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When children with SEND, who have violent outbursts, become adults

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wobblychristmastree · 13/03/2026 18:15

Saw an article online about teachers being injured by children/young people with SEND in schools. My own child is in a (mainstream) class with a pupil who has violent outbursts, is supported by a 1:1 but my child has been injured, as have others. Clearly it’s a failure of the school, although I understand it is difficult to keep 1:1s for them due to have difficult the work is. But it got me thinking, this can’t go on indefinitely. Is the hope that they develop the skills to cope as adults? What becomes of the these when they become adults?

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BertieBotts · 14/03/2026 00:33

I agree, I was just responding to OP's ideas about teaching and whether this should be something that schools ought to do.

It's more therapy than education, but one reason specialist schools can be more suited to pupils with violent behaviour is (as people have pointed out) because the environment is adapted to be less stressful. Not all of that would be possible in MS schools because a lot of it tends to be related to simply having massively fewer number of pupils. But given large numbers of children needing support in MS, it might be worth looking at whether any environmental changes would be possible/beneficial and provide an improvement overall, and/or whether there are environmental or cultural factors in MS schools which have increased over the last few decades which might be contributing to children needing support - I know many cite the increased pressure of the curriculum for example.

And yes not all causes of violence can be "cured" by needs being met - but some can.

Lalgarh · 14/03/2026 01:26

I have an aunt who used to teach in a special needs school. She'd get thrown around the room by the pupils.

On that article about violent children, there was a feature on this last year in R4. The parents were all loving and absolutely bore the brunt of their children's behaviour. They did note that their kids were able to regulate and not lash out at certain "outside" people.

Edit to add
https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/p0l26rmn

So at some level there was an awareness of consequences of violence potentially being bad for them. Are there some people that cases cited above also have that with?

I'm not very au fait with the acronyms being used here.

In assuming MS isn't multiple sclerosis but mainstream?

I tried googling MMA but the only option that comes up is Mixed Martial Arts. Sorry my ignorance

hcee19 · 14/03/2026 02:03

I am so very sorry to read you are not getting support from no one, it's absolutely disgusting. You must be worn out. You've probably already looked into this but is there not a day centre your son could attend? Apologies if that last sentence comes across as being patronising, far from it...
You must be extremely frustrated, one thing l can say for certain is that you will be doing a fantastic job, l know you will love him, more than he could ever know, l just hope someone is looking after you, as the saying goes, "Who cares for the carer". I wish you only the best...💐

Inthenameoflove · 14/03/2026 07:30

Icecreamandcoffee · 13/03/2026 18:54

It is so hard. I once worked in an amazing special school which specialised in ASD. There was so much work done with pupils on recognising triggers, how to cope with triggers, going out and about where triggers were (other people/ noise/ lighting) and practicing strategies. Many students who had been at the school since year 4, by year 10 or 11 were quite good at recognising their triggers and using their strategies or remove themselves or seek help to move away from their triggers. Every staff member at that school was fully trained and experienced in supporting young people with ASD.

My nephew's attend a similar school and have attended since they were 7 (they are now 14 and 15). They still have meltdowns and still struggle from time to time (usually unexpected change or build up to change in routine or if their request to escape is missed/ ignored/ denied) but they are much much better at recognising and communicating that they are struggling so the adults around them can help. They are able to advocate for themselves as they have got older and will say things like "it's too noisy/ busy/ hot/ for me now, can I go outside" or "I don't like the food/ noise/ expectations around Christmas/ birthday celebrations". Meltdowns have gone from multiple daily occurrences to around 1 or 2 times every couple of months depending on what's going on.

Sadly the same cannot be said for mainstream. Many 1:1s and even daily teaching and support staff do not have adequate training or knowledge to support a young person with SEN, many are literally just hired to be a body to meet the ratio. There is no space and the adults don't know how to help students recognise and manage triggers. Mainstream doesn't have the curriculum space to work intensively on practicing encountering triggers and using strategies and it's very much on the 1:1 to manage this, by which the 1:1 is usually fire fighting and trying to get them to participate in lessons and as much of the timetable as possible.

