’t have uniform but they always wore identical dresses in different colours, quite a feat.

I was at school with identical twins and they were not dressed identically. They might have the same outfit but not in the same colour or shade.

I used to be friends with identical twins and as I got to know them better I could easily tell them apart. It got to the point that I no longer thought of them as identical. They did tend to dress alike, same style and hairstyles etc but as they got older they seemed to become their own people more. One became a doctor and the other is very successful in the fashion industry.

This has just reminded me of discussions between fans of Antonia Forest's Kingscote stories which feature a pair of identical twins. Their brother once remarks that one of them always hitches at her socks and the other one puts her hands behind her back.

They were very different personalities; I doubt they'd have been able to keep a deception up for long among people who knew them. Didn't Lois Sanger twig at the netball match?

Where one twin is left handed, that's an immediate giveaway if they need to write something.

Apparently the girl twins in my class at primary school were identical, but I never noticed! I was genuinely puzzled when my mum said, "Now, was that Julie or Samantha we just saw?"

Like these women? If you look them up on youtube, they are next level. 1 will vacuum and the other needs to pretend to vacuum- just so they are doing identical things! They also share a fiancé!
https://www.nine.com.au/entertainment/latest/extreme-sisters-identical-twins-anna-and-lucy-decinque-explain-how-met-fiance-ben/e52b4a23-fddd-4f9d-b36c-81ceeb986ee5

Haha friends' mums are hopeless at that kind of thing though aren't they. My sister and I are six years apart and neighbours and friends' parents still got us mixed up once we reached similar heights. She even has curlier hair than me!

Now my dc1 is at primary school and I'm the same. I nearly said happy birthday to the birthday girl's sister at a party

@Kingdomofsleep , my parents used to get us mixed up.
Neighbours would ask which one I was.
I've seen my sister in shops where it's actually been my reflection I saw.

I went on a short break and there were identical twins on the trip. Women who were about 60ish. They both had the exact same hairstyle and ( I’m presuming) dyed their hair the same colour. They were the same height, build, everything. The strange thing was that they wore identical outfits. I don’t just mean both wore black trousers and a navy jumper, but that it was the exact same ones. They had on the exact same outfits every day.
As it was so noticeable, I saw them at breakfast and they ate and drink exactly the same things, it was a buffet with a vast choice.
I also knew 2 adult twins who also wore the same clothes and styled and dyed their hair exactly the same. They also worked together in their own business.

Yeah haha my DM can't tell whose voice it is on the phone. There have been times I've called her and started chatting and she's been non committal with her answers and then I'm like... you know this is Kingdom right?! And she goes er... yeah I was nearly sure

Mine are a girl and a boy so I'm pretty sure I won't have this problem. Surely!

Dh and I like to play the game "dc1 or dc2" where we find baby photos of them at similar ages. We only get it right 90% of the time.

Do twins' parents do this?? Say, looking at an old photo from a wedding or something and think, was that Fred there or George?

I think this stems from what parents do in terms of treating them as individuals. When I was young, identical twins were always dressed the same and seemed very dependent on each other. People used the phrase “Twinnies” and seemed to think they were one person. I think this led to some problems in adult life because they seemed over reliant on each other. It was too easy to treat them as a single entity and they had to do everything together - less effort for parents? It does seem to be that parents promote it as a different relationship to other siblings and this continues as adults.

My friend didn’t dress hers the same, they went to different schools and were encouraged to be individuals. However they ended up in the same sports teams, went to the same university and now live 100m from each other. Not wholly dependent on each other as they have partners and families but they found a way to be geographically close. I think it’s nature over nurture!

I know a young adult set of identical twins. I was always very concerned about the fact they were brought up as a pair rather than 2 people. Their parents would only let them go to a club if both
of them went. They could never understand it if one
twin was invited on a play date and not the other. They have been ‘encouraged’ to work together. I feel like they have no independence and are now so interdependent that it is unlikely they will ever develop any independence. They don’t have friends.

Kids could always tell my two apart, teachers and other parents really struggled. At primary school for the first few years one wore navy accessories and one wore red (school colours were red, navy and grey). It got slightly easier as they aged as one mostly lost their curls and the other didn’t (as teens one embraced curls and the other lives for a good hair straightening).

I never dressed mine the same but they often chose to wear the same thing in different colours once they were picking their clothes. I was often dressed matching my cousin as we got hand-me-downs from her older twin sisters and I hated it.

