Mother’s Day Plans?

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Just really odd to put the title box at the bottom!!
What’s everyone up to tomorrow? I know it can be very difficult for some folks. DD17 finds it tough as she’s adopted. Made a big effort as a kid but nothing for the last few years 😢I’m also sad this year as DM has dementia with Lewi bodies so a lot of the time, she’s not properly aware of what’s going on 💔I’ve bought her a card & am trying to find her favourite flowers (astromeria or at least I think that’s how you spell it!) DD & I might go to the donkey sanctuary, although it’s a fair drive & likely to be very crowded & very cold! I have unusual butchers pies for tea with hogs pudding & dauphinoise potatoes in - not sure DH will like them!

Both my mother and mother-in-law have died, so obviously we're not doing anything with either of them, but we used to get them cards and usually visit one of them on Mother's Day.

Neither of my daughters usually do much beyond sending a card, which usually arrives after mother's day, except last year the one that lives furthest away sent me a pot plant as well.... and this year we have been invited to the one that lives only 15 minutes from us for a meal in the evening, which was most unexpected and very happily accepted. Apart from attending my grandchildren's birthday teas we haven't been invited to eat with her for several years, and not for several years before that!

So - regardless of whether or not it is a fabulous meal (which I am sure it will be) - or a total disaster (which I am not expecting) it will be the best Mother's Day for a very long time.

I’ll get coffee in bed (though I’ll probably get up for that because we are currently sleeping on mattresses due to building works, coffee on a mattress on the floor is not the same) and something for breakfast.

My dc are still little ish (preteen/early teens) so will have cards and presents they are excited about. We have a favourite picnic lunch of mine planned and will go for a walk and wild swim. Everyone gets to look on patiently while I swim. It’s part of the deal.

Then Dh is making us steak and prawns with chips and a sticky toffee pudding.

We aren’t hugely close to our mums. Dh has a polite relationship with MIL and I am NC with mine, so I agree, it can be a tricky day. I try to fill it with all my favourite foods and a simple day out. I think the Donkey Sanctuary is a lovely idea. I think the restaurant will be busy (if it’s the one near us, I hear it has a very good Sunday roast), but otherwise, quieter than in the summer. Hopefully will be a nice day for it.

Nothing, both my DD’s are overseas (one living one working), seeing my dm the following week and mil died 2 years ago. Perhaps dh will cook me dinner (wishful thinking)

Not a lot. Church as normal and will probably get a bunch of daffs there. Not sure if DH has invited PIL for lunch or not.

My daughter has invited me and her great aunt, who is like a second mum, for afternoon tea. My son probably won't acknowledge it but that's ok too. He messages me most days. It's the first Mothers Day without my mum, so that's another milestone

No plans. DD is at university and messaged me to look out for an Amazon delivery today, so I know she hasn't forgotten.

Both DH's and my mum are dead.

Will go and see DM in the morning and then DS17 is taking me out for lunch, DS20 is away at uni

I planned a day with dm, she is quite difficult but after a lot of fuss she has now said she does not want the go out which has lifted a huge weight off my shoulders. So ds19 and I will go for a walk and a pint and have an easy supper. I am hoping ds25 will ring!

My own mum is gone - one daughter lives a fair distance away so she dropped in with roses and chocolates on her day off this week. It was nice to see her. Youngest is 16 and bought us a takeaway last night as a treat - she’s only just started earning her own money and seemed pleased with herself lol. I’m not sure about my older two. One will be working over the weekend though.

I'm making a roast, which I'm happy to do. I'd much rather have dinner at home than go out. And I've told the dc's (both older teenagers) I just want to spend time with them, not bothered about gifts, I know they both love me 🙂

MIL passed before I met DH so difficult day for him. And my DM is a foster carer, she currently has a 15 year old who's own mother has blocked her and has no contact with her. They will be joining us. So another reason to keep it low key. We will have a lovely meal (hopefully!) and play some board games. Im very happy with that.

