Are you closer to your siblings or your spouse/partner?

[MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack]

OK, so this isn't a TAAT, but it is inspired by something that someone said on another thread. I'm really interested in knowing your answer to the following question, please.

Definitely my DH and I was closer to him than my sibling within a few months of meeting really. We're definitely "soul mates" and have been for 39 years.

I've never "not got on" with my sister, but we're very different people, different interests and attitudes. We were very close when we were young and did everything with each other or our parents, but as we moved into adulthood, college, and workplace, we drifted apart. No dramas, no big arguments, etc., but we got our own friends, got different hobbies/sports etc. We could go weeks or even months without texting/speaking, not because we didn't want to, but because we had little in common.

Exactly the same with DH and his brother. They were likewise very close as children, but drifted apart once they got jobs, girlfriends, etc. He probably only speaks to his brother once a year, again, no disagreements/arguments, but again, just nothing in common.

I get on pretty well with my dsis, but it definitely isn't a best friend type relationship. My mum didn't have that with her sister either - she was much closer to her brother.

They must have a desperately bleak marriage.

I’m so so close to my sister and love the absolute bones of her. I love dh in quite a different way.
The love I have for each of them is overwhelming but in totally different ways.
It massively depends on your sibling relationships.

i do also have a brother who I definitely love but Dh is closer to him than I am 😂 what a quandary!

I am very close to my DB, we speak every day.

I think it’s an odd comparison, different type of relationship surely? Been with DP for 22 years, pretty much know him better than he knows himself.
im closer with my mum than my siblings. Sure we all have banter but my mum has sacrificed a lot for me and my siblings and she’s basically helped raise my dc. we are naturally just very close and always have been.

But the question wasn’t ’are you close to a sibling’, it was as ‘are you closer to a sibling than you are to your spouse’.

A lot of people are saying you can’t compare the two, which is a valid point; it is a different type of relationship. But I guess the question I’d ask is ‘If you were in a deadly situation with your partner/spouse and your sibling, and you could only save the life of one of them, which one would you choose?’

I love my siblings but I’d choose my partner over either of them every single time.

Definitely my DH! I love my DSis but we’re very different people. She’d think I’d lost the plot if I said that I was closer to her! 🤣

I’m low contact with my DB.

I have a twin so I am hugely close to them. I’m still closer to my partner though.

Close to dh, and to one sibling out of the 3.

I love my sister absolutely unconditionally whereas my love for my husband would be conditional in certain situations - cheating etc. I’d forgive my sister anything she’s literally my bestfriend and I could never have got this far in life without her. So it’s not about being closer or loving her more it’s just that she’s a physical part of me and he isn’t.

I think there is definitely something in this yes im closer to my partner but I don't love him unconditionally like I do family. If my partner murdered someone without good reason he would be out of my life if a sibling did they wouldn't.