This!
The government seems to focus only on the academic aspect of SEN but for autistic children at least half the curriculum is emotional regulation and sensory strategies. In a specialist school staff are all consistently helping children to develop these skills. In mainstream you often get a 1:1 who has had next to no training or half a day and then ignored. Really there is no comparison.
As a society everyone will suffer if children don’t get the appropriate specialist education they need. It makes me furious and terrified that the government thinks more children should be in mainstream. I can’t think of any parents of SEN children, teachers or parents of children without SEN who think this is a good idea.

Fearfulsaints · 14/03/2026 08:10

Supersimkin7 · 13/03/2026 23:21

I read 1 in 3 prisoners has ASD. (Once you’ve added the junkies about half those in prison are ND.)

Care in the Community backfired. We shut the asylums and opened more prisons.

The very violent ASD guy I know has a flat with 24/7 male carers. He still managed to attack his DM so he’s on 2:1 for life. He’s very fond of his Jack Russell.

I think part of the problem is that we all think ASD can be cured & needs met - good luck with that.

And that there’s a creeping idea that the needs of anyone with SEND matter more than the needs of NT types, which is daft and sometimes dangerous.

Im not sure thats correct. They did a big study. They thought around 9% met the criteria for ASD, with 3% having an actual diagnosis. They think 25% for ADHD and another 9% learning disability. The half that are neurodiverse lumps a lot of conditions together and for context of you add all those conditions together in non prison population you hit 20-30% also.

Clearly this conditions are more prevelant on prison population and a significant factor abd im not pretending they arent. But a bit of context is needed to 50% of the prison population in neurodiverse.

TheCurious0range · 14/03/2026 08:14

wobblychristmastree · 13/03/2026 18:25

I think if the SEND is not recognised then prison is likely

It's also likely if SEND is likely. I work in criminal justice and a huge number of those in the system have neurodiversity, mental health needs or personality disorders

TheCurious0range · 14/03/2026 08:16

Fearfulsaints · 14/03/2026 08:10

Im not sure thats correct. They did a big study. They thought around 9% met the criteria for ASD, with 3% having an actual diagnosis. They think 25% for ADHD and another 9% learning disability. The half that are neurodiverse lumps a lot of conditions together and for context of you add all those conditions together in non prison population you hit 20-30% also.

Clearly this conditions are more prevelant on prison population and a significant factor abd im not pretending they arent. But a bit of context is needed to 50% of the prison population in neurodiverse.

There are also lots undiagnosed who refuse to engage with any kind of diagnostic process , but who display typical symptoms and psychology teams state are likely neurodiverse

tutugogo · 14/03/2026 08:21

They end up as adults with very high needs too. There’s a man who comes into the shop I volunteer in who has 2:1 support, there’s another man I see out and about who is 3:1 in the community, a carer either side holding onto him and a third holding a phone (he only goes to the lake not the shops as far as I can tell). Some will end up in secure accommodation as it’s not safe for them to be out ever, others will be heavily drugged but some do grow up and it reduces a lot, got to have hope. My dd was pretty violent towards me (autism) but is a fully functioning independent adult, those hormones in the teen years were not kind to her.

yellowgarden · 14/03/2026 08:28

My son was extremely violent as a child. He is highly intelligent and articulate so the behaviour was treated as naughty because he ‘should know better’ but in reality it was severe autistic overwhelm in MS school and life and no skills to deal with it. He was physically violent to pupils, staff and objects. He was excluded at 7.

luckily for us, he was given a place at an ASD specialist school (despite his high academic ability because it stands for nothing if you can’t access learning) and he is leaving there this year with hopefully 8 GCSEs and onto college. It taught him all about himself, his needs, how to manage them and how to look after himself and others. He hasn’t been violent in years and barely has meltdowns. He knows what his life needs to look like to manage - quiet, less people, small / close circle of friends and family, decompression, capitalising on special interest and his amazing skills. He’s brilliant and funny and kind and just lovely. I’m so glad he got the right education and I’m sickened that so many people don’t in MS. The staff are highly educated in autism and that’s what kids need. Understanding and support not struggle and punishment.

x2boys · 14/03/2026 08:45

wobblychristmastree · 13/03/2026 18:29

is it likely that the risk of violence will continue into adulthood?

and why is it thought that having these children, who clearly need more flexibility and expertise, in a mainstream setting is favourable to being in a specialist setting? The parent I know declined an offer for a specialist school. I can’t understand it.

