Would you accept this money?

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I've had a minor medical procedure on my foot, done privately because I was in a lot of pain. My Dad came to pick me up afterwards as I'm not to drive or walk for a few days.

I was having a bit of a winge about the cost and that the NHS wasn't able/willing to do it. Obviously it as a price I was willing to pay though.

So, the sum has just landed in my account, from my Dad. He can afford it easily, but so can I, I really wasn't asking for help, wouldn't have dreamt of it. Also, (I need to check) there's a possibility I might be able to claim some of it back through work insurance.

My parents would never in a million years have done that. He loves you and he wants to look after you. I would so much have loved a father who wanted that for me. Accept it with the love he has shown you.

Mine would do the same for me, and I would do the same for my kids. Accept it but maybe buy him a little gift to say thanks? That’s what I would do

I paid for a lipoma removal on my neck which the NHS said was cosmetic only. Turned out it wasn't a lipoma, but a tumour on my thyroid.

I also paid for the treatment.

Quite frankly for as long as i can afford it I/m not going to burden the NHS with any more of my 'care'.

OP- it's a lovely gesture your dad gave. I hope you feel much better soon.

Of course, my dad still randomly gives siblings and I money, even though if we're all.pretty comfortable

Accept it, maybe take wine or a cake round to say thanks, and remember the kindness when he is old and regularly needs your help.... Bless him, what a nice man.

Put yourself in his position, you'd help your own child out yeah? Then thats all he wants to do, help you (literally) get you back on your feet!
Say thanks, tell him you'll take him out for a slap up lunch when you're able?

I would do exactly this for my DD, who never asks for anything. It comes from love and care.

This💐

Yes absolutely accept. I'm just about to get DS 31 a dental crown. He certainly won't think twice about accepting.

Yes, I would accept it. And I’d hope that my children would accept it from me if I was able to give it to them.

Awww thats so sweet of course you accept it and buy him a small thankyou gift and card.

I wish my parents would gift me a dental implant! I broke my 2 front teeth when I was 7 messing about in the house. After years of crowns (I'm 60) I've had to get a false tooth on a plate (one crown is hanging on). Df has just paid over £1.5k on a root canal and crown for himself. I'm on universal credit and there's no way I could afford it.

You’re very lucky to have a dad who cares.

We've just moved house, the day we got the keys I was complaining to my dad that it was 400 in just filler and tape, both me and dh ignored him for days on end until mum realised she had our bank details and the cash was in straight away. Dad's a pensioner and mums part time, I hate to take money off them, it just feels wrong, but I suppose I'm still their baby, they're just looking after me.

Same with the garden, dhs mum died in his early 20s, big sis is very much a mum figure, sent us ££££ for the garden to be kid and pet safe.

Lovely gesture but maybe stop whinging as throwing money at you/the problem may not be sustainable long term

My dad was not a fool easily parted with his money. He was a smart man. Our wants, as adult offspring, could remain just that; ours.

Our needs, however, were a different matter.

One thing I would never do, was thank him by buying him a gift. That would have pissed him off, as a waste of his money.

A finer man I've yet to meet.

I’d happily give my dc the money and would be upset if they gave it back. Just thank him. He wants to do this for you!