Mine are in their late twenties now and they have a rule of agreeing outfits before any events sad they’ve either turned up or been shopping for two birthday parties and two weddings and chosen the same outfit.

@dizzydizzydizzy It’s frequently seen as a sleight if both twins are not invited. I’ve seen that too. Definitely seen the club aspect as well: they go as a pair and not individuals. Parents see the twins as friends for each other and, I agree, this can lead to isolation. I am sure this is not always the case, but it seems more likely with twins.

The other sad fact is that there’s a higher death rate in multiple birth pregnancies and health issues after birth. This can also lead to problems in parenting.

Yes, and I know another set of young adult identical twins who were brought up as 2 separate individuals. They are now at different universities in different parts of the country and are doing totally different courses. They have always had a lot of friends in common but also separate friends. They have very different hobbies - one is mainly into sports and tbe other likes tbe arts. They are very close and spend as much time together as they can but are also very independent. I honestly think they have the best of both worlds.

I think parents do aim for that in many cases but twins do seem to want to be together. More than siblings I think. Wide friendships do matter.

If anyone can be arsed,Google 'Chaplin twins of york' (I dont have a clue how to link)

Frieda and Greta lived down the road to where I grew up and they where almost one person

Their mother (its reported with no mention of their father) treated them as one person-things like if they where buying baked beans,they refused to buy them if there was only one tin,a social worker gave them a bar of soap each and they got upset as they where two different colours and they where given 4 buttons each,each set being different so they swapped two each so they would be the same

There was a rumour that they may have been autistic

They where dressed identically all their lives

I used to see them walking around the area and they where always together-it went beyond just dressing the same-they lived in their own bubble as one person

Sadly,one died and her sister was very lost without her,before passing away herself

I heard they where going to make a movie out of their story

My own brothers are identical twins (I could always tell them apart but adults couldnt)

They are very different people (who fall out 90% of the time)

They are brothers who happen to be twins and are certainly not friends

My DH went on a uni open day millions of years ago and met our friend R, they hung out together for the day and swapped (postal ) addresses and kept in touch.
he went to a different uni and met her twin and is now friends with both.
I randomly met twin 1 in my home town (where the first uni is) and became friends.
i started dating DH and visited him at his uni and met twin 2!
we lived with twinn1 for a while, she got the train to London to fly to Europe and realized she’d forgotten her passport. Twin 2 lived in London so legged it over to Heathrow and twin 1 went on holiday on twin 2s passport lol 😂

Oh, the twin using other twin’s passport would be an interesting beginning for a thriller…

@Waxwinged , using someone else's ID is a common occurrence.

@Twoshoesnewshoes , the passport needed to match the plane ticket.

That can be a tricky one to navigate as a parent.

Nobody batted an eyelid when my DS1 and DD1 went through a period of being joined at the hip because of mutual sport interests. They went to the same clubs two nights a week and took part in the same activity on a Saturday. It was all “how lovely they are so close”.

Then when a new club opened in the village of something DD1 and DD2 both absolutely loved so both joined suddenly I was “stifling their personalities” and “not encouraging independence”. Yet nobody had an answer if I asked (which I only did on one occasion to a very rude fellow parent) which one I should have banned from the club or should I have prevented both of them from doing so?

The one thing that is 100% certain in twin parenting is that there is always someone who insists you’re doing it wrong 😂

I think it's bonkers really but If that's what they like to do then that's entirely their choice

I have identical twins. They look the same, but different. I can't even tell you how, they just do! I have called them the wrong name before when I've only quickly glanced at them. But then they've also been called by their brothers name as well.

They had to turn off face recognition on their phones as they could open each other's and send rude messages. 😂

When they were at primary school they were in the same class for most of it, so would wear different coloured polo shirts so their teacher could tell them apart. Much to my disappointment they never tried to trick their teachers.

They did both study the same A Levels, and the same course at uni, but different places.

The only time I dressed them the same was uniforms. Although they did wear the same suits for a wedding recently, as they, and their brothers, were part of the wedding party, so all dressed identically.

I think they'd be horrified if they wore the same thing. They don't seem to have any twin telepathy, so it's not likely. 😂

As I child I was friends with identical twins and was always confused why adults couldn’t tell them apart. Even dressed identically, they still looked different to me, even from the back! I have childhood photos of us all and I can still tell the difference and my parents still can’t 🤭