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Dubai/UAE - where did you think you were?

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WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · 01/03/2026 19:29

I’ll preface this by saying I wish the best for anyone out there, working or holidaying. I hope you are and remain safe.

but do people go there with next to no concern for where in the world it’s located? Do they pay no attention to news or the general geopolitical situation, it’s hnot exactly a secret.

are we really that dense that most people don’t look past the bling, the weather, the tax perks, the bloody influencers?

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Carla786 · 02/03/2026 17:07

MauriceTheMussel · 02/03/2026 17:05

No, that’s actually not what I said.

My book is: you don’t get to go to a country and say “how offensive are these laws when they’re not like my own?”. Instead, if you don’t like it, don’t go there. Don’t be a tourist. You want to protest and lobby from outside the country? Absolutely go for it. But don’t go be their guest and slag your host.

OK. One can have deeper reasons to object to laws than just because 'they're not like my own', though.

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 17:10

Effic · 02/03/2026 17:07

Wikipedia is not a legitimate source of history research 🙄 it’s a bunch of stuff made up by other people and put on the internet

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Right, but you do accept that pre-Taliban Afghanistan was not a liberal democracy? Not in the post-1973 Daoud Khan period, anyway.

If you mean the 1964-1973 period, that would be accurate.

Jlom · 02/03/2026 17:10

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 14:17

There's a middle ground. It's not only about danger but about morality & democracy.

Most countries in the world are not democracies.

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 17:12

Jlom · 02/03/2026 17:10

Most countries in the world are not democracies.

Fine, but that still leaves plenty to visit which are. Off the top of my head, most of Europe, Australia and NZ, most of South America, US, Canada, Taiwan, Japan, South Korea, India, and quite a few others. In Africa there's Mauritius, Botswana, Namibia, Ghana, Senegal and South Africa.

MauriceTheMussel · 02/03/2026 17:14

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 17:07

OK. One can have deeper reasons to object to laws than just because 'they're not like my own', though.

Yeah, again, not what I said though, was it?

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 17:16

MauriceTheMussel · 02/03/2026 17:14

Yeah, again, not what I said though, was it?

Well, you did say :' you don’t get to go to a country and say “how offensive are these laws when they’re not like my own?”', implying that's the main reason people object.

SerendipityJane · 02/03/2026 17:20

Jlom · 02/03/2026 17:10

Most countries in the world are not democracies.

What is a "democracy" ?

MauriceTheMussel · 02/03/2026 17:28

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 17:16

Well, you did say :' you don’t get to go to a country and say “how offensive are these laws when they’re not like my own?”', implying that's the main reason people object.

Oooh, no. You inferred, I didn’t imply…but I feel you just need to get the last word no matter what, so I’ll let you reply to this and then we can go about our lives

BlackRowan · 02/03/2026 17:34

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 16:31

You're taking agency away from non-Westerners. UK & US policies have certainly had bad effects, but that doesn't mean they're tye only people reponsibls for Syria, Iraq, Afghanistan etc

In the case of Afghanistan, the Taliban restraints on women draw heavily on the pashtunwali tribal code. This is not due to West.

And pp mentioned India human rights abuses. Dalits and Muslims are not just abused in India due to West.

You're not helping other countries take responsibility if you just blame the West for everything.

Oh yeah? So what about overthrow of Mossadegh?

FloofBunny · 02/03/2026 17:37

I know about the underbelly of Dubai, but if you chose destinations on a moral stance, you'd never go anywhere! And travel broadens the mind, even if horrifying the mind is how it broadens. I don't know why it's suddenly fashionable to avoid Dubai when Brits are voracious travellers who go to places with underbellies ALL the time.

FloofBunny · 02/03/2026 17:40

Carla786 · 02/03/2026 17:12

Fine, but that still leaves plenty to visit which are. Off the top of my head, most of Europe, Australia and NZ, most of South America, US, Canada, Taiwan, Japan, South Korea, India, and quite a few others. In Africa there's Mauritius, Botswana, Namibia, Ghana, Senegal and South Africa.

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India! If you wouldn't go to Dubai because of your morals, surely you would not go to India! Have you heard how they treat women?!

FloofBunny · 02/03/2026 17:42

Miyagi99 · 02/03/2026 12:33

Of course stay at home parents in the UK pay tax!

How do they pay tax on a non-existent income???

ProudOliveHiker · 02/03/2026 17:44

SerendipityJane · 02/03/2026 17:20

What is a "democracy" ?

Indeed. I wonder at our own version of democracy these days, and certainly that of the US.

bafta16 · 02/03/2026 17:50

I think people have forgotten where Dubai actually is located. Anything for an easy, sunny life. No care for human rights or the language and culture.

bafta16 · 02/03/2026 17:51

FloofBunny · 02/03/2026 17:40

India! If you wouldn't go to Dubai because of your morals, surely you would not go to India! Have you heard how they treat women?!

India is a large and complex place. I don't know how " they" treat women, do you?

scottishgirl69 · 02/03/2026 17:51

FloofBunny · 02/03/2026 17:42

How do they pay tax on a non-existent income???

Some benefits are taxed. New style jsa and esa are as far as I am aware

bafta16 · 02/03/2026 17:54

AnotherHormonalWoman · 02/03/2026 16:39

Dubai was built very much in living memory on the stolen labour and deaths of slaves subject to horrific human rights abuses, the trampled human rights of many other people and a huge amount of ecocide. It reminds me of the capitol in The Hunger Games, built for hedonistic pleasure and fuck the costs to both humans and nature. It continues to be run on trafficked and enslaved labour. It's a fuck no from me.