Well its not a one size fits all saying a child has SEN doesn't really explain anything as its a very broad term
My son is severely autistic with severe learning disabilities and is in year 11 at a special school for children with severe and profound learning disabilities
He's non verbal and working at preschool level ,whilst his school is great and meets his needs it wouldn't obviously meet tge needs of academically able children with SEN
There are specialist, s settings for these children put they cost ££££, usually and the LA are reluctant to pay .

IAxolotlQuestions · 14/03/2026 08:48

wobblychristmastree · 13/03/2026 18:25

I think if the SEND is not recognised then prison is likely

Even if the SEND is recognised prison is likely. Our prisons are full of people with known SEND.

Cruiser123 · 14/03/2026 09:06

BertieBotts · 13/03/2026 23:54

The problem is that consequences and discipline don't teach understanding of the impact of your actions on others. NT children don't learn this from consequences and discipline either. They learn it from natural development of empathy and ability to see things from another person's perspective, as well as their own experiences and the experiences from others which they learn about through being told or reading books or listening to stories in other ways e.g. through film/TV, along with the cognitive skill in being able to model scenarios and apply this first or second hand experience to the probable outcome of the action they are considering.

NT children do not stop being violent after toddlerhood solely because we have given them consequences and discipline. They stop being violent after toddlerhood largely because they have developed better self-control (in particular the ability to stop and think things through before acting) and because they have developed very easy, almost automatic access to much better ways of communicating and handling conflict, (such as talking), as well as the understanding discussed before and also because they pick up on social norms, modelling and context which tells them that violence is not acceptable in almost all contexts. (Part of this is consequences and discipline, but it is likely to be a very small part. Children learn MUCH more from social modelling and observing social interaction than they do from consequences).

ND children don't always pick up on social rules and norms automatically, and they may be slower to develop the other skills depending on their specific difficulties. However, many children with SEND needs who are violent do feel remorseful and regretful about their actions, because they are not necessarily being violent for selfish reasons, sometimes it is that they are losing control and having a stress response or losing access to all communication aside from the most basic which is violence.

ND children often find environments and expectations which are normal or easy for other children extremely difficult to cope with, which makes it harder for them to use the skills they have developed. On top of learning skills which are much harder for them to gain, they also have to learn to navigate a world which is not designed for them and manage their own triggers within those environments. This is often easier for adults, who have much more control over their environment. For example, as an adult you probably have jobs you would never ever apply for, and many people make that kind of decision based on the environment, and this is a completely normal thing to do. For example, I personally would never apply for a job which had me outside all day every day. I prefer to be inside most of the time. I would also find it very difficult to work in a noisy environment. Someone else might say they couldn't stand sitting still at a desk, and would prefer something where they can be more active. Someone else might say they could never work night shifts. We all have different things we find hard or especially dislike, and as an adult we get to avoid or minimise many of these.

Doing reflective work and learning their triggers would be excellent things to work on, but IME schools are not really equipped to work on this kind of thing and arguably it is not what they are really there for either. And even if children do find their triggers, if they are environmental they often have little power to change them and schools don't seem interested in (or may not have the freedom to) adapting to children in this way.

Such a great post

Theseventhmagpie · 14/03/2026 09:44

PolyVagalNerve · 13/03/2026 18:46

This post is utter rubbish
lack of capacity due to dementia or learning difficulties warranting no criminal action being taken is not relevant

the Majority of Sen will have capacity, which is very different to emotional dysregulation and all the other reasons that lead to aggressive behaviors !!

Octavia’s post is not absolute nonsense. If an adult commits an offence they will be subject to the criminal justice system and part of that will indeed investigate capacity if that is raised as a defence or it’s clearly an issue from the outset. Professionals will then provide a report in relation to capacity for the court to consider.
If the offender is found not to have capacity then a secure hospital or other secure accommodation is absolutely possible for serious offences.

Lougle · 14/03/2026 09:45

I understand the discourse around SEN funding but I just wish that people could see the impact in the long term of poorly targeted support and unmet needs. DD1 was pegged as a child who would go on to an 'independent living' college and it was expected that she would be at least semi-independent - so perhaps living in a group with carers who came in to help out with tasks and checking that all is well.

One decision by the LA to put her in a Moderate Learning Disability secondary school (which was essentially mainstream-lite) rather than an LD school (which would still have had OT, SALT, sensory rooms, total communication environment, etc.) has catastrophically altered her course.

