If you met your child when you were a child would you think they were posh?

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I definitely would, but I thought anyone who didn’t have to share a room with a sibling was posh. If you lived in a detached house you were basically part of the royal family as far as I was concerned. DH said he would think they were a bit posh because they get to do after school clubs and extra curriculars and he never got that.

Second question: at their age, would you have been pals with them. DD6 asked me this morning if we would have played together at school, and I said yes of course we would have. But really our paths would never have crossed and if they did I would have thought she was a square because I was really naughty at her age. From 6-9 I was just a terror for no good reason. She definitely would have told the teacher on me (as she should). Also I can’t lie, I would discourage DD from playing with a kid who behaved how I did.

DS5 I probably would have played with because he likes cars and messy play and at that age I loved going in the water tray ect. DD2 is 11 months so not really at that stage yet.

Oh, and DD has a lovely Yorkshire accent and would have thought my accent was posh - I know this because she still enjoys teasing me about how I speak!

Yes in terms of house. Not in terms of accent. My kids don’t know how lucky they are.

I don’t think my kids are posh but apparently all their friends do.

what is ‘posh’?

What’s a ‘Glasgow uni accent’? My son goes there so I’m wondering what it is?! I’ll take no offence at your answer, I’m just intrigued!

My daughter lives in the north now, but grew up on the south coast. Went to local state schools, doesn't speak any differently to any of her peers.
However her accent is considered posh where she lives now.

On reflection, aren’t such threads just a chance to humble brag? I said earlier that I grew up in a big house with stables - but it came with the job. I also rode and went racing and lived a hunting shooting lifestyle and mixed with wealthier types - but it made none of us ‘posh’, it was just what went on in those parts.
I live a very similar lifestyle today albeit with zero horses. My children shot and fished from an early age. Nothing we do makes any of us posh - just fortunate in some things, but not in others.

God, not in my case. It’s just that I had such a poor childhood during a major recession, with my dad frequently unemployed, striking or dealing with a serious work injury that crushed both hands. My child’s very ordinary childhood would seem palatial in comparison.

I have a friend whose DH was a gamekeeper - their DD married the lord of the manor, so got "posh" !😁

I would not have thought she was posh. She would probably have called me posh as I have much less of an accent. We are also very different so would not have had loads in common. She is very much a girly girl into makeup and fashion. I was very much a tom boy, happier in nature. I would have been in awe of her though, she's so smart and confident and I would have loved to have been her friend. I was very shy and much less confident. She is very funny and friendly and kind so I think she would have taken me under her wing and brought me out of my shell. She would have been good for me.

Not until I was older was I able to realize how "posh" people were. Looking back I had a few friends better off and a few friends worse off than my family.. and honeslty, I don't think I had any clue at all as a kid. I never remember it even popping into my mind. I don't think it was until my teens that I could notice such things.

As for my son, I think I'd be more interested in that he lives half the way around the world from where I grew up... I'd say in some ways he is better off than I was, but in other ways maybe not - its hard to compare because the differences aren't really wealth related, but culture/societal because of the two vastly different countries.

It's the opposite way around in our house, I was much more financially privileged than my DC. I had a private education, and everything I asked for my parents purchased. Mine are state educated and I regularly have to say no due to financial constraints. Hopefully they'll grow up to be more worldly wise and able to budget. Unlike me they are not bullied in school.

I actually have found the thread interesting because I think what we are really seeing in society is a clumping in the middle in terms of class.

I don't necessarily mean money per se.

But if you look back to an old land-owning society, some of them still live a partly gentrified country estate existence (and many now don't), but the ones who do tend, more often than not, to be on the bones of their backside keeping things afloat. It isn't the days of full service staff in the basement by any means. Equally, social mobility has enabled lots of children to better themselves from their parents' positions. Lots of children in expensive independent schools have parents who pushed hard for them to be there, and didn't go themselves.

And I feel that is what this thread more or less shows: posters who feel they have moved towards a more middle class position from a wc background, and posters who remember privileges that don't come so easily for their children these days, who in turn live a more MC lifestyle than they did.

I think I’d have thought my dc were on about the same level of “poshness” as me. Although we lived in a house with a big garden and dc grew up in a house with a small garden, but they would have had what I would have considered unobtainable Londoner cool 😁.

I think I would have been friends with dd because, it occurred to me recently, that she’s very like my best friend as a child. Quite socially introverted, very affectionate and effortlessly good at academic success. Ds though, hmm, I think he would have thought me a bit too idealistic, immature and not so intelligent. But I often was friendly with interesting, intelligent boys.

This is a really good question.
I was regarded as the ‘posh’ kid on my council estate as I passed the 11 plus and went to a different secondary to nearly everyone else. I also had really nice clothes, bikes and did loads of clubs etc. Then when I was at my secondary school I did notice people were surprised (not in a good way about where I lived) and my friends lived in houses in nice areas but didn’t seem posh themselves. I has local friends and school friends which was good.
If I met my DC then I think I would think they were quite posh, posh and very nice I like to think plus obviously very handsome.