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Should my daughter's therapist steer sessions towards school and friendship issues?

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BlueCurtainBlueWall · 13/03/2026 23:05

DD is Inattentive ADHD and admits her brain is always on and spinning from thought to thought. All very normal. Problem is shes having a tough time in school, best friend ghosted her and best friend and others won't talk to her. Working with school but also found a neurodiverse aware psychotherapist to support her and maybe get her another perspective besides mine.
Problem is that in the sessions DD has had with therapist they aren't talking about the friend issue but do talk about random things like yoghurt for breakfast. Therapist knows the problems at school and that DD is struggling. Shouldn't therapist steer it back to the issue at some point. Im confused but also worried about DD.
Anyone else understand what I'm saying.

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DaisyChain505 · 14/03/2026 13:30

I would expect bookings to be done through you as you’re the one getting her there. If you’re not comfortable with the therapist making bookings directly with your daughter just mention it with the reason stated above.

Arran2024 · 14/03/2026 14:03

My daughter's therapist made all arrangements via me but then again I was taking her there and picking her up. Could you at least get copied in?

The therapist we used explained that some yp don't like talking so he could do art sessions, put together music tapes, do sand tray work, build a model, go for a walk with them instead.

user64788643122 · 14/03/2026 20:24

BlueCurtainBlueWall · 14/03/2026 10:24

Thank you all for all your replies. @DaisyChain505 yes trusting the process is key.
I was having a wobble as its all in her face at the moment and is not her usual smiley self. The friendship formed very easily but she has gone from close friends to nothing in a few months and wouldn't be a kid who has confidence to slot in with other fruendship groups. Glad I asked thanks all.

One question about therapist is she asked DD for her mobile number and messages her directly. For example about moving their session next week. As DD is 14 that direct communication doesn't seem appropriate. If nothing else DD won't know all the plans for a week so has to ask me anyway.
Parenting neurodiverse teen girls is tough!

Just for context, from the age of 14, your dd has to give permission for you to speak to her GP. That’s NHS policy. She can go without you, get medication you don’t know about etc. It’s totally appropriate for her to make arrangements directly with her therapist.

BlueCurtainBlueWall · 14/03/2026 23:30

@Arran2024 @BigOldBlobsy @Boughy @DaisyChain505 thank you all. We went out today as a treat and appreciate all the replies. Will keep going with weekly sessions and see how it goes. If nothing else DD gets to talk to another adult about whatever she wants. School situation is more difficult but will keep talking to DD and see what school can do. The ring leader is very popular and smiley girl and Im not sure school believes what's going on.

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