What followed was a failing placement at secondary school, that was only acknowledged to be failing her once she had been admitted to hospital with an eating disorder, followed by 3 failed placements at colleges (again, SEN placements but not specialist enough).

She now has frequent psychiatry appointments, weekly psychologist appointments, learning disability nurse appointments, she's had to have reassessments by Educational Psychology, SALT, OT. She is having social care put in place at home...she's costing a lot. If they'd just met her needs at secondary school she wouldn't be in the state she's in now.

DD1 is going to need support for the rest of her life. If she ever moves out of home, they've already said she'd have to have her own flat/house with 24/7 care because she can't cope with a group environment and can't be left alone.

Bigcooklittlecook2026 · 14/03/2026 10:36

@BertieBotts thank you for your insightful posts. This is the crux of my autistic 5 year olds issues, the inability to understand the inner world of others and to absorb social context. He has hurt other children out of misplaced affection and sensory seeking, he does want to engage but has extremely limited social understanding. It is extremely difficult. I don't think of him as 'violent' (though I accept other parents may consider him so) but rather as not always safe around other children - a more nuanced way of describing his challenges. His funding was recently increased at school and with more adult supervision incidents have stopped, though the teachers don't let their guard down.

He is not profoundly learning disabled but is very autistic. Like another PP I have to have faith in the person I believe he can become. I am hopeful with cognitive development and lots of adult reinforment of social rules he will realise rough behaviour is not acceptable. Stories of men in prison for killing their mums or in psychiatric units horrify me.

ChasingMoreSleep · 14/03/2026 11:09

Excellent post @BertieBotts.

It's more therapy than education

In England, it would fall under special educational provision.

Lougle · 14/03/2026 11:11

Bigcooklittlecook2026 · 14/03/2026 10:36

@BertieBotts thank you for your insightful posts. This is the crux of my autistic 5 year olds issues, the inability to understand the inner world of others and to absorb social context. He has hurt other children out of misplaced affection and sensory seeking, he does want to engage but has extremely limited social understanding. It is extremely difficult. I don't think of him as 'violent' (though I accept other parents may consider him so) but rather as not always safe around other children - a more nuanced way of describing his challenges. His funding was recently increased at school and with more adult supervision incidents have stopped, though the teachers don't let their guard down.

He is not profoundly learning disabled but is very autistic. Like another PP I have to have faith in the person I believe he can become. I am hopeful with cognitive development and lots of adult reinforment of social rules he will realise rough behaviour is not acceptable. Stories of men in prison for killing their mums or in psychiatric units horrify me.

You have a long way to adulthood. Be reassured that if he does have a learning disability (DD1 seemed, relatively, quite able in early primary but the gap widened as she got older) the LD services are actually quite well resourced and he will be looked after.

Brightbluestone · 14/03/2026 13:03

youalright · 13/03/2026 18:53

They would be treat like anyone else

I’m surprised at that. How’s it different then, to someone who is found not guilty by reason of insanity (because say they murdered someone during a psychotic episode)? I know that person would still get a sentence, but in a mental institution rather than a prison. A mental institution is perhaps not the right setting for a severely autistic person as it’s not a mental illness, but if both committed the crime during a time where they didn’t have ‘capacity’ surely prison wouldn’t be the right place for the autistic person..

x2boys · 14/03/2026 13:12

Brightbluestone · 14/03/2026 13:03

I’m surprised at that. How’s it different then, to someone who is found not guilty by reason of insanity (because say they murdered someone during a psychotic episode)? I know that person would still get a sentence, but in a mental institution rather than a prison. A mental institution is perhaps not the right setting for a severely autistic person as it’s not a mental illness, but if both committed the crime during a time where they didn’t have ‘capacity’ surely prison wouldn’t be the right place for the autistic person..

It would depend in their capacity to understand their actions autism is a huge spectrum if my son attacked somone because of his autism he absolutely wouldnt be treated the same as everyone else as he lacks the capacity to understand what's hes done ,hes severely autistic with severe learning disabilities, non verbal ,challenging behsviour etc
There is no way he would be found fir to face a trial obviously there woukd have to be a major review and things put in place so it couldn't happen again
But on the other hand there could be someone with a diagnosis of autism who has full capacity to understand their actions and if they attacked somone
They may well face the same treatment as everyone else.

youalright · 14/03/2026 16:28

Brightbluestone · 14/03/2026 13:03

I’m surprised at that. How’s it different then, to someone who is found not guilty by reason of insanity (because say they murdered someone during a psychotic episode)? I know that person would still get a sentence, but in a mental institution rather than a prison. A mental institution is perhaps not the right setting for a severely autistic person as it’s not a mental illness, but if both committed the crime during a time where they didn’t have ‘capacity’ surely prison wouldn’t be the right place for the autistic person..

