Would you accept this money?

[Fast5]

I've had a minor medical procedure on my foot, done privately because I was in a lot of pain. My Dad came to pick me up afterwards as I'm not to drive or walk for a few days.

I was having a bit of a winge about the cost and that the NHS wasn't able/willing to do it. Obviously it as a price I was willing to pay though.

So, the sum has just landed in my account, from my Dad. He can afford it easily, but so can I, I really wasn't asking for help, wouldn't have dreamt of it. Also, (I need to check) there's a possibility I might be able to claim some of it back through work insurance.

Yes, it’s your Dad, he loves you and wants to help. If you know he can afford it then I would just say thank you and be grateful (not saying you’re not)

For what reason weren’t the nhs willing to do it?!

Accept it with grace and the kindness with which it was given, make it clear you did not expect it, and take him out for lunch when you’re able to.

How nice of your dad. Why wouldn't you accept?

I would happily do this for my DC.
Accept it with thanks.

My dad would do the same. He's absolutely wonderful.

Mine would have done the same!

How lovely of your Dad @Fast5, I would accept his lovely gesture.

If, however, the final bill is less than initially expected, you may like to return part of his generous gift.

Try and claim it through work insurance and if that's successful, pay him back. If not, use his money

Yes definitely accept imo... although if u can claim it back, offer to return the money.

I paid for my DDs knee op rather than wait until the NHS could do it, which looked like being never, not serious enough only gave out on her sometimes but when it happened she was in agony and it would mean a trip to A&E, and a constant worry when it would happen again. Well worth it, no problems since, touch wood.

Be grateful for a parent who likes you. Thank him then invite him to yours for a dinner. Once you are feeling better 💗

What a lovely dad 🧡

They may have done it eventually if I'd made enough fuss. The GP initially said it's not something "usually" done on the NHS. Then when I cried about the pain, said he'd refer me and see what they say. 3 weeks on I haven't heard anything so decided to just get it done. The surgeon who did it said it is done on the NHS but can be a postcode thing.

If it fixes things it's money well spent to avoid the wait, although I'm not feeling good about "queue jumping".

Accept with good grace. My DM and DD would have done the same. We’d happily pay too for our kids.

If I had the money and my dc required treatment I'd pay

It would be ungracious not to and refusal might upset your father who loves you and obviously wants to help you.

If you still feel uncomfortable about the money, I would give it all to The Cats Protection.

Those crooks at Thames Water are chasing me for non payment of part of my bill, so I am also accepting money - although I'll be loathed to hand it over to Thames Water so the CEO & Senior management can get their greedy bonuses and shareholders their dividends.

Yes of course you should accept it. I would ring him and say ‘thank you so much, I hope you don’t think I was hinting for you to cough up the other day!’

And then next time you see him, buy him a little gift, chocolate, fishing magazines, new garden shovel - whatever floats his boat.

And if you can claim it back, then great. But I would just keep quiet, it will only muddy the waters if you tell him.

What a lovely thing for your dad to do!

What a lovely thing for him to do. Say thanks and accept.

Im sure it’s made your dad feel happy to be able to help you out in this way. He might be upset if you give the money back

It’s up to your dad isn’t it

that being said waiting a mere 3 weeks to hear from the NHS is a bit 🙄

I just had to pay nearly 10k for surgery for my son. NHS is a bloody joke.

absolutely accept! How kind

and don’t feel bad about queue jumping, you are simply freeing up space for someone who can’t afford to pay.

if someone offered it me then i would be grateful for the assistance as for queue jumping.

well the public in general are a mix of personalities, and if the shoe was on their foot im sure many would que jump,