I don’t even have kids and find life hard

[FroggyFan]

I see so many threads where women with multiple children + full time job are struggling. Sometimes I have no idea how people even begin to cope.

I don’t have kids. I have a husband with chronic depression and a needy 17 year old cat. Husband needs huge amounts of support and listening and reassurance (on top of his talk therapist and psychiatrist). Gorgeous old cat follows me around the house and the minute I sit down climbs on me and wants to be under my neck.

I adore them both and wouldn’t change any of my choices - husband is a wonderful kind thoughtful funny man despite his MH issues. I’m told every day how loved and appreciated I am.

but JFC I’m 44, how the fuck are women dealing with kids on top of all this. I’ve got friends in similar situations with 2-3 kids. How do women do it. I can barely cope as it is with a 37hr a week job on top of it.

Im not looking for reassurance or solutions, mostly just musing after having a rare 2 glasses of wine. Most women must be absolutely incredible and have a huge amount of resilience.

God I hate posts like this. So smug. DH and I both have big, demanding jobs. I have to be in the office 3 days/week. I don't have holiday allowance to take all the holidays off and enjoy them with my children. So holidays are tough- juggling work demands, making sure they are looked after and having a proper break and some fun. Doesn't mean I dont adore them, but don't be so bloody judgy.

Sorry did I touch a nerve @Artesia

I think, as others have said:

1. The worry about children is all-encompassing, so you don't have time/mental capacity to worry endlessly about other things. I no longer really worry about work, my relationships with other people, or minor health issues.

2. Standards in other areas, for example, housework, have definitely slipped.

3. You just find the strength, because there is no alternative. I can't believe I used to complain about being busy, stressed or tired before I had children 🤣

💯 true

Not really. But you have proved my point re smugness...