Because someone in psychosis lacks capacity the majority of people with ND don't obviously their may be a few but they are unlikely to be out on their own commiting crimes

fouroclockrock · 14/03/2026 19:18

Im wondering if the op still thinks its ‘clearly the fault of the school’ now or might she have realised that it’s actually the fault of the system?
Generally speaking, children with additional needs are supported in mainstream infant and primary schools by someone’s mum with no qualifications.

Anotherdisposableusername · 15/03/2026 09:14

Kendodd · 13/03/2026 20:53

Well you say lack of funding, but SEN are bankrupting councils up and down the country. Some kids in my county cost more than 500k a year to look after. Absolutely huge amounts of money are being spent. Just look at the taxi bill alone. I know we could easily spend double what we do, but just how much is enough?

A large part of the cost is the failure to provide sufficient special schools, so private equity have moved in, with large profit-making chains, often miles from the child's home so taxis are needed (and before that sounds like a perk, imagine putting your incredibly vulnerable child in a car with a completely strange man for an hour every morning and afternoon). School transport isn't just a SEND right - any child whose nearest possible suitable school is more than 3 miles away gets transported. It's just that the most vulnerable kids in the community are sent long distances, often out of county, due to lack of spaces.

State specialists can be between £10,000 and £30,000 a year. £10,000 is less than an EHCP child costs in mainstream (because to get an EHCP, the provision must cost more than the baseline, which is around £5,000 to £8,000 per pupil, plus £6,000 from the SEND additional budget). And specialists aren't a blob, like SEN bases are suggested to be. Their intake is targeted - so, is the child autistic with an IQ between 15th and 50th centile? If so, a local Outstanding state specialist offers an excellent and accessible tailored education, with standard offer academically so those kids can take GCSEs, BTECs, and learn well and effectively. Intake between 5th and 25th, or with significant PDA traits meaning the learning should be play-based and creative? Another fantastic local state specialist works with that intake. IQ between 1st and 10th? Again, a school offering sensory spaces, gentle phonics etc offers them a targeted and tailored offer, also fantastic school. Challenging behaviour due to trauma or deprivation leading to extreme aggression (think, excluded from 3 mainstreams) and there is a therapeutic, highly structured specialist.

What we lack are schools that are "mainstream plus", as on planes with premium economy. Some autistic kids can't cope with lots of people, noise, smell, stimulation and so mainstream schools are terrifying places and they will never be able to avoid significant harm. Their minds are different, so they will never be able to access an education not set up for them. Dyspraxia is almost normal amongst that cohort, so PE is inaccessible. But because they are academically able, nobody cares, despite the fact that almost all school refusal due to mental health is now recognised as in this group and PTSD from school for them almost normal. If their parents know what to do, they can force an EHCP and an education that doesn't break them, but all too often that happens only after they break down in mid-teens (completely stop being able to attend school, or self-harm, or develop eating disorders, or retreat to their rooms, or attack someone in school.... or some combination if that list, plus more). If those kids had schools that were built for them from the start, then all that could be avoided. Smaller classes, sensory audits to make the space accessible, teachers who were trained and properly understanding, PE that was designed with an OT and physio to work on the commonly absent skills, just a space designed for them... it would cost less than they cost in mainstream at the moment and the outcome for the state would be phenomenally better, as they would be able to grow up functional, contributing adults. I know that would work, because at the moment kids with EHCPs and this profile are often placed in independent mainstream as a sort of half-way house (or parents pay for it, in desperation). I know because I was once one of them, undiagnosed, and under the assisted places scheme went to a small independent school full of girls like me, before going to Cambridge.

Phillipson's reforms shove all SEN under one heading. So you'll get a base for all needs - anxious, clever 11 year old autistic girls will be shoved in a space with someone who is simply profoundly deaf, no other needs, who will be alongside angry, traumatised kids from horrific home circumstances, who will be alongside teenage boys whose autism is expressed in violence and the need for control. All actually need specialist schools, and if the state built them, it would save a fortune long-term because most of those kids, if properly supported and educated, could grow up to live independently and earn and pay tax. Instead, many will need social care, some will end up in prisons, and almost all will rely on benefits and the NHS to a heavy extent. How is that cost-effective?