How Dubai's Skyscrapers Are Built Upon Workers' Blood - Al-Estiklal Newspaper
The dark side of Dubai | The Independent | The Independent
The Real Human Cost Behind The Building And Maintenance Of Dubai
How Dubai's Skyscrapers Are Built Upon Workers' Blood - Al-Estiklal Newspaper
Modern slavery in Dubai: confronting realities in 2025
Dubai Expo 2020 offers conflicting figures on worker deaths | AP News

Vile and true. Really if you are so thick to go there, you deserve all you get.

FloofBunny · 02/03/2026 17:57

scottishgirl69 · 02/03/2026 14:54

I personally think that too many people don't know about how women are oppressed elsewhere in the world. Not just women - men as well.

Too many people don't care what's going on all over the world. They jump on a plane and want to go for a two week holiday - and that's fine. But when it's suggested that maybe people should not go these - people get incredibly defensive

They'll do mental gymnastics to try and justify why they holiday in places where locals live under an oppressive regime

I said it on another thread - I wouldn't go to Turkey because of their human rights records and the way the present Government have brought in new laws to justify rounding up street animals and killing them

Then you'll get someone saying - what about the way the UK treats animals (I'm aware of that and I do my best for rescues both here and abroad)

Sometimes you need to draw a line in the sand and go - I'm not going to holiday there and spend money there

And if people want to go to Dubai five times a year that's up to them. But let's not pretend that everything's rosy out there for women. It's not

There was a thread on here a couple of weeks ago where a woman and her husband were having a marriage breakdown and they were both from the UK and people were queuing up to tell her to get the hell out because if he went to police and made allegations she would be arrested

We can't have it all ways - we either care about oppression or we don't. We can't just spend our lives going - it's not too bad. Or other countries do it too. That's just trying to justify conditions where women have no or little freedom. And just because that's the way it is - doesn't mean it's right.

Not allowed to drive. Not allowed to work. Not allowed to be educated. While folk from the UK sit in a bikini and sip cocktails.

I get what you're saying, I really do, but has travel not long been worshipped as the greatest way to broaden the mind? There are so many places in the world that have serious underbellies, so if you choose places based on a judgement call about their cultures, you'll end up missing out on a whole lot of education. Isn't the point of travel precisely to experience first-hand places that have totally different regimes and ways and culture from your home? I think it means more to experience these things first-hand than to just sit in a comfy country half a world away and read about them in the newspapers. Plus you can help the locals by going, and tipping them well.

FloofBunny · 02/03/2026 17:58

bafta16 · 02/03/2026 17:51

India is a large and complex place. I don't know how " they" treat women, do you?

Omg, look it up. It's terrible.

38thparallel · 02/03/2026 18:03

Vile and true. Really if you are so thick to go there, you deserve all you get.

@bafta16 Would you go to Cuba?

ProudOliveHiker · 02/03/2026 18:10

FloofBunny · 02/03/2026 17:37

I know about the underbelly of Dubai, but if you chose destinations on a moral stance, you'd never go anywhere! And travel broadens the mind, even if horrifying the mind is how it broadens. I don't know why it's suddenly fashionable to avoid Dubai when Brits are voracious travellers who go to places with underbellies ALL the time.

It’s perfectly acceptable to choose not to visit somewhere because you don’t agree with some of their beliefs and laws. I choose not to visit the UAE because of their involvement in Sudan, as well as their slavery, attitude towards homosexuality and women. these reasons are fine for me not to travel to those countries. It’s okay not to want to go somewhere based on such things.

bafta16 · 02/03/2026 18:10

FloofBunny · 02/03/2026 17:58

Omg, look it up. It's terrible.

I don't need to look anything up, I have Indian friends. My AC have Indian colleagues and friends. It is a large and complex country and society.

nearlylovemyusername · 02/03/2026 18:11

Hilarious thread

I'm so righteous, so ethical, have such high morals. Anyone who doesn't share my values and makes different life choices deserve to be stuck under bombs, I have no sympathy for them.

Alex4646 · 02/03/2026 18:13

UAE is 37th (out of 140) in the order of world justice, although top of the list for EMEA countries. Alongside civil law, the area is also governed by Sharia law with:
"lower scores in areas such as fundamental rights and constraints on government powers, particularly regarding freedom of opinion and expression". Travelling here and other parts of the Middle East and Africa without knowledge and awareness is foolish. I have lived and worked all over, including in Iran itself (as a child during the revolution). I have stopped going to any of these places in recent years as well as avoiding Turkey for similar reasons. Bright lights and pretty jewels blind many people to the facts! Plus admittedly the climate is great.

ProudOliveHiker · 02/03/2026 18:19

nearlylovemyusername · 02/03/2026 18:11

Hilarious thread

I'm so righteous, so ethical, have such high morals. Anyone who doesn't share my values and makes different life choices deserve to be stuck under bombs, I have no sympathy for them.

No one deserve to be bombed. No innocent person should suffer. But people who are visit or move to countries like are inadvertently supporting the bombing, torture and murder of those in Sudan. And supporting slavery. And it’s okay to point that out. Clearly, not enough people know or care, so we should be discussing it.

It’s not hilarious in the slightest, none of this is. Not for the people in Sudan, in Iran, in Dubai, in Cyprus. No one should be suffering.

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