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At the end of my tether with weight!

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FrumpyFedUp · 06/03/2026 10:44

Not sure if this is the right topic to post this in but here goes:

I’m currently very overweight (5’3 and 13 stone).

For a little bit of background, as a teenager I had an eating disorder and was incredibly skinny. I think this now feeds into my issues around restricting food as I worry I will go too far back into my old mindset.

I work a highly competitive corporate job. I don’t want to say exactly what it is here in case it is outing. But I work very long days and pretty much sit behind a desk for most of it.

I truly cannot remember the last time I didn’t hate my body. When I was in the depths of an eating disorder I thought it was fat, now I am actually fat and feel just as bad.

I desperately want to lose weight but I’m really struggling.

I go to an exercise class one day per week - basically the only day I leave work at a sensible time. I can’t attend any more due to my job. I will say I love my job and I generally don’t mind the hours but it makes doing things like exercise hard to fit in.

As my job is so high pressure I find myself reaching for quick and easy snacks and food, this is where I have tried to make the most change. I’m trying to increase my intake of fruit/veg and cut down on easy but unhealthy snacks etc.

I get in from work very late, but I still have to be the one to make dinner. This means we often end up with something easy and quick rather than healthy. I’m trying to find some good recipes that are also quite quick! As well as persuading my husband to do some of the cooking.

My one vice I’m unwilling to give up is a Coke Zero at lunchtime! I find it curbs my craving for a sweet treat whilst still being low calorie etc.

I’m wondering if anyone is in a similar position? Or if anyone has any advice?

I just feel really stuck because it’s not as simple as ‘do more exercise’ type thing.

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FrumpyFedUp · 09/03/2026 20:26

Shrinkhole · 09/03/2026 19:50

If you don’t want to full on calorie count (and I get why you wouldn’t) you can go the route of adding some healthy things and that sort of pushes out the room for less healthy stuff.

eg I made a resolution to drink more water recently (stopped drinking alcohol too). Apparently a lot of times we think we are hungry we might actually be thirsty and I’ve found that to be true. I don’t really like just plain water and I never used to drink it I’d only have tea or coffee but I have started having it chilled and adding some lemon or lime slices or even some mint leaves and it makes it a lot nicer and feels like a treat and I often find I no longer want a snack after having my chilled water.

Thank you for your lovely comments!

That’s the route I have gone down. I was doing a weekly shop today and instead of adding biscuits etc I added yoghurt covered fruit. I feel like it’s a sweet treat pick me up for the afternoon but healthier than lots of chocolate etc

I’ve also got a water bottle that shows how much I’ve drunk, so I’m going to take this to work to keep track and drink more :)

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hopefulcandidate · 09/03/2026 20:48

The meal deals will be contributing significantly to you being unable to lose weight. If you genuinely enjoy them it may be worth keeping one day a week so you don’t feel deprived. Maybe instead of counting calories you could aim for half or a third of your plate at each meal to be fruit or veg to reduce the calories without counting. I agree with pp that you should try to focus on fibre and protein as this helps keep you feeling full and satisfied.

FrumpyFedUp · 09/03/2026 21:20

hopefulcandidate · 09/03/2026 20:48

The meal deals will be contributing significantly to you being unable to lose weight. If you genuinely enjoy them it may be worth keeping one day a week so you don’t feel deprived. Maybe instead of counting calories you could aim for half or a third of your plate at each meal to be fruit or veg to reduce the calories without counting. I agree with pp that you should try to focus on fibre and protein as this helps keep you feeling full and satisfied.

Thank you! I agree re meal deals, I’m now having a Thursday treat day where I buy lunch and other days trying to pack something!

even if I pack a sandwich and crisps at least a whole grain bread low fat ham sandwich and baked crisps is better than the super white bread filled w mayo etc etc thing from Tesco!

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