We need to reduce reliance on private special schools and school transport, yes. But the intelligent way to do that is to build more special schools, tailored to various needs, and to allow kids to access them earlier - before devastating harm has been caused by inappropriate placement in mainstream (which is horrendous for teachers, and really harms the education of typically developing peers, too - if there are three very high needs kids in every state classroom, and no money for support for them, then who do people think the teachers will have to be focusing on?).

That is how you save money and deliver better. State specialists, and many more of them, that work for all the kids, so far fewer private schools are needed and way, way less insane reliance on transporting kids miles and miles, just to be able to access a school.

Instead, Phillipson is trumpeting a removal of the rights of disabled kids, in a way that will harm teachers and pupils in mainstreams at the same time. That 4 billion, split up amongst all the schools in the country, is just one TA per school. How's that going to make inclusion possible? And as for that 200 million for training.... it's across 4 years, and amounts to £50 per staff member. When you think that the Department for Education spend £360 million in 4 years on marketing and advertising alone, you get some sort of an idea of where the priorities actually are.

Anotherdisposableusername · 15/03/2026 09:22

Octavia64 · 13/03/2026 18:39

Prison is actually relatively unlikely because in order to go through the criminal justice system you need to have capacity - that is to understand the difference between right and wrong and to know what you did was wrong.

people are presumed to have it if an adult but on defence against prosecution can be that you did not have capacity for example because you have dementia or severe learning difficulties.

in adults with autism it is more likely that those who are violent have learning difficulties and often (but not alwats) a very low cognitive age. Some have cognitive ages of two or three.

these people don’t go through the criminal justice system, there’s no point they understand it about as well as your average two year old would. So it would usually be a defence of lack of capacity and then the person would be essentially told by the court to go into appropriate mental hospital/residential care with a legal order stopping them leaving.

Nope. I studied this (youth offending and the penal system) at university, almost 30 years ago. Even then, there was research that if you tested in YOIs, 75% of those kids met criteria to be assessed for ADHD and/or autism. That has been known for a very long time. Almost none were actually diagnosed.

We aren't seeing an explosion in prevalence of these conditions. We are seeing them be recognised and picked up much, much more. And the costs of supporting people, instead of seeing them as morally lacking, would hopefully save money down the track - because if people think SEND education is costly, try looking at the penal system sometime.

Not that Phillipson is seeing it that way, of course. This White Paper is horrific and removes almost all enforceable rights. She is testing LAs on whether they will get their SEND debts written off, and a large part of that test is a plan to slash special school places in favour of dumping high needs kids in mainstreams. No thought for the teachers or typically developing kids, let alone disabled ones.

And when people point this out, all she does is bleat that every child will be entitled to an ISP. Which is a piece of paper, because what she is removing is any right to provision written on that paper. It's like saying every employee is entitled to a contract, while removing the right to enforce that contract in any way, so if your boss decides not to pay you there's nothing you can do. The breathtakingly cynical dishonesty is just extraordinary.

warmpinkshawl · 15/03/2026 10:39

Tacohill · 13/03/2026 20:12

85% of male prisoners have SEN.

Which makes sense when you consider the it’s only been very recently that SEN has become more accepted in society.

There is also strong correlation between getting expelled from school and ending up in prison.
And you are vastly more likely to end up being excluded from school if you SEN.

The correlation between exclusion and prison has been turned into a causal link and education adjusted accordingly (no more exclusion). The correct cause would be unmet SEN needs. So if mainstream schools can’t cope with SEN demands then it’s not going to stop kids with SEN becoming adults in prison.

The other thing that strikes me as bizarre is those who cause serious harm as adults end up being excluded as adults (sent to prison). No one is crying out that men who can’t control their impulses and bash others should not be excluded from society.

But if a child causes serious harm to others in school, their young vulnerable victims have to coexist with their abuser long term because exclusion is now out of the question.

There’s something very wrong with this. I can’t imagine what a future society of children who have been terrorised and hurt will look like.

Lalgarh · 15/03/2026 11:20

No one is crying out that men who can’t control their impulses and bash others should not be excluded from society.

Say hello to the prison abolition movement