Dh will bring me coffee in bed though tbf this is something he does every morning. He'd usually bring me a bacon sandwich too but I've given up bread for Lent 😭
I'll phone Mum at some point (we live some distance away).
Dc (teen/young adults) will maybe have got/made me a card. We're going to the pub for a ploughman's at lunchtime and hoping fervently the rest of the world won't be doing the same (you can't book). Dh will cook dinner (again usual). We'll probably play cards or Catan afterwards.

We’re going out for a meal tonight & being taken out for Sunday roast tomorrow, so lots of eating & drinking planned. I certainly won’t be cooking!!

My Mum died 5 years ago & DD is working so I’ll prob go for a walk with the dog & potter about. I’ve just dropped some flowers & chocs to DD & we’ll poss go to a garden centre on Monday. My son in law will likely take the kids over to see his mum

This will be my third without my mum and second without my mil, I've found it quite sad the last couple of years.

My kids have booked to take me for breakfast which is lovely, then I'm going to see my nana, my mums mum and will take her some flowers. Other than that just going to have a chilled day I think.

DH has been wrapping some little gifts with the DC this afternoon. They usually give me some little gifts and a card each, and I’m spoiled because I usually get something from our dog too!

Church in the morning as usual. They have forecast rain tomorrow where we are so I will probably just spend the day relaxing and eating all of my favourite foods, if it’s miraculously sunny we will go out.

DD 26 is taking out me to lunch. My DM passed away in 2015, her grave is more than 100 miles away from me so I won't be able to travel up to lay flowers but may buy some in her memory

Working 7.45am-5pm.

DD will pop around sometime in the evening. I was planning on having my Mum tonight, but something came up that we're both going to. DH usually cooks on a Sunday if I've been working, but for some reason if I have my Mum, it gets left to me. My Mum isn't easy, and to be honest I've no desire to pick her up after work, then start cooking, while she talks at me non stop and getting twitchy as her tea will be a couple of hours later than usual. I said to her on the phone last night, that I'd take her out in the week to a garden centre/similar, but I don't think she was listening.

My son sent me a Cornish cream tea by post and my daughter visited last week with some flowers, and left me with presents to open tomorrow. I remember going to Sunday school and being given a posy of flowers for mum, and the gifts from my children when they were small, home made cards, a pot of daffodils, sweets etc. Treasured memories!

Mine will be sad I think. DM died in April last year. DC will not bother- they are from first marriage. Prefer rich exH and his wife. Step children in their 40s and don’t even think of me as family. Married to their dad for 13years. So hope to spend it with my dogs in the garden having a tidy up. I’ll cook something nice for me and DH as it’s our wedding anniversary on Monday.

Not sure why mothers day should be tough for someone who is adopted does that say the adoption process is not completely worked through as yet? Surely being adopted os private information to your daughter only?

I have no children but DM is coming over. I’m going to make her favourite meal and she’s staying the night so she can have a few drinks. MIL is away but DH has organised a card and flowers at her house for when she gets back.

It’s tough because you have lost your birth mother through the adoption process. At least that’s my experience as someone who is adopted, has a loving relationship with my adoptive mother but feels the primal loss anyway. For me it’s never gone away despite oodles of therapy.

DP is running a half marathon tomorrow so up early and out to cheer him on. DM will come round for evening meal. Think I will receive gifts from our 3DC. Not a huge fuss but hopefully they might do the dishes after tea.

DD is in the trenches of her final dissertation at uni so not coming home but has sent a card and tasked her dad (XH 😂) with dropping some flowers round tomorrow!

Tomorrow afternoon I'll see my mum, have bought her a little present and made a cake (ok, bought one that I'm going to tart up a bit because I'm not up for baking this weekend).

I took myself out pottery painting this morning, bought a few foodie treats from M&S and have spent the afternoon languishing on the sofa with my book.

DH is back from his week of skiing later tonight, so I'll mainly be enjoying not being the only adult in the house (DS(12) is a pretty straight forward kid, but still...).

I'll get my own coffee as I'm always awake a good hour before DS and DH.

We going for a walk then to lunch at an Indian street food cafe that I love. I know I've been bought my favourite chocolates. DS went out this morning to buy something.

I'll probably watch a film whilst DH and DS visit MIL.